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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 2:50:53 PM   
MzMinx


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Status: offline 		no one said you would be the third wheel .... no one starts out as a hot wife .... or a cuckold really .. just like submission ... the depths and textures grow from building a relationship


But you can share how sexy and desirable you find it etc ... and that such sexual expression, is for you, an important way of building an intense intimate bond

Most people have activities which resonate more with them or have prefernces that lead them to a greater level of intensity. None of these are more right or more perfect than any thing else, they just suit you better and some other things just may suit someoen else. You say its the whole experience .. the shareing interesting things .... Its only interesting if it resonates with you and those involved. There is no single way to create such depths although there may only be one way for you.


for some its D/s ... for others its an equal sensual sexuality .... for you it sounds like you have a preference for being able to share with others .... that the extra energy brought by others. That haveing others involved allows you to participate in different ways and from diffremnt viewpoints. It allows you to experience and taste her sexual energy from multiple perspectives.
IF this is what you crave then that is what you need to look for. But it does not come fully developed as most levels of intimacy and trust and exploration grow from experience.

You live in New York .... there would be lots of swinger and such type scenes, where woman who enjoy very open sexual play are possable to meet. (indeed in my visits to New York , bdsm and swinger events where easy to find, but I did not expect to pick up a fully devoted slave in one meeting )
But it sounds like you need to deal with your fear of becoming attached to someoen who does not share your sexual needs first, and then you can open yourself up to meeting all sorts of woman and see which ones click.


< Message edited by MzMinx -- 11/21/2010 2:54:37 PM >

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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:16:51 PM   
wuzamarine


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Status: offline 		Some times I really wonder if it's actually all worth it.
My word, It would be so much easier to eliminate the bullshit and be able to just get to the point.
It's really a complete headache.
What you are saying is that I should change. You make complete sense but it still makes me feel like I have to be a chameleon on LSD to fit another into my life because of social hangups.
FML

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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:19:09 PM   
Iholdthestrings


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

I love both equally of what you list.
I'm just mad whacked and confused I guess.
I honestly though I was a dom for a while but when ever I started fantasizing about coming home to a woman in bed with a couple of guys, I figured a dom category kind of slipped through the cracks... and for that exact reason because everything else I enjoy is basically dom things.



Likes don't determine role, perspective does. Control does. Otherwise, we wouldn't have so many dominant bottoms, and service tops.

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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 5:21:42 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		What you are looking for is not my scene, but there are plenty of people out there who's scene it is, though usually the relationships often don't seem to last very long. Seriously, you seem to be chasing what you had instead of looking into the future and letting yourself find new things.

I' not saying it is likely, but it is possibly, that with another woman you don't want a guy there to share her with, you want to be with her and be all cuddly and loved up, and to hell with hot three-somes. Each relationship has another dynamic, instead of trying to recreate what was, enjoy what is, and maybe what can be.

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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 6:07:54 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine
Am I a dom, or a sub or a switch if I am a cuck. but not a normal cuck.

Let's consult the rule book....... Damn!! Where is my bdsm rule book when I really need it!?

~sweetsub~

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RE: Looking for classification.. - 11/21/2010 7:41:06 PM   
peppermint


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

You may be right. I may be 'unclassificationable'.
A category ALL my own. The Brad category!



Sorry to burst your bubble, however, there are millions of vanilla people who do kinky things to spice up their sex lives. 

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