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breaking Daddy's heart - 11/23/2010 9:24:06 PM

nightfury

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I was wondering if any of the subs that have a Daddy Dom have broken his heart...either purposely or not...and if you did break his heart would you expect him to keep you?

How would you try to not break his heart?

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/23/2010 9:39:18 PM

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My First question would be How did you break his heart, what has caused this to happen. once you know you can work on preventing it

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/23/2010 9:43:52 PM

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I am not the sub I am the Daddy that got his heart broken. Was wondering since I am new to this lifestyle but I have always known I was a Daddy type just didn't know what it was called if it is something that is "normal" for lack of a better term...I was told by my little girl and I quote "ask any dad girls always break their daddys hearts even though they dont mean to"..just curious about feedback

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/23/2010 9:49:55 PM

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Wow, if it is true that in the Daddy/girl dynamic it is typical for the girl to break her daddy's heart; That's fucked up.

Having your heart broken shouldn't be a typical occurence. Just seems kind of senseless and tragic in my mind.

I don't know that I've ever broken anyone's heart ever...except maybe my ex husbands but I'm not entirely certain he had one to damage.

Sorry to hear about your misfortune and hope things work out for you and your girl.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/23/2010 11:29:45 PM

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All I can say is that you must have gotten one of those selfish, bratty types of lg.... any lg worth her salt is constantly working to *please* her Daddy. I mean, a Daddy's generally more lenient than a Master or other types of Dom, but Your girl should be working to please you, seeking Your approval, not disregarding Your feelings. You reward her obedience and eagerness to please with your love and adoration in return. I would feel like the biggest failure on the face of the planet if I ever HURT my Daddy and IF He kept me around for whatever reason after that, I'd be doing everything I could to get back into His good graces. Not making some lame excuse about how "everyone does it." I'm kind of offended for all the lg's out there that she's trying to push that business off on You... long story short... don't let her push you around any more than you're willing to allow... You're the Dom for a reason.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 3:03:42 AM

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it would take longer than a lifetime to make it up. to see Him hurt ,agony for me for it means i have failed.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 3:54:11 AM

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Keeping her would be totally your discretion. It might depend on what happened and whether she cares about it and to what level.

If she couldn't give two shits about breaking your heart then forget about her. Otherwise, talk to her and communicate to her about how her actions made you feel, does she know that she broke your heart? Did she do it on purpose or did she simply dismiss your feelings altogether when she went out and did whatever it was that broke your heart?

Get to the bottom of what happened and then make your decision. If she's any kind of girl worth keeping she'll be devastated to know she hurt you and will do whatever corrective measures it takes to show that she does love and care for you the way that you seem to love and care for her.

Best of luck.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 4:25:02 AM

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Two things happened.

1. Your lg did something.
2. Your response was that it broke your heart.

Without knowing what she did, I'm at a loss. Either she did something horrible or your reaction was way excessive. I will say that her response to you was uncalled for.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 4:41:48 AM

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Thank you all for your responses I greatly appreciate them very much. What she did exactly DarkStephen is not so important but the fact that she did. I won't divulge my private life on here, but I thank you for your responses. I can say that I have shown my girl more love than I have ever shown towards anyone and have forgiven her and decided to keep after some of the most vile things done and said. I agree that her response was very uncalled for. She deserves her ass whipped wit a belt just for those words.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 5:03:25 AM

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My response is is your little girl loving and kind generally or does she often show moments of deliberate selfish and thoughtless behavior.
Think carefully on that.
Is she loving and kind in general or only when it benefits her.

Her response to you after she did the hurtful thing shows no empathy or remorse.
If she is very young I might accept that as part of the norm, but that doesn't make it right.

Maybe she thinks that little girls are supposed to be selfish and spoiled.
I don't know how long she has been yours, but if she believes that is acceptable, it seems she has either been missing some lessons (or you have been unknowingly reinforcing bad behaviors) or she has a distorted view of Daddy/lg relationships.

She is fortunate to have such a devoted Daddy.

I asked those questions because if a solution isn't found you are likey to become resentful very quickly.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 5:04:14 AM

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If she is your slave, think of it as a cost/value concept.

If the cost of keeping her has exceeded her value to you, then you may be better off without her and should seek someone whose value exceeds your cost of keeping them.

However, if her value still exceeds your cost in keeping her, then maybe its worth the effort to repair what happened.

I agree, specifics aren't necessary to proclaim because all that will do will have people judging what she did and your reaction etc. This isn't a question about what was done, its a question of the deed is done, the feelings and hurt are there and now what. You said your heart is broken. You asked if she should expect you to keep her. Yes and no. As i said, to me, slave is a concept of cost/value. I would hope that my value to you exceeds the cost you will pay for keeping me despite what i did. On the other hand, i would probably believe that what i did brought my value so low, you won't spend anymore on keeping me, training me, and mastering me.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 6:09:04 AM

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quote:

I won't divulge my private life on here

too late

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 7:11:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nightfury

I was told by my little girl and I quote "ask any dad girls always break their daddys hearts even though they dont mean to"..

So, rather than taking ownership of what she's done, she just blames it on the dynamic, shrugs it off and you accept it. It's the D/s equivilent of "But, Mom all the other kids are doing it." And because you've accepted it, it's going to keep happening.

Seriously, sit down and ask yourself if this is how you want to live your life.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 7:16:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nightfury
She deserves her ass whipped wit a belt just for those words.

I only whip my lady's ass with a belt when she's been good. If she broke my heart and verbally abused me, I would end the relationship.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 9:02:17 AM

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Thank you for all the comments so far I really appreciate it. OsideGirl..I have not accepted it and right now we are not together because of it. There is no behavior modification if the behavior is not modified.

Red..that is precisely what has happened...but I like giving an ass beating to make it glowing red and hot...lol

Angel. Thank you for your words and you are exactly right.

angelikaJ thank you for that insight very true as to what you have said. I can say that I don't think I have reinforced bad behavior...quite honestly just the opposite..I have let it know when I was disappointed but tried to be nurturing of her to do better and reinforce the times I have been pleased and thankfu

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/24/2010 9:07:31 AM

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So much to say,
One, Most likely at some point a lil girl will always break daddy's heart, unintentionally.
Two, We don't know what happened so it's hard to give our opinion.
Three, To be very honest, be it in the lifestyle or not, arguements are going to happen, someone will get hurt.. just the facts.

I have hurt Master many times, never intentionally, yet He still loves me (WHY???), because He knows that I would walk through fire for Him and never want to hurt Him. He can break my heart too, it happens. But love is unconditional, sometimes we have to remind ourselves of that, and sometimes it takes a long time to do so. While the BDSM and M/s and S/m is a lifestyle, even those who do not participate in the "lifestyles" still live in a lifestyle, ask anyone whose been together for 20-30-40-50 and more years, there was times where they hated each other, yet now (most of the time), they couldnt live without one another.
Just my two cents,
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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/25/2010 9:51:19 PM

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I have a Daddy, and I don't buy the idea that Daddies are supposed to get their hearts broken. That's really F'ed up. I always thought little girls were supposed to love and adore their Daddies, and want to do everything in their power to please Them and be obedient. If a Daddy is forever getting His heart broken by His little girl, I would wonder just how much she loves her Daddy....OR NOT....and if she is really just a selfish, unruly brat. After all, DD/lg is chosen, it's not just a random crap shoot like genetic father & daughter. But....that's just my opinion.

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edited to add: Of course unfortunate things will happen from time to time, and feelings will get hurt now and then, but I don't think it should be assumed and expected that that's the way it's supposed to be.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/26/2010 1:53:35 PM

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~fast reply~

While I agree with most of what's been written here... especially the "we don't know enough" and "no, it's not normally acceptable to break your lover's heart" lines... In the interests of balance, I'd like to also point out another truism... "You only hurt the ones you love." Nobody has ever hurt me the way Carol has. Nobody ever will. Nobody else could.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/26/2010 5:54:28 PM

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I agree with the others....hurting Daddy ON PURPOSE, I can't even see the logic of that. I would see this as something that should have came out in the beginning.

But, in the next breath, I wondered how you handled it, before you accepted it as a broken heart. I wonder how the long timers would have handled it. I would expect to be handled. I get the feeling this is the meat and potato's of your post.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/26/2010 11:44:58 PM

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As those sexy gals find other types of lovers they always leave daddy. Sometimes they come back, other times just move on.

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