CaringandReal
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ORIGINAL: brizzz
What do you masters want? I'm dead keen to be a slave but don't seem to get very far. In a former profile, all I got was fakes, wannabes, married vanilla men seeking a bit on the side, misogynistic abusers, promiscuous men who had sex addiction.
So I come back and do up another profile but now, not one reply showing real interest.
Please help.
Ok, I'll try.
What do masters want? Well those people you describe hearing from were not masters, obviously. Masters are few are far between and it takes some time to find them. They want someone who is sincere, who is willing to submit to their wills above all else and someone who, if she doesn't know how to submit, is willing to learn.
If you just want attention from all the usual guys who used to write you (the non-masters) just rewrite the profile to take out the stings, make it sugary sweet, take out the bitterness.
If you want a master and you are looking online, clean out the anger and bitterness from your own profile first, as described above. Replace it with more of what you can personally offer. I read your profile and all I see at the moment are vague hints that you are very sexually adverturous. Think of your competition: many submissives seeking masters are sexually adventurous, some more than you most likely. What do you offer, in addition, that is different? Be open and honest about your experiences and needs. I doubt your expressed need for $$ is really you, it sounds more like an angry response to the jerks to me.
It helps also, if you have it, to express an attitude that masters fine appealing. I can't tell you what that is. You have to find it in yourself.
Next, don't expect them to come to you. Most of what comes to you will be trash. That seems to be a law of personal-ad sites, at least those in which women get a disproportionate number of responses. Actively look for the profiles or writings of dominants that astound you, or at very least impress you, and then, if they are single and approachable, write them humbly and passionately about your interest in them or at least their ideas (it can be hard to know just from someone's writing whether their actual personality is compatible with yours--but their words will tell you if philosophically you both are on the same page).
Expect rejection and learn how not to take it so badly. Sometimes people aren't just interested in who you are, or, if interested, aren't able to take advantage of what you are, and that's natural--we all seek different things and find outselves in different situations--but you may be able to make a few interesting (and maybe worthwhile) friends in the process.
Finally, for pity's sake, remember that what you seek is rare and most of what is presented online is false coin. Don't let even 50 bad apples spoil your resolve to find the one that isn't rotton. Don't get discouraged. Expect the rotton apples and learn how to spot their signs before you take a bite from them. Don't get discouraged. And one more thing? Don't get discouraged. This process takes a lot of time, for some a lot longer than others. It has little to with your level of deservingness, either, it's more luck than anything else.
Ask again in public forums about matters like this if you need specific help, but do so under an unknown name so that the dramatists don't hang you up to dry and derail/spoil the thread for the rest of us.
Good luck!
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