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angelikaJ -> RE: Weight and Master/Dom control (11/30/2010 10:41:54 AM)
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anniezz338
A few thoughts to offer and not all of then directed at you.
My story on becoming overweight happened like this:
I once was once of those people who as a youth could eat anything and not gain an ounce.
I never excercised aside from the mandatory gym class.
I graduated in 1980 thin.
In college, it was pretty much the same.
In 1985 i had a severe knee injury that imobilized me for more than 6 months.
I was bored to tears and in boredom I ate.
I ate for the lonelies, I ate for boredom. When breakfast was done I wondered what was for lunch and that was at 10am. So i'd rustle up a little something.
After lunch I wondered about what i would have for a snack before dinner.
And because I wasn't moving at all, unlike my previous and longtime 'eat everything and never gain an ounce' I gained this time.
I lost my fast metabolism.
And it took me a long time to see the change...and so my eating habits didn't change.
I did go back to work at a fairly active job.
I still gained.
I lost and gained a few times and in 2004 I lost weight due to an undiagnosed medical condition (type II diabetes).
My weight stopped at 214lbs and had been stable until last year.
Last year I began losing it, very consistenly.
I have lost 50lbs so far.
It is easier than it probably could be to to a medication I am taking for migraines.
That doesnt make it without effort.
It doesn't make it easy.
It just makes it easier.
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ORIGINAL: anniezz338
I'm single and I'll own up that my first impression would not be positive meeting someone grossly overweight. Yes, it's shitty. I know first hand because it has been done to me. Should I automatically assume that he's that heavy for a good reason? No. Does it make me a bad person? No.
Point blank, when wannabe's and wankers are brought up, I think of some overweight men I have chatted to online. They can't get a date anywhere else so they present themselves as Masters/Doms. I may have little experience, it's true, but it comes out in their behavior when you start talking to them. I've been looking into this stuff for about a year now. I can start ticking off the names of who I would consider true Masters/Doms in CM....and I bet I would get alot of agreements. I can tell at least a general difference. And there is alot of them (no not all overweight).....lol.
I do not like talking badly about people....but that's the truth.
And when I was losing my weight, I was dealing with anxiety, stress, slow metabolism, perimenapause (don't even get me started on that...lol) and a torn muscle in my back, all considered legitimate medical issues. I still deal with them. They are on the excuse list.
So why do you have the double standard?
Annie,
Assuming that someone would be a wannabe or a fake based on their weight is faulty theory.
I have met some very nice very real guys here many of them were at least a little overweight.
My Master is in that category.
He appreciate efforts I make to alter baked goods for there to be less fat, sugar, and increase the healthfulness quotient.
He appreciates creativity.
How are you determining who is a fake?
Sometimes a fake is only someone you are incompatable with.
I met decent people within my first year of being here. They may not have been long term match material, but some of them are friendship worthy and I am glad I met them.
And then there is the joy in my Master finding me here and the discoveries that brings.
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