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mandmlv -> Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:09:21 PM)
Reading the postings on Hair Pulling has promted me to ask the opinion of anyone who cares to post to express their feelings on the act of a Dom or Domme taking their sub to have the sub's hair cut to suit the Dom. Personally I find it a very powerful act.

AquaticSub -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:17:51 PM)
~Fast Reply~ In general I find it... eh. Whatever. When applied to me... It's not something that would fulfill me in a relationship so it's not something I sought. The idea of him mucking about with my hair is both disturbing and laughable. It's disturbing because how and when I change my hair directly reflects my growth and change. When I needed to remake myself, I dyed it a crazy out of nature color. When I needed to shed my past, I cut nearly two feet from it. Seeing it's change in the mirror is an every-day reflection of the woman I am now. I need that outlet for self-expression. To mark my changes and the stages of my life and growth. And it's laughable because - and I'm sure Valyraen himself will not mind me saying this - his sense of fashion and style for women is... erm.... lacking sometimes, shall we say? [;)] I need only remind him of the "It's not a mumu, it's a dress... oh wait... it's a mumu" incident. For other people I'm certain it's a very powerful symbol of ownership. And for people who don't get a sense of relief and therapy through the changing expressions of their hair, I'm sure it could be quite fun and exciting. But it's certainly not for me.

LaTigresse -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:20:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mandmlv Reading the postings on Hair Pulling has promted me to ask the opinion of anyone who cares to post to express their feelings on the act of a Dom or Domme taking their sub to have the sub's hair cut to suit the Dom. Personally I find it a very powerful act. I don't see it as powerful. Then again, I have some pretty strong feelings about what I find attractive and what I don't. If a woman comes to me with a hairdo she was wearing in the 80's and blue eye shadow.......I guarantee, neither will last long.

AquaticSub -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:21:15 PM)
Phft.... you've never seen how I wear blue eyeshadow! [;)]

SailingBum -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:22:48 PM)
My girl will ask when she wants to change her hair style. "Not too short BadOne

LaTigresse -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:26:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub Phft.... you've never seen how I wear blue eyeshadow! [;)] I just KNEW someone would bust me on that!!! I was thinking of the bright, almost silvery icky 70-80's thing with the horrid black eyeliner, my very blonde, mid 40's, sister-in-law still does. It's very dated and I am very sure, not at all like your rocking blue.[:D] How was that for a mega back peddling attempt at recovery?

AquaticSub -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:28:34 PM)
It made me giggle while I fight with Google Voice so it works for me! [:D]

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 12:29:07 PM)
It seems silly to me. Why on earth would someone go mucking around with what I"ve done a great deal to keep and matain? I don't do much more then get trims, to keep it healty looking at the bottom. the guys I've been with like my long hair...

lovingpet -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 1:02:02 PM)
I don't know. For me, I want to have an appearance that makes my partner happy. If that means changing my hairstyle, then so be it. I would do the same for a vanilla partner though. I don't do it because it is an act of control on their part, but because I care about them and what they enjoy. A hair cut is a small thing. The value is in its meaning. lovingpet

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 1:25:30 PM)
There is always the possibility that We will change someone's hairstyle. We would be more inclined to do it as a way to address some egoic problem, although, getting to look a certain way simply because We like it is an option... IF We chose to address the situation at all. It's not something We consider to be high priority. Master Fire

yellowroses -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 1:59:18 PM)
I know that my husband perfers longer hair so I don't go and get it cut. I trim it myself about evey 4 months or so. Which just so happens that was this morning. He would be incredibly disappointed if I did cut it short. Who knows if I did that he may just punish me for the first time. LOL yellowroses

WolfyMontgomery -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 2:25:28 PM)
Fast reply I look at this sort of thing as both powerful and not, honestly. Powerful because it is indeed yet another thing that the Dom/Master can have control of over the sub/slave, and the knowledge that he has that power in any way always makes me feel all warm and fuzzy in more ways than one. The knowledge of that power being held over me is a powerful feeling. At the same time though it's not so powerful because I have little respect for my hair. Yes, it is part of me, yes, it's very pretty, but it's very pretty whether it's cut short or cut long, curled or straightened, dyed any color under the rainbow (though I think I would be sorta pissy if my hair was dyed hot pink, which is just an ugly color in my opinion unless paired with black), but at the same time I don't hold it to the same importance as other things. Before I met Master my hair changed constantly, from short to long to boyish cut to curly long locks to jaw length to whatever. Changed at a whim. The only difference now is that it's not my whims that govern my hair, but my Master's, and he has a much better sense of style than I do for hair lol - and I'm fortunate to have a Master who has the same taste in hair colors as my own (natural and dark, though I do sometimes miss not being able to put quite as much red as I used to). Plus, we both are driven nuts by my weird multicolored natural hair color - we like solid colors. So I know that I'll never have to suffer with my natural hair color. ;D So for me, it's both powerful and yet just another thing that I gave without a thought, because it wasn't a big deal for me.

littlewonder -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 2:51:32 PM)
Master doesn't go with me to get my hair cut and doesn't tell me what kind of cut he wants me to get but I know what he likes and I always ask him before I do anything with my hair. It's just common courtesy in a relationship imo. If he wanted to go with me or tell me what to get I don't have a single problem with it. I trust his judgment and we pretty much share the same tastes generally.

LanceHughes -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 3:21:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WolfyMontgomery I look at this sort of thing as both powerful and not, honestly. Powerful because it is indeed yet another thing that the Dom/Master can have control of over the sub/slave, and the knowledge that he has that power in any way always makes me feel all warm and fuzzy in more ways than one. The knowledge of that power being held over me is a powerful feeling. <snipped> This -----> [image]local://upfiles/15597/CF2EAA9BBE9A4AF0A8E15044EAD331C6.jpg[/image]

CaringandReal -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 3:22:26 PM)
Years ago, I had a close dominant friend with a headshaving fetish. He liked either bald heads or very very very short hair on submissive women. And he always wanted to be the one to cut/shave it all off. If they were freaked out by losing their hair, all the better. Most of my adult life I've had very long, very thick hair and he'd tease me about shaving it all off and how awful I'd feel without my mane. He saw it as taking away part of a submissive's power (one aspect of her allure) and also masculinizing her a little. It was a frightening but very erotic idea to me. Had we ever become more than friends I might be bald or buzz cut now.

LanceHughes -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 3:26:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal Years ago, I had a close dominant friend with a headshaving fetish. He liked either bald heads or very very very short hair on submissive women. And he always wanted to be the one to cut/shave it all off. If they were freaked out by losing their hair, all the better. Most of my adult life I've had very long, very thick hair and he'd tease me about shaving it all off and how awful I'd feel without my mane. He saw it as taking away part of a submissive's power (one aspect of her allure) and also masculinizing her a little. It was a frightening but very erotic idea to me. Had we ever become more than friends I might be bald or buzz cut now. I had one boy that I cut a Mohawk into. Result: We both got hardons of the "day-um" variety. Mine? Hardest dick I had in a long time. (Not the pic above. Wish it were. Then I'd have the body that I've always dreamed of.)

leadership527 -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 5:19:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mandmlv Reading the postings on Hair Pulling has promted me to ask the opinion of anyone who cares to post to express their feelings on the act of a Dom or Domme taking their sub to have the sub's hair cut to suit the Dom. Personally I find it a very powerful act. Interesting. Carol and I certainly do this. Her appearance is pretty much totally at my direct and immediate control... weight, hair, makeup, clothes, the whole gig. We don't see this as "powerful" ... it's just me making sure she's maximally pleasing to me. Of course, that's sort of how we experience our whole dynamic. For the most part, we're more focused on the results of the dynamic than the dynamic itself. I'm not particularly attached to "dominance" and she's not interested in "submission". I like owning her quite well though.

soul2share -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 6:32:36 PM)
I'm the one who has to deal with it, I'm the one who decides what I'm doing with it. It's short now, literally wash and wear. I cut it one day after working outside and feeling the sweat start to run down my scalp. I was at the hair place in 10 minutes. I did have a dom once tell me that if he decided to shave my head, there was nothing I would be able to about it. Yeah, right....it'd be a little difficult to shave anything curled up in a fetal position...which is where he'd be after I kicked him in the nuts.

Reform -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 6:42:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LanceHughes quote: ORIGINAL: WolfyMontgomery I look at this sort of thing as both powerful and not, honestly. Powerful because it is indeed yet another thing that the Dom/Master can have control of over the sub/slave, and the knowledge that he has that power in any way always makes me feel all warm and fuzzy in more ways than one. The knowledge of that power being held over me is a powerful feeling. <snipped> This -----> [image]local://upfiles/15597/CF2EAA9BBE9A4AF0A8E15044EAD331C6.jpg[/image] HOT!! I was at a point in my life when I really wanted to shave my head. Because my boyfriend and I are switches, I asked him to shave me in a scene. We did and it was exactly what I needed. It was very much about power and control, and release from that control in a way. Cutting your hair (let alone shaving it) can mean a lot, and does to many people, myself included. In this case it was something I wanted so it was done in the context I wanted. We've had many similar scenes since, shaving each other in a scene when someone decides it's time for a haircut. There may come a time when I won't want to have short hair, and chances are I wouldn't submit to it under that context, but that time isn't now so I'm not worried about it.

subinlife -> RE: Hair Cuts (11/30/2010 6:53:11 PM)
My Dom and I have been having this conversation for a month now. I have waist length hair that He has told me He wants to cut off. For me it was about my right to choose. For Him it is a sign of my submission to Him. soul2share, he could shave himself while he was there ( fetal position) lol

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