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your first time in an adult store - 9/30/2004 8:18:20 PM

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On another thread someone mentioned they would blush and run like hell if taken to an adult store. That made me think it would be fun to hear everyone's first time experiences and what they bought, who they went with, etc.

My first time was years ago, i was in Hawaii by myself cleaning up our condo after a water leak. I found a hard core porn video that a renter had left. There i was with nothing to do at night but watch the video, but no toys with me. (The few toys I had at home were ones hubby had bought for me) Well the first nite I used a beer bottle, it's all i could find in the condo. So the next day i got brave and went to the adult store and bought a vibrator. I was so nervous, kept looking around to see if anyone was watching LOL. Of course now i hope people are watching.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 9/30/2004 8:59:53 PM

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On another thread someone mentioned they would blush and run like hell if taken to an adult store. That made me think it would be fun to hear everyone's first time experiences and what they bought, who they went with, etc.

I was 16. Went to the local store there in town where we lived. Took a few of my friends. Asked the guy behind the counter if I could taste all of the lubes. Naturally he obliged. I think all in all I was there a few hours. Went back about a month later.
I just love toys. i guess you could say I'm a toy conisseur it takes a lot to really dazzle me.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 9/30/2004 10:28:46 PM

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Heh. Much like Sub4hire, I was well south of the traditional 18 year age limit. I just brazenly walked in (after all, the worst they could do was tell me to leave, and I was in a neighborhood where adult stores were pretty common). I glanced at the various toys on display, got some tokens for the arcade, and bought a few very poorly written pornographic novellettes which claimed to have a bondage theme. I think they, more than any other influence in my life, spurred me to becoming a writer. I remember reading them at home, thinking to myself, "Jeez - I'm a sixteen year old virgin and I can write better stuff than this!"

I prefer visiting the adult stores now, largely because I shop with my wife. While female shoppers are more common than they once were, I still find it amusing to watch a member of the "trenchcoat brigade" do a doubletake when they see her and then quickly disappear into some other section rather than actually be in the same room. Occasionally you can catch one playing "peekaboo" from behind a rack of magazines or videos. I guess it's one of the ways I display my "dominance" over other males - I get to silently imply that she's mine, not theirs, and they can't have her.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 3:24:06 AM

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Well i have no idea how old i was when i first walked in but i do remember men scattering when this woman walked in!

I was looking at everything! So bold that i was at the time. And men who were looking at magazines and toys would walk away as i was too close to them. I think if i rememeber correctly a few even left the store that day after seeing me there.

It is alwyas so much fun when i take a store virgin shopping in one, and we have to ask questions of the people who work there. Its a lot of fun! Still cant my mom to go into one, but i keep trying! But now when i go in into one if there is something i have no idea about i ask lol. Makes for some interesting conversation!

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 4:05:49 AM

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I would've been 18, I guess. I've never been embarrassed to go into a sex store, I've always loved it. Just seeing everything on display, trying to figure out what some of them were (I have a much better idea now!). I'd be the one to drag my friends in, because they were too shy to go in by themselves.

I should go more often, it's been a while, and I think it's time I bought a new vibrator.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 4:22:10 AM

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my first visit to an adult store was with my Master & was only about a month ago. i wasn't paying attention to O/our surroundings as He pulled into the parking lot, so didn't even have a clue that the place was an adult store (W/we'd stopped at a local tattoo place earlier which was closing for the evening, so i figured He was going to another one).

As W/we approached a plain steel back door (there were no signs that i saw which announced what type of establishment it was) i noticed it had a sign that simply stated, "Yes, We Are Open". In noting that the place was not well labeled, i was thinking that if this were a tattoo place it was odd to me that they had no signs and i had to wonder if the place was licensed even.

Walked in and i'm not sure what i noticed first, the huge wall that was well stocked with various dildos, & vibrators of every color and size, the manequin which displayed a contraption of leather rivoted with bits of steel and silver buckles ( i guess it was some type of attire.. lol), or the rows of adult videos. There was also an array of BDSM stuff such as cuffs, nipple clips and clamps, as well as spreader bars etc. (these i was already familiar with as Master has them at home). i'd never had the nerve to visit an adult store by myself in all of my 36 years, and partners of past vanilla relationships would certainly not have been co-operative or enthusiastic in visiting such establishments. Either way, in the moment that it finally registered in my mind that W/we were at an adult toy store, i think i may have missed a step or even may have stopped in my tracks all together, for a split second (i AM certain that my breath caught and then stopped for a millisecond in time & i have no doubt that my eyes grew a bit big as i blushed in realization). my reactions were simply those of pure bashfulness mixed with excitement and anticipation.

As my Master browsed around the place a bit, i simply kept pace following closely. He pointed out a few items and sought my opinions/reactions. i was definitely a bit shy and very reserved, although inwardly i was certainly enthusiastic, and answered in what i am sure was at times a barely audible reply. Although i was a bit bashful my glances darted about rapidly at all of the various impliments, taking it all in. i'm sure it was a small place as compared to most and even a bit tame perhaps, but it was the first adult type store i'd ever entered.

At one point Master stopped where the dildos are located and simply asked me which one i liked. i think i may have shrugged and said i did not know. He chose for me (a 10" dildo of lifelike quality in shape and design, of clear silicone). i could not have selected a better toy myself.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 4:32:22 AM

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I guess it's a cultural thing but there are adult stores and strip joints every two blocks downtown here. And they have beautiful window displays for each. People walk in and out of them like they went to buy a magazine or a pack of gum.

I’m not even sure what the age limit would be but I’m assuming it would be 14 as the legal age of consent in Canada is 14 but there is also a sexual exploitation act in place that prevents someone over 18 to have sexual contact with someone more then 2 years younger then them. It gets more complicated then that and I’m getting off topic.

As for my first experience in a sex shop, I believe I was 19. I went in with one of my best friends and we each bought a vibrator. Mine was silver and hers was purple. We did walk around a lot and asked questions to the shopkeeper who kept a close eye on us. I also remember that we got cruised by a slimy guy while we were there and could not stop giggling. I also remember stopping in front of the fetish gear and staring in amazement and my friend telling me that was for mental freaks. Luckily, her comment didn’t have much impact on me.

Thanks for the little trip down memory lane, ms proud :)

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 6:03:01 AM

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I don't remember how old I was the first time I went into a toy shop, but I remember MY first purchase. I went into a local store, feeling nervous and bashful, kind of like how I still feel buying feminine products

, go figure. The front section of the store is all lingerie and oils but I saw the door with the big warning sign on it regarding underage shoppers not permitted and knew that is the door I wanted. I found the toys and it was amazing!! Luckily I was alone so I felt more at ease. I found a beginner bondage set with ankle and wrist cuffs and blindfold. I brought them to the greasy looking old man at the register and he asked if I wanted oils too, I said sure and picked up some heat generating strawberry flavored oil. He rang it up, my gosh they were expensive (that's for another thread). I left the store feeling triumphant. Now I go to the stores more freely and enjoy how the look of them are changing. They are down right respectable now. There is a great 2 story shop in Key West that is a dream!!

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 7:43:16 AM

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O Gosh, i am shy

so of course my first time i blushed a lot! My husband at the time had ordered a few things for me through a catalog but this day i had wanted a vibrating bullet (egg) and mine had quit working. So i went (alone) the store clerk keep wanting to help but i wanted her to leave me alone LOL i got what i wanted and left quickly, when i think about it now its funny. i don't remember how old i was but young 20's and at this time i thought sex toys were only for people to use alone so i keep thinking they would think i was a freak and needed it because i had no one to keep me satisfied. i thought W/we were the only couple who used toys together.. Boy, have i come a long way! Now even so i still tend to be shy i love to go into the sex stores and i chat with everyone around and ask the clerk for help. Love for them to tell me of new things !

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 8:28:55 AM

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I first went when I was about 20. A friend was getting married, so while others went and got the couple toasters and such, I bought them a vibrator and some thing that he could put around his cock and had little rubber nubs that would stimuloate her clit when they screwed.

I recall giving them to him before the wedding when us guys were out drinking, and seeing the vibrator bouncing around on the bar as he tested it. And after the wedding, the bride came and thanked me for the presents and told me how much she liked them. She had a big grin on her face.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 9:31:38 AM

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When i first went to our local store to rent some videos they gave me a "frequent shopper" card. I carry it in my wallet and one day one of my bowling teammates saw it and laughed and showed me hers, then another team mate brought out hers LOL. We got a good laugh out of that.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 10:46:50 AM

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My Uncle's girlfriend owned one right in downtown Chicago. My older sister and I used to go and help her dust her magazine shelves and set up her displays. One day I had lifted a box and hurt my shoulder, so she whipped out a vibrator, some Sun Jing oil, rubbed some oil on my shoulder and instructed my sister to massage the area with the vibrator. We were behind the counter and a customer came in. Needless to say that presented an interesting picture.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 5:22:18 PM

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I was an adult, in my 30's, but I didn't go alone. Took a man with me for support. I looked at everything and then had to ask if they had ANYTHING about spanking. The only thing they had was a newspaper sort of publication with stories and ads and it was behind the counter.

It just wouldn't do for me to work in a place like that. I'd spent the first day saying, "What's that for?", "You're kidding!", "Who'd do that?"

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 11:23:57 PM

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I was living in London and walked in alone (I think I would have been about 22) it was quite seedy and there were no other women there. As soon as I walked in, the men there surreptitiously put back what ever they were handling and were out the door. The place emptied. It was really funny, my presence doesn't usually have that effect! I didn't even buy anything...on that occasion...

Nowadays there is a great local sex shop (In Wellington) called d-vice which also has a great user friendly website. It's alot fresher and you don't have to wade through a bunch of porn to get to the products - just in case anyone has trouble working up the nerve. (I'm pretty sure they have shops in Australia too)

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/1/2004 11:26:17 PM

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sorry, accidental double post. maytel

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/2/2004 11:29:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: maytel

I was living in London and walked in alone (I think I would have been about 22) it was quite seedy and there were no other women there. As soon as I walked in, the men there surreptitiously put back what ever they were handling and were out the door. The place emptied. It was really funny, my presence doesn't usually have that effect! I didn't even buy anything...on that occasion...

Nowadays there is a great local sex shop (In Wellington) called d-vice which also has a great user friendly website. It's alot fresher and you don't have to wade through a bunch of porn to get to the products - just in case anyone has trouble working up the nerve. (I'm pretty sure they have shops in Australia too)

maytel

well, maybe it has something to do with my thing for humiliation, but i've always kind of looked forward to being sent to a sex shoppe to buy things like dildos, panties and the like...the main downside of the net is that people don't actually have to show up to get their kink...it's too anonymous sometimes, imho.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/2/2004 12:04:43 PM

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my first time in an adult store was actually not a store at all. i applied for a job at the only XXX rated theater in town and was really surprised to get the job. You see, everyone there (including the manager was a female)! i was going to college, working a full-time graveyard shift job, and needed another part-time job that fit my schedule.

i remember getting tunnel vision the first night at work. The manager took me into the projector booth to explain my responsibilities right when it was time to start the movie. i'll never forget her first instruction..."focus on the hair to get the picture sharp." i also remember my ears getting hot. i was 22 years old, my hormones felt like a drug, and looking back it all seems quite comical today.

Eventually, i did make it into an adult store and was living in New England at the time. The laws up there require the stores to be practically a blank wall with no way for anyone to see inside. A heavy atmosphere of taboo is the result. Contrast that with one of the major stores here in DC that serves the gay community! It's called the "Leather Rack" and while browsing it's not uncommon to hear one patron address the other as "Sir." i will say in addition, it's one of the best stocked stores i've ever seen.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/2/2004 12:38:44 PM

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The first sex store i went into i recall was not advertised as one. I had went in accidentally because thinking they were selling something else, when i got to the BACK of the store they had all kinds of vibrators, dildos...etc. I remember most guys were back there so i picked up this small butt plug, looked at the men and asked them if they thought this was too small for a mans butt....needless to say they all just looked at me, drooled and didn't say anything lol. Just wonder how they kept the underage out of that store.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/2/2004 4:35:47 PM

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Yes, I have and the answer that I was given is that she was scared that someone would perhaps take her place. My response to that was no one can take your place in my heart. I totally believe that. I was married to a woman for 15 yrs. and no matter were I go or what I do, no one can take her place although we are not together anymore. I also believe that poeple come into your life for a reason and as long as you are honest with them you will never loss them. trying to get her to see that concept.

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RE: your first time in an adult store - 10/2/2004 6:38:42 PM

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Hi sting 516

You are absolutely right about the humiliation aspect. The thing is, the design school I go to is situated smack in the middle of Wellingtons red light district (a few streets really) and Dvice is the only shop not within viewing/ strolling distance. Yes I am a great big chicken! and I am lucky not to have a Dom at the moment who knows that I really don't want my tutors to know what I get up to...Actually Wellington is so small that it is more than likely I'd bump into my tutors in Dvice because of this fact. We probably all go there...

maytel

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