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Wulfchyld -> RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave (4/29/2006 1:53:59 AM)
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Omahadom, they are on your ass because it sounds as if you have pressed your girl into something you shouldn’t have.
As for punishment, punishing her will push her on out the door. I would have to say that in a Vanilla relationship you would both be 50/50 on the guilt-o-meter. But this ain’t Nilla.
The problem is a training problem, for both of you. Before you beat your chest and say. “Dom’s don’t train” think again. What makes a trustworthy Dom is his/her self-control. That is a trained and developed virtue. Whether you do through meditation, feedback, Cracker Jack boxes, Zen or unfaltering fortitude it has to be trained. As primal creatures our natural proclivities are selfishness and all the little nastie’s that come with it. Primal nature is a devious, deceitful, manipulative, self-serving imp on our shoulders. We have to slap his little ass off there and rise above. If you wish to grow from the experience with your slave both of you need to sit down and revaluate a few things;
Honesty, Communication, Trust, Communication, Truth, Communication, Limits, and did I mention Communication?
For some reason or the other, training or what have you, your slave/sub doesn’t realize that her responsibility to you is to divulge her thoughts, feelings and her very soul. How does she know to do this? She is taught to do it, she journals, she reports, and then she is shown through daily example by you how important communication is.
You have come to the right place. There are oceans of wisdom in the threads and many, many people here, in every aspect of D/s that will help you understand and enlighten you. I would recommend searching the threads with you girl and become enlightened together.
Respectively
Loki
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