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defiantbadgirl -> RE: a question for Christians (12/5/2010 8:49:05 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Jaybeee
No. The OP just asked a question, several in fact, but she didn't offer any definition. Moreover, I haven't addressed any of her questions (yet) and unlike her, I have specified the particular definition of "Narcissist" that I'm using. You've quoted it.
By Narcissism, I was referring to those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Sorry I didn't specify that. Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths are pure evil. They know the difference between right and wrong. They just don't care because they have no conscience. They deliberately plot and commit non-consentual evil acts because they get off on the torment their actions cause. All apologies they give are meaningless because of their lack of a conscience and lies because of the pleasure they get from tormenting others. How could they regret something they enjoy doing?
I don't refuse to offer such people forgiveness because I'm looking for an apology, as any apology they give is a flat out lie. I don't refuse because I'm consumed with hate. I refuse because I feel like accepting their false apologies and offering forgiveness encourages the continuation of their evil. I realize that with or without forgiveness, they are likely to continue their evil ways. But I can't help but wonder if they would have become the way they are if they hadn't gotten away with their evil deeds so many times. Revenge is not my personal goal, but if I knew a victim who wanted to seek revenge, I may encourage or discourage them depending on their reason. I would warn them against letting hate consume them and to only seek revenge for the purpose of discouraging them from seeking future victims. While it's true that two wrongs don't make a right, it's also true that revenge can be a good teaching tool in discouraging repeat behavior. There is no known cure for these three disorders (by cure I mean them suddenly developing a real conscience), but behavior modification is possible if they seek help from a trained professional. I think more of them would be motivated to seek help if several of their past victims were out for revenge, especially at the same time. As for me, I like to walk away from them knowing that by not offering them forgiveness for their false apologies, at least I'm not encouraging them to continue their evil ways. Forgiving a Sociopath, Psychopath, or Narcissist for ones own peace of mind to let go of hate and move on is fine, but I strongly advise anyone to keep that forgiveness a secret. Never ever tell them they are forgiven because encouraging evil is never a good thing.
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