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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

So you are off to have bees trample your stamens?

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ORIGINAL: femdomlover72

Is it normal to feel obsessed with your Mistress/Master? Maybe that is a dumb question, but all my life I have been taught that it is bad to be obsessed. I feel I am becoming obsessed with my my Mistress, and she has told me she likes it like that. She says it is normal for her slaves to become obsessed with her, and that it pleases her to know that I think of her all the time. Don't get me wrong, I am still able to function in society, but everything I do I want to do for her. The thought of her makes me want to do better in all areas of life. It bothers me some though. I didn't realize how intense it was until yesterday. Something recently happend that made me think I was not going to be able to see her again. I was completely in tears, and unable to concentrate on anything. Now, I know that I would eventually get over it, but it was eye-opening to see how much she affects me. I mean, in some ways being completely enthralled by someone is intoxicating and blissful, but there is a flipside that is awful. Maybe I am just crazy, but am I the only one?

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This is not the first time I have been so preoccupied with someone, but the rapid pace at which my fixation on her has advanced has taken me by suprise. The other time I was obsessed with someone in a similar fashion was in a very negative relationship that lasted for 8 years. It did not start out negative, but gradually degenerated to something that led me down a very dark path. I loved her very much, and I was obsessed with her to my own harm. This feeling grew with time, and did not fade. When it was over I hurt very deeply for a long time, but I survived it...

Now I have only known my Mistress for about 5 months now. This may sound adolescent, but I grew very attached to her within the first month of knowing her. Sorry vancraft if I sound like I am bragging  ,      I don't think I consciously try to, but I am so proud to be her slave. I guess it comes out in everything I type. What scares me is I don't know her as well as I would like for this degree of attachment. I am so new to this lifestyle! This is not a vanilla relationship, so I am not sure what the "rules" are. She has made it clear to me that she considers herself above me, and I should not expect to be her only slave. I don't know what her feelings are about me as well as I would like. She doesn't say much on the subject, but I feel that she does care about me. She has told me that she values me as her slave, and that I am her favorite. Is there an unspoken rule about a Mistress completely revealing how she feels about her slave? I think for her there is, she has alluded to how her friends are "too nice" to me which leads me to believe that she has a rule about this.

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AquaticSub, even though I use the word obsessed,  I can honestly say that I have never raised a hand against any woman. Even if she stuck a dagger in my heart and twisted it I would love her, and hope that one day she would change her mind. I know this sounds so cliche, but I learned with my ex-wife that when you love someone you must be willing to let them go. I would never presume that she is obligated to be in my life for any reason.

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Again, what are the rules? Are there any? What should I expect from a relationship with a woman that sees herself as better than me? Which by the way is the same way I feel. I do feel she is better than me, and that is the type of woman I want. A superior individual that I can worship, love, and serve. I want to tell her everything I am saying in this post, but I am afraid of it coming out wrong. I don't want to upset her by presuming anything about this relationship that may not be true. I have always been better at writing my feelings down, and I plan to tell her about this thread so she can read this.

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...vancraft, I read the article and I think that there is alot that applies to the relationship I had with my ex-wife. I don't know if it applies as much to this relationship though. I mean, she wants me to place her on a pedestal, and that is exactly what I want as well. I can definitely see how that can be a mistake in some, perhaps many relationships, but this is unlike any relationship I have ever had. To me the whole premise of a Mistress/slave relationship is that we are not equals. She is above me, and I am beneath her. It seems to me that some things that would work well in a vanilla relationship would be a mistake to try in a bdsm relationship. I guess it depends on a person's understanding of what that kind of relationship is about. Something I am still working out...