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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/10/2010 7:00:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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I'm human. I make mistakes. I try and learn from them, make less as I grow older, not repeat the same errors twice.
On the occasions that I have gone over the line, we talk, I apologize (I know, GASP, a card carrying sadistic bastard apologizing to a slave.) I do what's required to make it right, as much as I can. I have this irrational belief that part of being a man, a decent human being, or just not a sleazy scumbag is taking responsibility for my actions, good and bad.
And ya know what, it seems to work.

Now, as far as the desire to hit any and every woman, are ya freaking kidding me?
Sadistic yes. Misogynist, no.

Hi Kana, wanted to quote you on this to give it an encore.

I have my ideas of what a man is to me, with a little "evolving" delving into this lifestyle. When I read stuff like this, as I have for a while now, I find I am getting more comfortable moving forward. There are some pretty awesome Masters/Doms on this site. thanks :)

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/10/2010 7:01:12 AM

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Very very very early in my bdsm forays I scened for the first time with a guy who was flogging me and I told him a couple of times that I felt like I was going to pass out but he said I would be fine ...and then I fainted ha ha

So Im guessing that's a limit for you. Fainting is not a kinkof mine either

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/10/2010 7:31:06 AM

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..."too far" not referring to limits or any such thing, but in the sense of causing devastating, overwhelming, and possibly irreparable harm to the physical, mental or emotional well-being of the slave..

Hi prop,

This was my experience with my ex owner. Only difference was, he brought it to a point where he no longer knew how to deal with the emotional ramifications his demands had on me, so he let me go in the midst of it.

Maybe it was the best thing he could have done, because climbing my way out of that pit changed me forever.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/11/2010 7:06:24 AM

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And we love the new you, Nueva Vida!

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/11/2010 8:00:24 AM

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we never normally play two days in a row but for some reason it happened he had belted me the night before and the next night after a few strokes i called red i never have to he laways knows he said he hadnt even warmed up stopped the play . it wasnt till he got over the surprise of me saying red and me getting over having to say it i hate it and never have to as he knows me so well. that we realised it was becsause we played so close in time my skin was sore still.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/11/2010 9:41:16 AM

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Hi prop,

This was my experience with my ex owner. Only difference was, he brought it to a point where he no longer knew how to deal with the emotional ramifications his demands had on me, so he let me go in the midst of it.

Maybe it was the best thing he could have done, because climbing my way out of that pit changed me forever.

hi NuevaVida...that's a tremendous difference, and what can make the difference between a productive relationship and one which is not. but as you say, as it turned out it that was the best path for you in the long run.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/11/2010 11:17:00 AM

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No, he's never gone * too far*.......He does things that are sometimes hideously painful and scare me but we're still *in it together*, despite that.

The only way he could possibly go *too far* with me, would be to have alienated me to the point where I barely recognised him.

Jeff said..quote

Note that I don't really acknowledge "too far". She's mine. There is no such thing as "too far". There is, however, "too fast". If I'm wanting something of her and that thing involves substantial internal reordering on her part, then I'm making a mistake if I give the command before doing the required pre-work. But man, I'd have to ignore an awful lot of feedback before that got to the place of causing serious harm to the relationship. This thought is largely why I am perfectly willing to extend control as deeply and invasively as I can think to do. If something goes wrong, it'll be caught and fixed before it spins out of control.

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This is the case here. I'm his, there IS no *too far*. There's *things I hope don't get repeated too often*(or ever), such as when he stapled my mouth closed. Stuggles, pain, tears, frustration, a bit of tumoil......but he can't go *too far* when we don't have a *far*.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/11/2010 12:55:43 PM

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Back when I was pretty much new to all of this, there was more than one time when things went too far. However, looking back on those situations, there was always a point in time when I should have said something. But I chose to keep silent.

Fast forward to now...not my style anymore, but those memories are always in the back of my mind, and they sometimes keep me from doing things now.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/13/2010 7:23:12 AM

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And we love the new you, Nueva Vida!

Aww I just saw this sunshinemiss. Thank you, I kinda like the new me, too, lol.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/13/2010 7:24:20 AM

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but as you say, as it turned out it that was the best path for you in the long run.

Hi prop,

Yes, it did because I was determined to make it so and because I had incredible support from friends. Not because of of anything he did. Just to be clear, lol.

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RE: Have you ever gone too far? - 12/13/2010 9:37:04 AM

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What exactly is Too FAR? For me.... Too Far would be the point of where my actions result in the ending of the relationship. Clearly since our relationship is ongoing and Thriving.... I haven't gone Too Far. However... that is not to equate never making mistakes. I have made mistakes and I expect to make more.... but hopefully never making the same mistake twice. Frankly mistakes are opportunities to bring a relationship closer instead of dividing it if one so chooses to do so.

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