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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/17/2010 5:15:28 AM

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I just had this conversation with my sub the other day. On a daily basis, he declares his love for me. We have known each other for 5 rocky years and although we have not been together the whole time, he has stated on numerous occasions that he has been IN love with me for those 5 years. I told him that I do love him, but I am not IN love with him. That doesn't matter to him as long as he can be a part of my life. We are both ok with our relationship. The fact that he is IN love with me has made him much more dedicated to me and supportive of my goals. It has made me appreciate him more. The past 4 months that we have been working on pulling our dynamic together had shown me that he is much more intune with me than he has been the whole time I have known him.

I guess my advice would be, be honest with him, tell him how you truely feel and if you think those feelings are going to change. Tell him whether or not you appreciate him for who he is and whether or not his feelings of love for you cause you a problem. If they do, ask him not to express them in words and only do so in action. Who knows one day you might turn around, look at him and be stricken with the effects of Love Potion #9.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/17/2010 6:45:30 AM

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It depends on how it changes his behavior and what it means to him. "Love" is an ambiguous word under the best conditions.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/17/2010 10:21:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise
You're the Domme. If this type of behavior displeases you, make him/her stop it?

yay. this.

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I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me
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