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RE: A submissives tears - 12/20/2010 2:45:58 PM

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I don't typically cry during a scene, but the scene itself is a stress reducer for me. And usually i am a very relaxed woman after playing.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/20/2010 7:09:32 PM

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Crying in general is a great release. LadyPact, I have to admire people in touch with themselves or others to realize this is what they need and purposely seek it through pain. I'm sure that makes it easier for everyone...that's some pretty clear communication.

And I feel I wouldn't see tears as a bad thing in a session without that purpose. Tears are expressions of many things.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/20/2010 8:17:48 PM

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I don't typically cry during a scene, but the scene itself is a stress reducer for me. And usually i am a very relaxed woman after playing.

Relaxed may be an understatement.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/21/2010 3:56:07 PM

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I know when my mom passed away i cried a lot but i was still stressed out because of everything that was going on i needed the release of tears not tears of sadness. I asked master he was more then hapy to oblige anf it does help. It broke down the walls i had built to get through all that was happining and gave me peace. Sometimes you just need help to have a good cry.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/21/2010 5:14:57 PM

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When I do cry, He usually says: Those are my tears, give them to Me; you didn't want them anyway. He holds me close and whispers good girl and encourages me to cry it all out.

that's beautiful

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/21/2010 6:22:50 PM

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i am still new to all of this, and still learning. many areas i have not yet been, but my Dom will eventually take me there. The first weekend we were together he did bring me to tears. My nipples were very sensitive by then, and when he hit one with the switch i curled into a ball and started crying. But he wasn't through yet, and made me get back into position - and he gave me the last 10 on my pussy. i was still crying from the pain in my nipple, but i knew he would not hit it again. and then he held me, comforted me, and we talked a long time. It was a wonderful experience. the tears do not bother him, though i know many men cannot handle a woman's tears. And he will bring me to tears again, because he knows that sometimes i need it, and somtimes he wants my tears, just as much as my screams. It all belongs to Him.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/22/2010 4:56:00 PM

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There are times I will cry after an intense scene. When I'm under a lot of stress, Master will sometimes take me deep into subspace as a special treat to help me relax, and in that situation, I will often cry at the end, when he finally allows me orgasm. He always stays close to me and speaks softly while I cry, letting me get it all out. He knows I'll feel better afterwards. The first time this happened (when we were first together) he was concerned about my well-being, but now he knows I sometimes cry when overwhelmed with emotion or stress. It's very cathartic for me.

I also sometimes cry DURING an intense scene when we are together in person, but that is always good tears, because the sensation and atmosphere is so powerful. I know he enjoyed seeing me crying openly during my collaring ceremony, and I'm pretty sure he likes knowing he can make me so open and vulnerable emotionally during a good cropping or orgasm denial session. He always gets his 'evil Dom smile' (as I call it) when he denies me enough that I'm begging him in tears for release.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/22/2010 6:21:02 PM

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Two of the most memorable experiences I had with my former Mistress was when She brought me to tears. Much like many of the other posters here have mentioned, I also don't cry often or easily. In fact, it very much surprised me when I broke down sobbing during those two scenes especially as both were at public bdsm venues. Typically in these settings I try to play the part of tough subbie and put on a good show. But I distinctly remember hitting this point where everything and everyone just faded out-of-sight/out-of-mind. My whole world was my Mistress in those moments.

And I think what stood out to me most was Her attention to aftercare. In my opinion, if you bring your sub to tears, be sure to give some quality aftercare. During the scene, after the tears starting coming and everything else was drowned out, what motivated me to continue enduring the pain was knowing that I would soon be wrapped up in my Mistress' arms. God it was heaven to lay my head in Her lap and have Her run Her fingers through my hair. That feeling of my whole world revolving around Her continued on throughout the night even though we were in a very public and social setting. It was the safest and least-stressed I had felt in a longtime.

What's interesting though is that even though I know how beautiful it is to come to that point, I still have a lot of resistance/fear to be pushed to that point again. Then as well as now I make every mental effort to hold back the tears and keep strong. I guess that's why it's so profound when I do hit that point.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/26/2010 4:58:31 PM

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When I do cry, He usually says: Those are my tears, give them to Me; you didn't want them anyway. He holds me close and whispers good girl and encourages me to cry it all out.

The romantic in me just loves that :)

me too...or he kisses them gently on my cheek.....

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/29/2010 4:53:11 AM

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I think crying is letting go of tensions beyond your control. You are feeling bad, or denying that you're feeling bad, because of something that is not really up to you. Or well, maybe sometimes it is, but it shouldn't worry you that way. It jumps around in your mind, annoying you beyond belief, making you feel depressed, stressed, tired, useless, frustrated... you can't let it out, and when you are brought to tears it is very much like feeling free of all that unbeareableness. It's like an orgasm: a welcome relieving of tension which causes damage, and refuses to leave.

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/31/2010 1:54:33 PM

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I love her tears...gives me wood -L-

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/31/2010 2:09:39 PM

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catharsis can be really helpful, and honestly that's one thing that i think is REALLY helpful about kinky play that vanilla people don't always know how to get. i think most people know that catharsis can be helpful, though -- like there are people who go to the gym and lift more than they normally would when they're frustrated. it's a way of focusing on the negative feelings, but letting yourself deal with them without running headlong into them. it's like a sneak attack. haha

but i've experienced cathartic scenes, and i find them to be really helpful.

i know most people talk about catharsis from the bottom's point of view, but i really think it can be helpful for the Topping person as well. if you're aware that that is what's happening and you've signed up for that, it can be an additional service (at least in my opinion).

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/31/2010 2:41:20 PM

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I don't cry from physical pain, not that I can remember. It hurts, and if it's very bad I'll certainly scream, but it doesn't make me sad. I do cry from emotional pain, if that element is woven into the mix. Very early in my relationship with my former master I had a couple of memory flashbacks, and those caused me to cry, but they happened then didn't occur anymore.

I don't like to cry. I don't feel a need for catharsis, I don't like feeling sad enough that I cry becuase usually that means something very bad has happened in my life, and I really don't like how exhausted I feel later. I feel like I cried 20 years worth of tears in the first five years after my master's death. I think I've used up my quota! (or at least I hope so)

PS: Does anybody remember Ozzy Osborne's "No More Tears?" I think I'd prefer to cry than be in the circumstances described by that song. :/

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RE: A submissives tears - 12/31/2010 4:14:43 PM

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For me tears I would not say is a stress reliever. Or said another way, I wouldn't say that I need to be brought to tears to releive stress. But it is a very intense experience and I did enjoy it.

I have been only be brought to tears a couple of times. On the occassions I was brought to tears the Domme was able to wear down my body and my mind at the same time. I am talking a very long and drawn out session somewhere in the range of 6 to 8 hours. Slowly wearing down my body while overloading my brain with stimulation. The key to bringing me to tears was getting my body and mind to collapse at the same time. Pure exhaustion in every way. Pure sub space for hours aftewards too :)

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RE: A submissives tears - 1/2/2011 12:39:08 AM

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I actually cried earlier today after a scene with my Lady, actually the first time in almost 2 years. It wasnt because of the spanking itself, it was her holding me and telling me that Im her "good boy" afterwords. Those words are so wonderful, and it had been so long since I heard them, I just couldent help it. She kissed me, and told me that it was all going to be ok, wich only made me cry harder lol. I may indeed be my mother's son.

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RE: A submissives tears - 1/3/2011 10:10:12 AM

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It is also rare for us to not laugh sometime during play too.

Just a week ago I broke out laughing hysterically during play, for the first time with him. Like, rolling around laughing my head off, out of the blue. He didn't know what to make of it at first, and ended up joining in, laughing himself. It was hilarious.

As for tears...Until fairly recently, he's been pretty careful with me, because of some past experiences. Now, though, he loves my tears and they're cathartic for me. He drinks them right out of my eyes, which just makes me cry harder when I'm in that state. It's pretty intimate for us. I asked him recently if it concerns him when I cry, or if he finds it hot. He said it's hot. As angelika mentioned here, he says they're his and he wants them.

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RE: A submissives tears - 1/3/2011 10:18:05 AM

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Hi all. I was listening to a discussion about making a submissive cry. The mod spoke how his sub would have a stressful week, or be wound up about something but would feel anger and frustration. And he would purposely scene her to and past the crying point. He said he knew she needed a good cry or she would just stay frustrated and upset.

Is that common or relatable in your relationships? For the Masters/Doms reading, what are your thoughts on a subs/slaves tears?

other reasons were talked about, mostly how the emotion being shown and felt can be such a rush, intensity and such.

Yes, I can relate to this. S&M can be a way of use relieving that kind of tension, and at that level it is to make me feel better. At the point I am crying and he takes me further to where he is holding me as I sob and he continues to hit me, well that is for him and his sadism!

It can work the other way. He can have a bad day and need some stress relief. Sometimes me giving him a massage is a way for him to let go of his tension, another way is for him to take his tension out on my skin in some way and inflict pain.

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RE: A submissives tears - 1/11/2011 5:50:50 PM

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I've never had anyone try to make me cry. I've been purposely made to beg and scream, but never cry. I've only cried once during any sort of scene, and it was genuine crying followed by blacking out for a brief time, and I forgot what happened. I don't like the idea of somebody trying to make me cry for whatever reason.

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RE: A submissives tears - 4/8/2011 8:45:15 PM

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The sweet adrenalin tears produced from taking a Masters pain,
will erupt into a flood of emotion produced tears,
when I am in the hands of a gifted Sadistic Master.
Not a pain merchant, but a man who wants my release,
who wants me to feed him back my emotional pain,
after taking his physical pain allows me to do so.

That emotional release always precipitates a sub drop,
I can be brought back up, with care, and skilled hands,
but it's a biological, physiological response to the beating I am taking,
and the emotional attachments that I form.

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RE: A submissives tears - 4/8/2011 8:53:19 PM

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Hey PetitOralSub
Just a heads up--check the date. This thread is three months old--the Mods ask us to start a new thread and link to the old one if we want to pick it back up.

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