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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 3:42:37 AM

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Interesting how most of the dommes don't think about severity, but fall back on the female reticence for management.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 8:03:24 AM

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I disagree. I think a lot more information would need to occur, before you could say that.

Micromanaging is not everyone's cup of tea, and simply because we allow you a say, does not mean, you have equal say. As a dominant, it's easy to say, you will always do what I want 100% of the time. As a human being however, I do derive some satisfaction in being in a relationship with an enthusiastic sub/servant, so I do consider whether we are compatible, when he admits to enjoying things that I'm averse to. It's a relationship, even if we name it and M/s one. M

This is where I think I see this differently than some. I am a high protocol person and I tend to run obedience based dynamics. I don't consider what I do to be micromanagement. Once a standard is in place, I shouldn't have to harp on someone years later about how a certain thing gets done. The only time I should have to deal with that is if someone isn't performing up to the standard.

I do tend to think this is an area where folks should look at compatibility. For example, I match well with folks who crave a lot of structure, rather than a more laid back situation.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 8:21:33 AM

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Good point, Lady Pact. Even the most exacting standards don't have to be gone over again and again forever. In the military, they micromanage you for a few weeks. Once you know how they want things done, they don't have to stand over you every second. Same with animal training. If a Mistress has lackluster standards, she is probably going to get lackluster service.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 9:58:19 AM

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Good point, Lady Pact. Even the most exacting standards don't have to be gone over again and again forever. In the military, they micromanage you for a few weeks. Once you know how they want things done, they don't have to stand over you every second. Same with animal training. If a Mistress has lackluster standards, she is probably going to get lackluster service.

I think you can be laid back and still have high standards, if somebody doesn't want to live up to the high standards or uses not living up to them to get "punishment", it says enough about the person, I don't need an excuse to whip somebody, I do it gladly so "I piss her off to get punished" doesn't work with me because I'm enough of a sadist to not give them the whipping they crave and just ignore them as punishment. If they claim they want to do a service, I expect a good service and if they can't do it and I need to double and triple check and micromanage all the time, they are domming me into wasting my time and then they're not performing a service, then they are a nuisance and I rather not have them around.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 10:43:05 AM

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I'm also getting the impression that the OP jumps into a relationship and then complains because it isn't exactly what she (if she is indeed a she, and I have my doubts there) wants. "They're doing/not doing this, why not, how can I change them?" How many times have we heard this now?

The idea is to learn and grow, and make better choices, not whine online about repeating the same patterns.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 11:36:29 AM

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(if she is indeed a she, and I have my doubts there)

I agree that the OP has a Charles Bronson, growling, hard-knuckle aggressiveness about her looks, but that's going a bit far, isn't it?

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 11:38:24 AM

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Anybody can post a picture of anyone.

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RE: how do you tell a mistress that they're not strict ... - 12/21/2010 11:45:24 AM

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Anybody can post a picture of anyone.

True, but if I were pretending to be a femsub, I'd try to find a pic of a woman who didn't look quite so much like she'd have the words 'hate' and 'kill' tattooed on her knuckles.

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