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Strap-ons? - 12/26/2010 9:37:57 PM

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I have always wanted to be taken by a woman with a strap-on. I have thought about it alot and would like to try it. Is there any I should use to get my ass ready for it?

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 12:31:57 AM

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First piece of advice is, stand in line...

Second, is lube, lube, and not cheap lube; than pay attention to your body. If it hurts beyond pressure, you should probably stop, and get her or him to go slower with a smaller penetrating device.
Some friends have mentioned, that some men get greedy about the pressure/pleasure of butt-phucking; so, careful, slow down, and did I mention a good lubricant?
Just last week, a doctor in some hospital, had to remove a lightbulb from an anus... Don't get more ambitious or greedy, than you can afford to be laughed at, by the emergency room staff. M

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:04:58 AM

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When you find the right woman there will be no need to get yourself ready for strapon play/training...

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 8:45:57 AM

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When you find the right woman there will be no need to get yourself ready for strapon play/training...

Diane

He's found the woman, per his previous posts. Sometimes she's his Domme, sometimes his sub. I get the feeling that it's all kinky sex.

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 8:53:24 AM

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What's wrong with kinky sex???

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 9:07:35 AM

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What's wrong with kinky sex???

Absolutely nothing, but to me it's just a subset of D/s.

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 10:43:18 AM

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I would say take it slow and do not come with a list for your Domme. You are there for "her" pleasure.

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 10:58:20 AM

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Oddly enough, you just don't see that many threads by female submissives that ever go something like, "how do I get a vagina stretched out so that I'll be ready when someone wants to screw".

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 2:07:34 PM

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Oddly enough, you just don't see that many threads by female submissives that ever go something like, "how do I get a vagina stretched out so that I'll be ready when someone wants to screw".

I just wonder why that is? :)

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 5:58:13 PM

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To the OP. Try to let her know that you are new to it. Women let Me know that and I am EXTRA gentle with them. First. Spoon position and let the reciever push back not the opposite. Take your time and, according to My partners, it's awesome.

Im really large and I only once have I had a woman say "No cant do it". Know what I did? I cuddled her and made sure she knew it was ok and she was the awesomest.

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 6:32:11 PM

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To the OP. Try to let her know that you are new to it. Women let Me know that and I am EXTRA gentle with them. First. Spoon position and let the reciever push back not the opposite. Take your time and, according to My partners, it's awesome.

Im really large and I only once have I had a woman say "No cant do it". Know what I did? I cuddled her and made sure she knew it was ok and she was the awesomest.

'Nuff said..

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:13:12 PM

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~ahem~ so, Hilly, your avatar is truth in advertising?

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:33:39 PM

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~ahem~ so, Hilly, your avatar is truth in advertising?

Yes Maam

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:34:44 PM

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I have always wanted to be taken by a woman with a strap-on. I have thought about it alot and would like to try it. Is there any I should use to get my ass ready for it?

Since you have a partner you scene with, why not talk with her about this and see what she prefers?

Personally, I think I look ridiculous with a strapon (yes, I have one...never used. Tried it on and laughed so hard that I changed my mind).

Your lady might be like me, but you will have to ask her to find out. I don't like a guy to prepare. It's mine, all mine...mwahahahaha...if it was completely virgin territory before I came along...oooh yeah.

I prefer to use latex gloves and lube. If the anus is stroked long enough, it will loosen up and invite someone inside...without pain. As for the question of stretching, if necessary...look into the toilet after you've used it. If something can come out at that circumference, then something should be able to fit up there that's the same size across (not talking about length, just diameter). Sorry for the squick.

There are beginner sizes with butt plugs, or the stretching can be done manually...with gloves... I hope the both of you have a lot of fun and no ouch moments, but just in case, get some Preparation H ointment or gel to help you be more comfortable if you need to stop and wait for another day.

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:43:22 PM

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One should at least use their toy at least one time!

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 7:44:19 PM

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Cynthia, that response darn near made Me fall out of My chair laughing.

We need a emote of Mr Hanky the Christmas Poo!

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 8:10:04 PM

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Often times our fantasy appetites are far greater than our capacities. Assholes (and I'm talking about the part of our body here, not the part of our community) have a memory--a really bad experience and the muscles in your anus are likely to remember that for quite some time, and make your future encounters more problematic. Give your butthole a "happy memory" and you'll be able to build upon that experience.

I come from the school of "too much lube is almost enough"--lots of water based lube, nothing fancy--and I second the suggestion of starting small. Use your own fingers to start if you can reach--be sure your nails are trimmed. Or for more fun, have her play with your butt. Remember that butts have that mysterious "tractor beam" that sucks things in--which to you means that if you enjoy anal penetration, and your muscles relax, you can take more in, the more aroused you get. That said, items can get lost in the butt....and this can be a truly serious situation.

So..... spare yourself the trip to the ED, please. Use toys designed specifically for the butt--butt plugs and dildoes with flared bases--they should be smooth, well-lubed and I always suggest putting a condom on them for easy cleanup later. Assholes (like the people variety) can be temperamental--it's not a race or a contest to see how much, how fast. Take your time, go slow and if it doesn't feel good, don't force it.

And for the love of all things living, don't be "that guy" that puts all sorts of exotic things in your butt. I've seen (and heard) it all, and I have compassion for these patients....but I want to slap them later. No bottles, lightbulbs, barbie dolls or anything else that doesn't belong there. I don't care how good it feels--you are playing emergency room roulette.

Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't. There's nothing wrong with starting off small, and working your way up to something bigger if you choose....or just staying with something small that feels right. Have fun and enjoy yourself!

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 8:10:08 PM

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Oddly enough, you just don't see that many threads by female submissives that ever go something like, "how do I get a vagina stretched out so that I'll be ready when someone wants to screw".

LadyPact, each time I've read this I've gone into gales of giggles...thank goodness my hot cocoa mug with little marshmallows was finished.

The scat enthusiasts might enjoy a poo emotie, but having a steaming pile winking with little faery lights might set limits on when it could be used.

Ok, I will clean up after my previous post...

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 9:04:37 PM

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Cynthia get a pal to put onher strsp on and you can do dick dances, and fence with em! It is a hoot to watch the looks on the men's faces--more unintentional humiliation play.

Hilly, I will be in the DC area around May 5, just saying...

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RE: Strap-ons? - 12/27/2010 9:44:10 PM

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To the OP, I saw this lady lecture once on this subject, and thought she was awesome. If I were you, I'd pick up her book.
Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men
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