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lost - 12/28/2010 10:58:59 AM

bruisedbittentoy

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ok,so i am the type of girl who has always had problems voicing what i like and what i do not like. My Master is very open and accepting but we've only been together about three months..im developing a horizon that i think he's not into ...i love him a lot which i know sounds crazy because its only been 3 mnths ..im not sure how to tell him. i 've been in and out of the lifestyle now for about 5 years and hes ony beeen in it for about a year ..im not really sure ow to address this situation. help? please ? :)

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 12:09:11 PM

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I still can't make enough sense of your post to understand what the 'situation' is. And I've read it 3 times.

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 12:35:43 PM

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Greetings bruisedbittentoy,

First, I do not understand your statement, "i'm developing a horizon that i think he's not into"---this is not common usage, in My life.

Second:
you say He has been in the lifestyle for a year. How long has He known Himself to be Master?
I ask this, because, when I came out---to Myself---as Master, I thought, given My history of setting Myself to and completing tasks, that I would have a slave in two years. This kind-of happened.
What I was most certainly not expecting was the astonishing amount of personal growth which occurred as a result. In some ways, I am a different person. I developed in myriad tiny ways, and changed, in some large ways.

The point here, is that He is still developing, and growing. I suspect "i'm developing a horizon" means you are growing, too.
The two of you need communication. He, and likely thee, needs more exposure to Master/slave culture.
I recommend these books:
Master/slave Relations, by Robert Rubel,
Manual Creation, by Machelle Kindle, and
Ask the Man Who Owns him, by david stein and David Schachter. Book review
These books do not give blueprints for a new life, but they will give the two of you the starting points, and much supporting information, for discussions for building your own life the way you want it.

I wish you the best,
Master David Goodmen

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 12:44:35 PM

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What do you mean by horizon, a limit, a new desire?

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 1:02:31 PM

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Sounds like you are falling in love (new horizon) with him and you feel he is not into loving you back?

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 1:15:43 PM

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Your profile says you are 18 and you have been in and out of the lifestyle for how long?

With you being so young I would advise you to get a handle on how to express yourself. Mainly because this is something that you will come back to time and time again. If there is something you want, say "I want... " It really is as simple as that. It is then down to the other person to either consider your desire or not.

The easiest way to tell someone you love them is to say "I love you"... not really rocket science... and given that he is Master... not telling him would lying and I am sure you wouldn't want that.

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RE: lost - 12/28/2010 3:27:07 PM

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Sit him down. Ask him where he feels the relationship is at now, and where he sees it going.

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