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RE: Is CM really good for newcomers? - 1/9/2011 2:38:18 PM

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Accidents can happen and I am much more RACK than SSC, however accidents tend to happen more easily if you don't have the skill set, we all take risks, but it depends if we take them reckless or calculated. For example after years of practise, I consider myself quite accurate with a single tail, but I will never ever have 100% accuracy, I'm human and not a robot, anybody playing with me and being into whippings can be assured that I won't take a crazy risk and I rather decline when I feel that a risk is to great. The amount of times I heard that I'm not a twu domme because I wouldn't take a crazy risk, yeah well, if somebody wants to risk being maimed or killed, fine but not with me...

So anybody advocating something I think is too risky, yep, I'll say something, what the people do in the end is up to them but I rather say it than let them "experiment" with a possibly disastrous result.

But those whole "First post, looking for <insert activity> want instant fulfillment..." if we don't treat them with velvet gloves, great, because hopefully it's a wake up call. I rather have somebody being pissed off than somebody injured or trolling, and yes I do get a bee up my bonnet if people think it's the instant fantasy fulfillment here and all they have to do is post what they want, and if they don't have it within a week, they can bitch about that we're all just fakes...

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RE: Is CM really good for newcomers? - 1/9/2011 2:57:30 PM

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Now, I bored everyone with those above statements for a very specific reason. Over the last few months through various sources, it has come to My attention that some not very nice things have been happening in different locations. The real stuff, people. You know, the kind of stuff that can happen when folks involved in BDSM aren't called on their shit. The kinds of things that result in serious effects that last longer than a scene. The first thing that everyone wants to wail about afterward is 'why didn't anyone say anything' that this person or that person didn't have the experience that they claimed to or had a bad reputation to begin with.

Sorry, but I'm never going to be one of those people. It is how it is. Block Me, hide My posts if you feel it necessary, but if you expect Me to be the type to STFU, it ain't happening.

Sorry, but just for the sake of confirmation - you're saying you're speaking out about out of control, inexperienced people doing harm, yes?

Who could have a problem with that, assuming you're labelling such posts as such? I honestly don’t know how that relates to OP, unless the OP is one on your ... er ... "list"?

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RE: Is CM really good for newcomers? - 1/9/2011 3:18:19 PM

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Sorry, but just for the sake of confirmation - you're saying you're speaking out about out of control, inexperienced people doing harm, yes?

Who could have a problem with that, assuming you're labelling such posts as such? I honestly don’t know how that relates to OP, unless the OP is one on your ... er ... "list"?

RF, the main point to My most recent post had much to do with what I thought the OP meant as part of the discussion. I honestly hadn't believed that the OP meant her own particular case. Rather, I had thought she was also including other examples of things she had seen happen on the forums.

If we're going to talk about how 'new' people are received here, I think we have to look at the whole picture. Not just one individual's case. As has been pointed out throughout the thread, we're not talking only about docile little lambs who have no reason for anybody to think badly of them. Quite a few folks through their own words made their own bed.

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RE: Is CM really good for newcomers? - 1/10/2011 4:23:57 PM

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I was suprised to be called 'one of the gang' because I have no qualms about speaking my mind and giving my honest opinion.

That's because not everybody 'in the gang' needs to agree with everyone else.

It's not about having the same opinion, it's about having similar senses of humour, sharing in-jokes, bantering, flirting...

Most people who could be called 'in-crowd' have disagreed with each other at some point. Somehow the crowd survives intact.