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Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:27:23 PM

MasterRaven12

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I am trying to figure out a way to correct my sub when she is wrong. We have tried using a ruler to smack her breasts but it only turns her on or doesnt hurt at all. Cropping/flogging is out of the question as it is something she enjoys as is spanking. Any ideas or suggestions would be awesome.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:29:22 PM

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Writing lines.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:31:04 PM

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Like the old time school teachers with the sentences 100 times or more?

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:34:01 PM

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try something that isn't a kind of fetish.

i'd be o.k. with a Dom slapping me, although breaking anything or black eye, that kind of thing would be over the line.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:39:56 PM

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That doesnt work either, its a turn on for her too. I should have added that to the list.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:41:55 PM

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It's tough to punish a girl who enjoys pain with pain.

Line writing works
Essay writing works

My favourite, though it's as hard on me as her, is "Go kneel in the corner in the back room." I hate it cause I like to be close and the distance is painful.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:47:10 PM

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I've been thinking about doing that actually. I was told by a friend whose dad was Japanese about a punishment he use to do to them when they were kids. He would spill uncooked rice on the floor and make the girls kneel in it for x amount of time. Then he would make them get up and clean up the mess afterwards. I am thinking about trying this with her.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:48:29 PM

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Wrong as in she chose answer B when it should have been answer C?
It seems to me that you are eagerly anticpating her being wrong again,
instead of focussing on everything she is doing right.

It also concerns me that you can't think of a punishment on your own
to inflict upon someone you are intimately partnered with, and feel the best
solution is to ask a bunch of strangers that know nothing of your relationship.

If it's a behavior or reaction to you that you are displeased with, perhaps instead
of punishing her, you can try and be more clear in your expectations of her.

If it's truly your wish to punish her, you can always go with the old stand by...
have her kneel on rice for a set length of time while balancing something on her head.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:52:51 PM

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For me the rice would be overkill.

Separation is enough.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:56:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRaven12

I am trying to figure out a way to correct my sub when she is wrong. We have tried using a ruler to smack her breasts but it only turns her on or doesnt hurt at all. Cropping/flogging is out of the question as it is something she enjoys as is spanking. Any ideas or suggestions would be awesome.

Sheesh.

Is your sub an adult or not?

What's wrong with simply telling her what it is that you want and how you want it done? If it is so hard or complicated she doesn't do it right, have her do it again until she does get it right. Practice makes perfect, you know.

And if she's such a masochist that physical punishments are enjoyable, how about denying her the thing she enjoys?

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:56:50 PM

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I am merely looking for ideas on punishments others use and am trying to figure out what will work best in our relationship. As for eagerly anticipating her being wrong, you are wrong there, I want her to succeed in every way. I have explained my expectations to her. As for asking for ideas I do not see what the harm is in it. Not everyone thinks the same way nor do they react in the same way.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 7:58:45 PM

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Yeah I figured as much, thanks for the input though. It gives me something to think about.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 8:10:25 PM

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Thank you for your input. This is the kind of post I am looking for. As I said before you have a different way of thinking, instead of punishing her you suggest making her do it repeatedly till it is right. I didnt think about that either. Thank you again.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 8:12:16 PM

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My sub also likes spanking, crops, etc. and is not a punishment to her, so I deny her of the things she likes most, and reward her when she performs the tasks correctly. As was already stated, you should have her perform the task until it meet your satisfaction ... if she desires to please, it should not take long to get her to follow directions.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 8:21:58 PM

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Thank you for taking the time to respond, it is good to see some people on here are helpful. It is much appreciated.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 8:23:23 PM

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After spending a whole lot of years being a parent, I sure don't want to do it some more. After the age of seven I didn't have to use punishment in the form of spanking or anything physical with even the hard core one. As children, they knew what I expected and what I would typically do as punishment. No TV, no friends over, no going anywhere, extra household duties, lots and lots of time out and lots and lots of communication. Those were rare occasions because most often all it took was a look. That stopped whatever they were doing and if any explanation was needed.. it was given. It was my job to see why they were acting out if they did and instruct and guide.

It was better to correct rather than punish and a simple conversation worked for the most part. However, I would expect an adult to get it all without having to be punished. If I had to punish and correct all the time, I would feel there was something wrong with this adult that wanted to play games. I do wonder about adults that must use punishment in their dynamic's, especially if they happen often. They are getting off on punishing someone in my opinion because with adults it shouldn't have to be that way. It becomes a kinky game I guess. If that's what they like; cool. I simply want and expect good behavior... correction in communication and expecting it to work, works for me. If it didn't, it would be a sign of them really not wanting to be there.

Forget that punishment game... it tends to lead to things I simply will not allow in my life. This parent is retired!

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 8:47:57 PM

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Everyone,

Has a pain limit, with my Master, because I'm a masochist..play is mild or pain I can handle/enjoy, I can also make suggestions and am usually not tied up or gagged etc.

Punishment however is when the pain goes way beyond my pain limit, I can't make it stop, I'm usually gagged and sometimes restrained so it's certainly not enjoyable, unless you have no pain limit which is impossible, pain can always be used as punishment though you may not be as extreme and in that case not prepared to push her that much even for punishment.

Being left alone also works, there's a lot of methods but again, it will depend on the couple.

For me some things mean my fingers are caned or I'm punished in a way that I'll never want to repeat the same mistake, but that's how correction should work, thankfully I don't do much wrong, I strive to make Him happy so it's rare I'm punished, truthfully, I'd be too frightened of it and avoid it as much as I can.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 10:44:36 PM

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Few things exist, that I hate more than corner time.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 10:46:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StrictlyKind

For me the rice would be overkill.

Separation is enough.

Unfortunately, that works quite well.

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RE: Punishments for subby. - 1/4/2011 10:56:19 PM

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i am a big fan of "funishment"-- i love being a cheeky and playful kitten and getting "funished" for it (oh, a spanking!). i know it's not for everyone, but for me it's a fun part of the "game" element of D/s. (lets face it, life is just one big very very fun game after all!)

However there is the "real" element-- deep down, i hate to disappoint Him, and simply knowing that i have hurt or upset or disappointed Him for real simply tears me to pieces. It just takes a look from Him. And that is worse than anything that could ever come from any whip.

My ex-Dom was very into strict obedience, and towards the end he would punish me for doing the wrong thing when i didn't entirely understand how to do it right, and the feeling of despair and hopelessness i felt was the beginning of the end. He chose to punish me, rather than stop and instruct and explain properly, and offer me opportunity to practice. It wasn't that i didn't want to fulfill the given task correctly, it was just that i didn't know how to do it and i needed practice in order to do it right.

Be sure you understand the distinctions between cheeky funishment, genuine inability, and deliberate disobedience. Be sure that your sub truly understands why she is being punished, and that it is for something that she could have helped. Don't punish for genuine inability. Please.

On the flipside, make sure you praise when she DOES do something right. A great deal of the joy and satisfaction (for me, anyway) that comes from D/s is knowing that He pays such close attention to me and He notices when i do something right, or even just appreciates me for being me. Praise her and make her feel good for doing the right thing by you, and the submissive need to please aside, she will naturally want to continue pleasing you because it also makes her feel great.

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