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myotherself -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/10/2011 2:26:52 PM)

As one who was on the receiving end of such advice...

I confided in someone (in vino veritas, naturally) about my dismal string of failed relationships and my decision to remain celibate for the rest of my life.

After a great deal of Q&A between us, he revealed that he was dominant, and suggested that I might be fulfilled in a D/s relationship of some kind. He pointed me in the right direction of a bdsm website, where I started to do some reading.

I was shockingly naive, and had no idea about power exchange relationships. That was 10 years ago, and after a lot of exploring and meeting new people, I have now recently begun a D/s relationship that feels soooo right.

So would I recommend a sub/slave life to someone? Probably not. But I would do my best to talk, listen and point them in the direction of useful information. It worked for me - maybe it would work for someone else [:)]



TheRaptorJesus -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 1:32:22 AM)

~FR~

I would advise anyone I cared about who was interested in being submissive, specifically if they had a vagina, to avoid it and any of these sites completely... and to just fap while fantasizing.



agirl -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 9:30:09 AM)

Highly unlikely. While I'm perfectly happy discussing how it pertains to my life, that's a far cry from some kind of recommendation. Just because it suits me, doesn't mean I'm likely to *recommend* it anymore than I'd recommend anything else when it comes to things like this.

I'm not an advocate for M/s and live with it purely because of the chap I'm with, so that not any grounds for recommending it.

agirl



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 9:48:49 AM)

if a friend told me that s/he was having thoughts of a particular kind and was feeling alone, then i'd talk with him/her. but i don't live my life in such a way that everyone who knows me knows what i'm into. a friend of mine asked me for my opinion on sex with bondage before, and so i outed myself and told her that i liked it, but she was a friend i'd known for a long time. i wouldn't go proselytizing about the wonders of D/s and how it can transform your life. =p but if a friend was curious, looking for info, wanted to talk, then i'd talk back. 



peacefulplace -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 4:47:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TheRaptorJesus

~FR~

I would advise anyone I cared about who was interested in being submissive, specifically if they had a vagina, to avoid it and any of these sites completely... and to just fap while fantasizing.




Hilarious. But Raptor Jesus, because your brain is the size of a walnut and reptilian in nature, why should we believe You?



TheRaptorJesus -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 9:00:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: peacefulplace


quote:

ORIGINAL: TheRaptorJesus

~FR~

I would advise anyone I cared about who was interested in being submissive, specifically if they had a vagina, to avoid it and any of these sites completely... and to just fap while fantasizing.




Hilarious. But Raptor Jesus, because your brain is the size of a walnut and reptilian in nature, why should we believe You?


Because I'm omniscient and my holiness keeps me from lying.

And toots, it's not the size of the boat... it's the motion of the cerebral ocean.



LPslittleclip -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/11/2011 9:59:32 PM)

if the person had talked about being a submissive or things of that nature like some of the above i would put them on the path of learning but to just recommend it because it works for me well  no. my wife is not in to D/s we have talked about it she has been to a munch and seen a play party and is ok with me doing it with my Mistress. now i have met several folks that just seem to be either Dom or sub material i don't just go tell them hey go try this. if they ask i will tell them but not just cause i enjoy being a slave.



Awareness -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/12/2011 12:16:06 AM)

  No.

Asking for a recommendation is fundamentally an avoidance of responsibility.  That telegraphs sub tendencies, but ultimate responsibility for trying out their kink must rest with the sub.  And frankly, I don't see what the big deal is.  This isn't like jumping into a cold ocean - and likewise, a sub doesn't need to jump into something with a sadistic dominant who likes to beat his subs.  She can start with being dominated during sex and work up from there.

People aren't always looking for the extreme.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/12/2011 12:26:47 AM)


depends on the loved one, and if I knew they gravitated to this kinda thing. Or had basic interest. I'd advise them to choose VERY carefully who to hand their reigns to though.
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ORIGINAL: slaveinbox

Hello all.  Just on the cusp of submitting for the first time.  Before i do, i'm just wondering, would the slaves/subs on this site recommend this life to a loved one?  Kind of probing, kind of nervous, i know, but i'm curious.  Thanx, sib.



crystalclarinet -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/12/2011 7:06:00 PM)

I can honestly say that it really has never come up. My friends are aware of my lifestyle choices but they could never begin to understand it. They think the total emotional connection that we share is silly and they just don't get it. I've never been in love until I found my Dom at least not like this is. I guess if people are not in the "zone" so to speak it would be really hard for them to understand it, at least it is for my friends!



cloudboy -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/13/2011 8:32:02 PM)


I would counsel someone to chose a more balanced relationship / lifestyle than "slavery."



leadership527 -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/16/2011 9:38:51 AM)

Would I recommend "submission" to someone? No.

What I would do is recommend that someone look carefully at who and what they ACTUALLY are... not what society tells them they ought to be. I would encourage people to seek inside themselves for what sort of relationship might ACTUALLY make them happy. Then I would encourage them to seek that type of relationship, no matter what label they choose to apply to it.

I would not, under any circumstances, encourage people to start applying BDSM labels to themselves or their relationships.



IrishMist -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/16/2011 10:35:20 AM)

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What I would do is recommend that someone look carefully at who and what they ACTUALLY are... not what society tells them they ought to be. I would encourage people to seek inside themselves for what sort of relationship might ACTUALLY make them happy. Then I would encourage them to seek that type of relationship, no matter what label they choose to apply to it.


[sm=applause.gif] nicely stated



trueshadow -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/17/2011 7:20:56 PM)

Exactly.  This is a strange post.  Personally, I love being a slave, and I'd recommend it to other subs/slaves.  But I don't going around asking folks if they fantasize about kissing someone's boots.



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ORIGINAL: txurinal

one does not choose to be a slave. That is a part of the make up of a person's being. As to would i recommend someone who wants to live as a slave. ABSOLUTELY. Never was i more contented with my life than when i was owned. Being the slave to someone who wants you is the greatest experience one can have in their life. Being a slave is very hard but the rewards are many



slaveinbox -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/22/2011 4:04:05 PM)

i have to say, i didn't expect an overwhelming response in favour of recommending submission/slavery to someone you cared about, but the response has been more negative than i thought it would be.  Kinda makes me think.  It's true, this is a, well, quirky life choice, and people were in favour of it for themselves, but ... well, it makes me think all the same.

i would like to thank everyone who posted a reply.  And to the poster who said they would never recommend this life to anyone with a vagina, agreed! ;)  Still, gonna think about this, and see where those thoughts bring me.  Thanks again for replying, much appreciated.



osf -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/22/2011 4:41:28 PM)

if I were to love someone I'd recommend they be my slave



leadership527 -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/26/2011 11:23:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveinbox
...but the response has been more negative than i thought it would be...

Just to be clear, my response was not negative regarding BDSM labels. It was negative regarding labels and little boxes in general. I wouldn't even recommend to someone hardcore into BDSM that they start defining themselves by BDSM labels. Therein lies the path to the true debates, the sub/slave debates, and all the other nonsense.



Genobee -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/27/2011 3:17:02 PM)

In my opinion it's either a hit or miss...
In more detail I mean you would have to find the idea of submitting pleasurable and your mate would have to find pleasure in dominating over you.

If you mean in lighter terms, as just a past time for experimentation.
Then why not? You/your mate may find that submission/dominance is a rather mighty force in the realm of view-point and stimulation.



Chulain -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/28/2011 4:02:04 PM)

Kind of a strange question, OP. Kind of like asking "Would you recommend homosexuality to a love one?" I would if they were gay, and I'd recommend submissiveness or slavery to a loved one who was submissive or felt "slave-like."

Otherwise, no, I would not.



wittynamehere -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/28/2011 4:06:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slaveinbox
Just on the cusp of submitting for the first time.

Oh come on, you've been submitting to the government since you got your first paper route, and perhaps longer.
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ORIGINAL: slaveinbox
recommend this life to a loved one?

I don't understand the question. That's like going to a forum about bisexuality and asking "would you recommend this life to a loved one?" This isn't a game or a hobby. Well, let me rephrase. This isn't a game or a hobby, to me.



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