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preytolife -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (1/29/2011 5:07:31 AM)
Most likely not...If they had some tendencies towards submission and I thought it would be healthy I might talk to them, use some buzzwords and suggest they do some research. If they come back and ask for more information I'm here. Oh yes, and I'd tell them to avoid CM at all costs. Not a good place for newbies.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (2/8/2011 7:57:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveinbox would the slaves/subs on this site recommend this life to a loved one? Umm, it all depends. Maybe, maybe not. I don't go around just....telling my family and/or loved ones that I'm a submissive or anything about my sex life either, just as I wouldn't want to hear about theirs. If they were talking to me about their relationship problems and were telling me they would prefer a relationship that sounded, to me, really D/s-ish, I might mention it to them as a possibility....if I were very sure that's what they were interested in and I thought they wouldn't freak. I can't say an absolute yes or no. It all depends on the person, the specifics of the situation, and my perceptions of what the person is "driving at." It just depends....on a lot of things. ~sweetsub~

sissyjame -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/8/2011 2:58:03 PM)
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHmmmmmmmmmm, not sure how to answer either. Answer is likely part reality and part fantasy. Have been the sub in a marriage. Enjoy being with and discussing lifestyle with other subs. Their limits and my limits rarely coincide. Being a sub to a Mistress or a Master outside of a relationship is hard. It takes time away from the relationship. So, if a couple can share that relationship, why not? I would think a sub couple or even a sub family could be quite intriguing. Yes there are taboos, yes there could be conflicts, but a sub couple would have oh so many possibilities, variations in scenes, positions, performance, service..... you name it. All scenes might be as a couple. One might feel humiliation, one might feel shame while the other is happy about the situation. Bi scenes would be fun, multiple or group participation easier with more involved whether sexual or service. So, not sure that this means recommending to family members or more that it is sharing with the family members.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/9/2011 12:58:03 AM)
Nope.

gungadin09 -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 1:47:15 AM)
No. i don't recommend oral sex to my loved ones, or try to sell them on a particular religion either. i prefer to let my loved ones make those kinds of decisions on their own. pam

LaTigresse -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 3:56:38 AM)
I recommend people follow whatever life path feel the most honest to themselves. Whatever that is.

hisdevin -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 9:25:38 AM)
I haven't read all the replies. But... No, I would not. If a friend came to me expressing a desire to submit to her lover (or to find someone to dominate her), I would do everything in my power to talk her out of submission and particularly out of slavery. This has nothing to do with my own happiness in my relationship. Instead, it has everything to do with how difficult this lifestyle is to maintain in a real-life setting. It's fun to talk about, role play can be satisfying, but the reality of a lifestyle of enslavement is that it is difficult. Even when I am completely fulfilled in my relationship, it is a lot of work. No lifestyle choice should be made without serious consideration of the ramifications of that choice. I wouldn't encourage someone to choose submission/enslavement, or polyamory, or to choose to stay at home instead of working, or to work instead of staying home, or to be gay or straight, etc. If, by discouraging someone from pursuing submission or enslavement, I can make them thing longer about their decision, that's what I'm going to do. It doesn't always work. I had a friend once who ruined her marriage due to her desire to be in a D/s relationship. But that just goes to show that no amount of discouraging on my part is going to stop someone from doing exactly what they want to in the end anyway.

Arpig -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 9:53:31 AM)
quote: Many are still totally unaware this world exists. I don't see how, I was aware of its existence from around the age of 10

hisdevin -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 9:57:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig quote: Many are still totally unaware this world exists. I don't see how, I was aware of its existence from around the age of 10 Some people don't want to see. I've also been aware from the age of about 10 or 12. I can't be really precise about it, but it was before I was in my teens. Others I know in their twenties and thirties don't even take notice if I wear a two and a half inch high collar. They think nothing of it, while others are naturally curious about my tags.

leadership527 -> RE: Would you recommend slavery/submission to a loved one? (3/10/2011 10:20:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig ]I don't see how, I was aware of its existence from around the age of 10 there's nothing complicated about it. I didn't know it existed in anything other than some dim, fuzzy sense of kink/porn/whatever until the age of 44. It just wasn't relevant in my life. I'm pretty sure there's tons of things I'm not particularly aware of. I see 'em all the time when I watch Dirty Jobs.

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