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Re-homing - 1/19/2011 8:51:06 PM   
cherryunicorn


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Status: offline 		I was reading some of the other message boards on other sites and the topic of "re-homing your slave" came up. It seemed to be defined as having a stand-by dominant in place for a slave if/when the dominant passes away, the new dominant steps in and owns the slave. It also seemed to be defined as if a dominant had too much on his or her plate, the dominant would find their slave a new dominant. This idea of re-homing also seems different than "being under protection".

So my question is..... have you ever considered finding your slave a new home? how would you as a slave feel about being found a new home and new dominants? If were re homed how did it work out?

My knee-jerk reaction to this as currently a submissive (possibly later down the road a slave) was..... wait "re-homed" I am an adult, i can care for myself, thank you..lol Then I thought about it and realized just because it would not be for me, doesn't mean it isnt perfect for others.
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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 8:55:21 PM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		I'll take a stab at this...You grew up in Northern Alaska, never left it, born an raised. You know everything thing there is about your environment, how to provide for yourself, stay warm, blah blah blah. Now for the first time you are going on a plane for a lil get about an suddenly you crash and find yourself lost in the Sahara.

Any questions?


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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 8:59:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I suddenly just pictured Sarah Palin, lost in the Sahara - ransomed for a small re-homing fee.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 9:00:00 PM   
TreasureKY


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Status: offline 		Hmmm... a certain dominant here asked Firm if he would leave me to him in his will.  Does that count?  

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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 9:01:56 PM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I suddenly just pictured Sarah Palin, lost in the Sahara - ransomed for a small re-homing fee.


Yew evil feckin git! I fell outa muh chair laughin at that one.


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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 9:04:05 PM   
BurntKitty


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Status: offline 		Is re-homing similar to re-gifting the "gift of submission"?

Must re-stoke the fire in my slabe belly while I'm being re-homed.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 9:15:27 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Alright I'll take a stab at this one.
There's no way in fecking hell that someone will give me away like an unused toy to another person. I make my own decisions, I chose who I want to be with. I am in control of my destiny, no one else.

I reached this stage of adulthood by taking charge of my life. I'm not suddenly not going to know what to do if I needed a new partner. I am the one who knows best what I want.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/19/2011 10:26:01 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		this wouldn't work for me since my surrender and submission is based upon a long term committed relationship with someone I love.  While yes I could submit to someone I don't love and have done it, I have no desire to do it again.



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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 1:51:56 AM   
SexyBossyBBW


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Status: offline 		I've had several of what I felt peculiar emails relating to this.   Peculiar, because I don't think a slave should be disposed of, without getting him some ?counseling/survival skills, so that perhaps transferring one, may be a viable option.

It isn't an option that would work for me, because I've never seen anyone give up prime slave types.   I do feel for some of the discharged/abandoned slaves I hear about sometimes...   After all, many people really get into the mindset, and serve as slaves.   Last week, this guy was begging me to take him, and not abandon him.   Se seemed genuinely lost, and freaked out by his new freedom.    I advised him to get professional help, and learn to better care for himself, but I felt sorry for him, as I sent him away.   M

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 2:30:01 AM   
BeautyDebased


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Status: offline 		Okay I had to bite,

And at the risk of becoming a regular on the forums I do understand the "Dom on standby" if a slaves Master passes away, it could be someone he trusts and knows would love and cherish the slave.

In no way should a slave be passed on if her Master is still alive, sure she is property, she is many things, lover, friend, partner, if a Master can discard a slave so easily then he's a disgrace and shouldn't title himself as such, there are rare cases such as infidelity, in this case it is for some, me included unforgivable.

Though these are my views and how I and my Master see a slave, a cherished part of a Masters life, an addition, a confidant and so much more that I could never list it all here.

In the case of the Master passing away, again, I see the intention is good but what slave would be able to focus? my sole reason for living is my Master and only him, when he passes on I know it will not be long before I follow.


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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 2:32:27 AM   
BeautyDebased


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

this wouldn't work for me since my surrender and submission is based upon a long term committed relationship with someone I love.  While yes I could submit to someone I don't love and have done it, I have no desire to do it again.






Ditto.


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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 4:38:47 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		This has a tradition.  Back in Biblical days when a woman could not earn a living (by honest means), the levirate recognized a man's responsibility to take care of his brother's obligations, and required him to marry his brother's widow.

That said, I have attempted to help place ex-submissives.  If agreed upon by myself and her, it's not a bad idea to have a second sense of eyes.


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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 4:45:32 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		There are people (including on this forum) that are incapable of making decisions on their own because of the learned helplessness dynamic they have adhered to within their relationship. If that is the dynamic, one would hope that the D or M type would be honorable enough to set up a "bridge" kind of person to assist the s-type in re-integrating the ability to make decisions.

It seems to me cruel to make someone helpless without some sort of plans made to assist in the moving on process in the event that a person leaves this life. I wouldn't be surprised either way. There are unscrupulous people as well as deeply honorable people. Most people are somewhere in between.

The less important question is whether these people turn into your re-home boys.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 5:31:04 AM   
Hillwilliam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

I suddenly just pictured Sarah Palin, lost in the Sahara - ransomed for a small re-homing fee.

I'd pay em to keep her.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 6:04:38 AM   
preytolife


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Status: offline 		I was told that it applies to some of the harder-line slaves. The ones that especially don't deal well without guidance to a point where it's dangerous. It might make sense for a Dom to have a friend to check up on their sub if something happens to them, something like "under the protection of", but I don't see the point of a sub being re-homed. Especially if they've got a good stable support network set up around them (which I'd hope they all have anyway, but then we live in hope...)

Pretty responsible of them actually, if they actually are taking into account the needs of the slave.

I have had former Doms promise to help me find a new Dom when we parted ways for my own stability, but never simply "re-homed" me. Lmao. I'm a bitch, not a dog.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 6:31:57 AM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		To me it sounds like something straight out of a porn magazine.  I wouldn't consider finding my girlfriend a new lover after we broke up, why would I try to find my submissive a new domme? That is why she is my EX, because I don't have to deal with her shit unless I really want to help out.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 6:38:26 AM   
thishereboi


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And at the risk of becoming a regular on the forums I do understand the "Dom on standby" if a slaves Master passes away, it could be someone he trusts and knows would love and cherish the slave.


Why? Do you feel you are incapable of taking care of yourself without a master to control you? Who took care of you before you were collared 3 months ago?

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In the case of the Master passing away, again, I see the intention is good but what slave would be able to focus? my sole reason for living is my Master and only him, when he passes on I know it will not be long before I follow.


I hate to be harsh, but shit happens. Are you suggesting that if your master got hit by a car tomorrow, you wouldn't be able to go on? How long have you actually known this man?


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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 6:42:33 AM   
mbes


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Status: offline 		Trying to re-home me would show a complete and utter lack of faith in my ability to live life that I would find insulting. I've seen it discussed seriously by others, though, so it must work for some people.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 7:31:48 AM   
LDVixen


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Status: offline 		Look, I already run a rescue for four legged critters. Now, here I find that there is a need for re-homing slaves. Okay, okay, I can bring them in also, but they have to adjust to sleeping in the puppy pens or at least on pallets until new Masters and Mistresses come along. On the plus side, they can clean up after themselves and are self-grooming, unlike my four legged furries.

Problem is, I have a very strict rule, anyone coming in is spayed or neutered and micro-chipped. I suppose I will have to adjust that rule for the bi-peds.

Now I have to think of all the strange excuses I am going to get for slaves needing to be re-homed. I get some interesting ones for the wee critters. "It got pregnant." (imagine that, it's a female, you added a male to the cage!) "The dogs are going crazy, they don't like it." "My landlord found out and I am going to be evicted if I don't send her to the pound."

I am not trying to offend anyone with words, I am simply pondering. All kidding aside, I do agree that there might be cases where re-homing is very important for slaves and I absolutely understand the seriousness for anyone who is in this type of relationship.

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RE: Re-homing - 1/20/2011 7:40:59 AM   
xssve


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Status: offline 		Depends on the sub I guess, and the alternatives: if not making contingency plans means just throwing her to the dogs then it might not be a bad thing, if she can take care of herself, then she can take care of herself.

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