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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
It would be like losing the boundaries of oneself.

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It's an interesting concept that Masters become interchangeable I know. But the condition of being owned, in my experience, is closer to that of let's say an arranged marriage (read this as arranged relationship) than any other I can think of.
I suspect that having such an arrangment made would not necessarily involve the same depth of love/devotion/acceptance but these are feelings that grow within the bond.
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ORIGINAL: cherryunicorn

I was reading some of the other message boards on other sites and the topic of "re-homing your slave" came up. It seemed to be defined as having a stand-by dominant in place for a slave if/when the dominant passes away, the new dominant steps in and owns the slave.

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ORIGINAL: MaxsGirl
I see "rehoming" as the OP describes as being more based in the kind of fantasy M/s that some people live online, where slaves are actually property that can be bought and sold, and are entirely dependent on their ultra domly owners for "protection" and the like.  I could be wrong, but that's what the OP brings to mind.

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I'd be pretty lost without Alpha.  If something happened to end our relationship, I'm sure I'd flounder a bit.  But in the end, I'm an adult with a functioning brain and strong survival instinct, and I'd be able to pull myself up and move on if need be.

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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

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ORIGINAL: MaxsGirl

I'd be pretty lost without Alpha.  If something happened to end our relationship, I'm sure I'd flounder a bit.  But in the end, I'm an adult with a functioning brain and strong survival instinct, and I'd be able to pull myself up and move on if need be.

If you yourself, an adult with strong survival instincts, can admit to floundering (if God forbid...), why would it be unfathomable, that a slave, who for some reason, lost his Master, might feel lost for more than a little while, without counseling/assistance?     M

I'm definetely not into BDSM porn (much), but find it believable that if a Master and slave lived their lives a certain way, in time the slave's mind would be affected, and it might take a significant amount of time, and retraining, before he/she would feel strong and capable again.   M

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re-homing, as if the slave is a dog who literally becomes the property of another (with or without her consent) in the event of her Master's leaving or death.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Life insurance with her as the beneficiary might have been the better way to go IMO.

We consent to enter into power relationships. Therefore we cannot be entered into a different relationship without our consent. The owner may mean well but he would do better to make sure she is financially and otherwise prepared to go on alone. Which means also having strong family ties and other social support.

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY
Hmmm... a certain dominant here asked Firm if he would leave me to him in his will.  Does that count?  

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ORIGINAL: cherryunicorn

I was reading some of the other message boards on other sites and the topic of "re-homing your slave" came up. It seemed to be defined as having a stand-by dominant in place for a slave if/when the dominant passes away, the new dominant steps in and owns the slave. It also seemed to be defined as if a dominant had too much on his or her plate, the dominant would find their slave a new dominant. This idea of re-homing also seems different than "being under protection".

So my question is..... have you ever considered finding your slave a new home? how would you as a slave feel about being found a new home and new dominants? If were re homed how did it work out?

My knee-jerk reaction to this as currently a submissive (possibly later down the road a slave) was..... wait "re-homed" I am an adult, i can care for myself, thank you..lol Then I thought about it and realized just because it would not be for me, doesn't mean it isnt perfect for others.