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RE: Humiliation??? - 5/17/2006 1:37:16 PM

Sensualips

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Oh good, this thread is still alive. This makes me happy.

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Isn't that what we crave, as submissives; Control?

I have heard many submissives state that, but I don't think that is true for me. For most of my life I have been very "in control" and situations that felt out of control were very negative and anxiety producing. For me, submission might include allowing myself tolerate or enjoy an "out of control" sensation -- but it is not really about the other person having the control or controlling me. I don't crave control in that way at all.

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It is in response to being "compelled" or "made" to do something one finds embarrassing

Yes...but not for me. I am not sure if that is because I don't embarrass easily or if it that I am rarely "made" to do something I wouldn't normally do of my own free will depending on the circumstances. (I have been made to do something I really did not want to do, because I had previously consented to authority in that area. Mostly it just made me irritated but in an okay way.)

Here is an example. In a scene the top slapped me some and wrote on my chest with lipstick. Later he removed my tampon and brought it to me. I was motioned to hold it in my mouth, string dangling, for the remainder of that portion of the scene. Still later I had blood running down my legs when I was on a cross. Afterwards a submissive approached me and commented she really could never go for that kind of humiliation herself, but it was great to watch. I was mildly confused and had to ask which parts she felt were humiliating. She listed the above things. Hmmmmm. I found those things dirty and nasty, but not humiliating or embarassing. Just another way that humiliation is different for different people.

So I still am not sure what would be really humiliating to me -- and if I would love it or hate it. But I do like reading the impressions of others here.

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RE: Humiliation??? - 5/17/2006 1:42:26 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Still later I had blood running down my legs when I was on a cross. Afterwards a submissive approached me and commented she really could never go for that kind of humiliation herself, but it was great to watch. I was mildly confused and had to ask which parts she felt were humiliating. She listed the above things. Hmmmmm. I found those things dirty and nasty, but not humiliating or embarassing. Just another way that humiliation is different for different people.

Breathing heavy again...that wouldn't be humiliating or nasty OR dirty for me...but it sure would be hot and intense.

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