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Water sports - 1/24/2011 2:05:07 AM

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Ok here goes. I don't know much about this just what I found on the internet. It tells what and how but, What I want to know is why. What would a sub get from it other than the need to shower. I really want to know.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 2:50:49 AM

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Does the s-type have to get something out of everything he/she does for the one they submit to?

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:05:34 AM

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No. Just trying to understand the need for that. Someone is just pushing me to think beyond my comfort zone. So I thought others view would be helpful.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:13:17 AM

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It really depends what you mean by 'push'. If you had already both agreed that this was not a scenario that would be visited, then the person doing the pushing is out of order.

If you didn't discuss it, or are only just discussing it now and feel this is an unacceptable part of the relationship, then explain that the answer is no and he/she either has to accept that or move on.

However, if this is a relationship that has no boundaries and no option of refusal, and this is not a scene that you find does it for you, then concentrate on the fact that you are submitting to your partners desire, rather than the action itself. Have you spoken to your partner and found out why he/she wants to do this?

What it does for s-types would be irrelevant in the final example and the focus is more on why the dominant party is interested in this.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:15:38 AM

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quote:

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Ok here goes. I don't know much about this just what I found on the internet. It tells what and how but, What I want to know is why. What would a sub get from it other than the need to shower. I really want to know.

It's him marking his territory.
It's him doing what he wants , when he wants and how he wants.
And for some strange reason, I'm wired to want what he wants. Not what I want.

edited to add...and for for reasons unknown, I find it fucking hot too. Even if I didn't, it wouldn't matter.
He does a lot of things to me that I don't like.
But the nature of our relationship, and what I agreed to in the very beginning was that he makes the rules and I follow em.
And that right there is the biggest turn on for both of us.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:25:04 AM

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This question is coming from he likes it I don't know if i like it. We are at the stage where we coming to an arrangement so to speak. If and when he is my dom then I would either enjoy it learn to enjoy it or do it because he likes it.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:30:05 AM

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This question is coming from he likes it I don't know if i like it. We are at the stage where we coming to an arrangement so to speak. If and when he is my dom then I would either enjoy it learn to enjoy it or do it because he likes it.

Ok.....then what's the problem?

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 3:30:14 AM

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But have you asked him why he likes it?

As Aileen stated, sometimes it's about marking territory. Or it could just be that he just wants to do it because he knows you don't like it and wants you to squirm. Or that he likes it because you are doing it for him anyway (submitting). If it's not about you and what it does for you and all about something he wants, then the most important thing to know is why he likes it, so you can get into that headspace, not the headspace of what it might be about for other s-types, ya dig? Otherwise you run the risk of imposing other peoples kinks on yourself for the wrong reasons.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 4:25:52 AM

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Sometimes it is only needful for you to desire to do something just to please him. But if it turns out to be an act you just cannot take, make it clear it is a hard limit.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 6:54:21 AM

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Hello there,

As a dom I've dated a couple of subs who found w/s very erotic. In both cases - it wasn't the "being covered in piss" or "being made to wet their knickers" that was horny - It was the fact that they submitted to it.

I'm not suggesting that this is the way all (or even "Most") subs would view it, but it is how a couple of my past playmates have.

One of them described being pissed on as one of the most intimate things someone could to to her...

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 7:07:45 AM

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What would a sub get out of it?

Nothing really. My ex tried it a few times, as the aforementioned marking of territory and I was just annoyed that I had to go take a shower right away. He thought it was hot, I did not. He liked it, I did not. Big deal, life went on.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 7:35:52 AM

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it's really warm, and exciting, and it's like a bonding thing. that's what i, as a submissive, get out of watersports ;3

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 9:51:42 AM

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He marks his territory and it's hot. Also, for reasons I can't put my finger on, it is extremely intimate and bonding when he does this. There's a big emotional connection that is shared. He rarely does it, so it's special when he does.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 9:58:28 AM

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As others have said here, sometimes you just do things because they like it. You either end up liking it too, or you like that it makes them happy. Or both.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 10:54:22 AM

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He did it because he knew I hated it.

He did it to give me a chance to show my obedience.

He did it to mark his territory.

For me, that's enough.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 1:07:59 PM

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He marks his territory and it's hot. Also, for reasons I can't put my finger on, it is extremely intimate and bonding when he does this. There's a big emotional connection that is shared. He rarely does it, so it's special when he does.

yeah! that's what i was trying to say about it being a bonding thing. it was also really special for me and my owner because like we hadn't done it with any other people before.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 4:10:45 PM

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It really helps for me to hear others views and even if I din't agree with someone I would never be rude. Everyone is different and it spices up life. Thank you to all who replied.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 4:41:01 PM

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Ok here goes. I don't know much about this just what I found on the internet. It tells what and how but, What I want to know is why. What would a sub get from it other than the need to shower. I really want to know.

It is humiliating to be peed on my one's Mistress. If you don't get off on humiliation, then you won't be able to understand it.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 4:51:14 PM

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If you don't get off on humiliation, then you won't be able to understand it.

It's not always about humiliation, though. It's not humiliating for me, at all. It connects us, somehow.

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RE: Water sports - 1/24/2011 6:14:37 PM

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The first time it occurred, it was funny and made me feel very submissive.
The second time with my second Sir, it felt - awkward - and made me feel submissive.

Other than that, it really doesn't do a lot for me.

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