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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: 'Deleted unread' (1/26/2011 3:21:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fucksuckwhore
Just curious - I've recently noticed when checking my sent mail that one or two mails have been 'deleted unread'. These are not pestering mails being sent to people who have previously declined to answer, but first time ones to people I've not contacted before, and whom generally seem to be looking for the same kind of thing as me. I'm just a touch puzzled - why would anyone bother to do this? If you don't at least open a mail and glance at it, how do you know if its something or someone you might want to respond to?
Because when someone is new to the site and chooses a username like yours, and I get to see their arse, penis, or impaled anus before even saying hello...the conversations usually lead to a dead end. Most are exploring D/s through cybering in chatrooms or being a coughcamwhorecough, offering nothing I am interested in. [;)]
I usually do not delete first letters sent to me still unread, but something you may not be aware of is that...sending a polite refusal often gets a nastygram in return. Some choose to avoid this by simply deleting and using block with people they are not interested in.
Personally, I don't like to share...so if a guy is bisexual or poly it's a deal breaker. I state this clearly in my profile, but...most of the men who make contact with me for the first time are bisexual or into multiple partners. If you are reading just the profile, I would advise reading most if not all of their journal entries just in case.
Also...a little mystery is good...uncovering that ass for the very first time in private is much better than seeing it all hang out like I've wandered into a meat market.
And finally, I am still on page one of this thread and don't know if others have noticed yet...but the face on that pic looks like a twenty year old, not of someone who is 48. I know...I'm not really a cartoon cow with wings, but people can figure out that I'm not trying to mislead them about how I look.
Btw, welcome to CollarMe, and good luck with your search.
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Edited to add:
I hope you do not choose to take offense and see what I've said as a personal insult. When you ask something like this:
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why would anyone bother to do this? If you don't at least open a mail and glance at it, how do you know if its something or someone you might want to respond to?
Sometimes we define what we want by stating what we don't want. (When I asked my ex-husband what veggies he would eat, he answered by saying, "Well I'm NOT eating those mushrooms, onions, bell peppers, spinach, squash, lettuce, radishes, carrots, peas, green beans..." I have also looked at profiles of men who write to me...in stealth mode before opening their letter. Just open a second CM window, go into Home, and type in that person's username under Search. It's a shame now that I have to look at their complete profile just to see if they have left posts in the message boards...unless I open a third window into the message boards to use Search to see if they have posted. Sometimes being passed over for seemingly no reason...was actually a decision someone made after taking the time to learn more about you.
The "Who's Viewing Me" list may have a very fast turn around for women here at CM, but it must take a lot longer for at least the submissive males...because if I become visible about perving profiles, I am contacted month after month after month by guys I am not interested in just because they see my name on their list.
Your username and the pic choosen for your profile are your own business, and remember that I did not seek your profile out to leave unasked for comments. You got my opinions because you asked for them.
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