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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 4:44:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Ishtarr

I drew that conclusion because he claimed that he's been criticised for not being 'service orientated' and that people have told him that it's wrong for him to want what he is looking for.

Well, that did happen; which is why I initially responded by trying to explain the reason that 'anti-sex' responses are prevalent.

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ORIGINAL: Ishtarr

If he equates getting answers to his questions to being criticized and told what he wants is wrong, I indeed feel like he's annoyed and finds it unfair that people aren't more interested in what he's looking for.

Well, that sounds about right too. I just don't see any genuine overt whining from him as opposed to bewildered curiosity (his explosion at FT was a bit over the top, but he's probably understandably sensitive about the whole thing by now).

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 4:45:48 PM   
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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 4:54:25 PM   
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is bdsm in reality about one person serving another? Or is it about glorious foreplay for good sex?

It's about whatever THOSE INVOLVED within the relationship make it out to be.

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:04:29 PM   
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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:19:21 PM   
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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:22:29 PM   
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You lost Me there, Dude.


The posters presentation was concise and to the point, sans whining frustration.


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:26:29 PM   
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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:27:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Got it now.

(Sorry, My head is a bit caught up in a project atm.)



No worries luv. Jus thought it may actually have some impact if he were directed at an intro that was more positive.


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:30:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: fucksuckwhore

Fukin Trool - I'm not asllowed to put up other posts on this site? You actually own it? Tryt changing yourscreen name to Fukin Twat!


*shakes muh head*

Big mistake.


I've got the strangest feeling of déjà vu about this thread.

Or possibly déjà vu vu, but I can’t be sure yet :)

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:35:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

I've got the strangest feeling of déjà vu about this thread.

Or possibly déjà vu vu, but I can’t be sure yet :)



LOL! Perhaps he listened, deleted an is going to give it a more reasonable try.


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:44:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: fucksuckwhore

I've been told my screen name is a bit off-putting - quote 'sounds like it should be on adult friendfinder'; or on a porno films credits. All offers for the latter. please go direct to my inbox! But - it says how I regard myself, and to a great extent the way I want to be treated in a relationship. But I've also been criticised for not being 'service orientated' and basically wanting a kinky sex relationship. Hang on; what exactly is wrong with me wanting that, if its my thing? Why should I have to be offering myself to 'serve' others; unless they, as is made clear in my profile, are interested in the kind of service I am interested in giving? This 'service orientation'in my view can be a great way for women, and men, to genuinely 'use' someone to do what they want, and then spit them out. I have in fact been used in exactly that way in the past. Once I'd done all her back ironing, helped her with her studies and boarded out her loft, I was dumped. So, question: is bdsm in reality about one person serving another? Or is it about glorious foreplay for good sex?



You've been told so because you asked why people delete your mails unread

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3544788/mpage_1/tm.htm

Nothing wrong with wanting what you want, but you asked why people might delete your mails unread, people gave you suggestions...

You think BDSM is just about foreplay for good sex, again nothing wrong with it but possibly not something everybody here agrees with, hence after a quick scan of your profile people possibly delete your mails unread because they will think you're not compatible or they might not like the profile.

Look, why are you bothered about it if you're getting what you want? Shouldn't you be laughing about getting it in the way you want it? Now if you don't then possibly a few people gave you hints about why not, but again, you can just ignore it all if you're getting what you want as often as you want it...

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:49:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

I've got the strangest feeling of déjà vu about this thread.

Or possibly déjà vu vu, but I can’t be sure yet :)



LOL! Perhaps he listened, deleted an is going to give it a more reasonable try.



So you're saying that calling you a twat is now a "reasonable" option?

Schweet! :)

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 5:50:55 PM   
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So you're saying that calling you a twat is now a "reasonable" option?

Schweet! :)



LOL! I guess you are what you eat, eh dickhead?


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:01:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

LOL! I guess you are what you eat, eh dickhead?

Heh. I've missed you, Mr Slurpface. You bring light to CM. In a kind of twatty way.

But to answer the original question ('coz I realised I didn't in the first place):

quote:


So, question: is bdsm in reality about one person serving another? Or is it about glorious foreplay for good sex?

'BDSM in reality', in the sense of a thing that can be 'about' only one specific set of somethings, doesn't actually exist. The 'or' in your question is an error. It's both the options you've given, but it's also asexual and deadly serious, and ridiculously camp, and kind of violent and nasty, and sometimes fucking scary. Depends who's doing it.

Your version isn't any better than anyone else's, but it also doesn't have to bear any relation to anyone else's; you're connected by a vague set of acronyms - nothing more.

(And it's really not the fault of people in service-oriented relationships that you were stupid enough to get played; your lack of filtering when you've chosen partners doesn't make anybody else a user for liking things vaguely related to the things liked by people you've been with - it makes you someone who makes bad choices).

< Message edited by VaguelyCurious -- 1/26/2011 6:02:22 PM >

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:07:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

So you're saying that calling you a twat is now a "reasonable" option?

Schweet! :)



LOL! I guess you are what you eat, eh dickhead?



In that case, call me ... Mister Thai Curry! :)

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:08:39 PM   
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In that case, call me ... Mister Thai Curry! :)


Is that with or without coconut milk an peanuts? Jus curious you know, this could be for posterity.


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:09:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Heh. I've missed you, Mr Slurpface. You bring light to CM. In a kind of twatty way.



Aww... yew made me a blushy in a twatty kinda way.

SLURP!


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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:28:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

In that case, call me ... Mister Thai Curry! :)


Is that with or without coconut milk an peanuts? Jus curious you know, this could be for posterity.



It was with coconut milk, peanuts and loads of red Thai curry paste.

And it's been more for posteriorority, so far. Parpage has been constant, and from the north-east.

"Jovial wind of winter,
Turns us out to play,
Sweep the golden reed-beds,
Crisp the lazy dyke,
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Every plunging pike."

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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:29:12 PM   
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RE: BDSM and good 'ol sex! - 1/26/2011 6:30:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

It was with coconut milk, peanuts and loads of red Thai curry paste.

And it's been more for posteriorority, so far. Parpage has been constant, and from the north-east.

"Jovial wind of winter,
Turns us out to play,
Sweep the golden reed-beds,
Crisp the lazy dyke,
Hunger into madness,
Every plunging pike."



LMAO! We are SOOOOOO getting mod mail.


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