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lally2 -> RE: Is Love Inconvenient? (1/29/2011 12:02:03 PM)
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ORIGINAL: BenevolentM
I find myself out of place here in the lifestyle given my penchant for the nectar of the gods. Whether it be my desire to climb Mt. Olympus or my adoration of the Goddess in her many forms. Many feel that adoration is a devotion for submissives only, unbecoming a dominant male. A loveless partnership is practical in that if there is no illusion of love, it is easier to get down to business. Toss my salad and we vacation in Greece.
for some it is the case, but im going to stick my neck out here and say of those Dominants who do not wish to muddy their agenda with love are the ones who cannot assimilate love and dominance as one and the same. personally i avoid those people and i think a vast majority of subs/slaves do too.
those Dominants who worry that they cannot 'abuse' theyre sub and still love them do not understand the submissive at all. for a sub, part of her/his expression of giving and submission is to be taken in all ways, physically, emotionally and mentally. it is more than possible to fall in love with youre submissive and be Dominant over her or him because a sub or slave is simply being what they need to be and they need to be dominated, controlled, beaten, tied up, suspended etcettera....,
its only those new to the game or inept with love or not looking for emotional ties that cling to the notion that to be Dominant is to be austere, distant and cold.
sadly this myth is perpetuated by many subs also new to the game who are driven by fever to be taken wholesale and dont give a fig for love or anything else whilst the fever burns bright. and we are talking about those looking for LTR i assume, not casual play.
as you get seasoned you realise what a load of tosh that is.
this is a relationship and for a relationship to hold together there has to be some level of need for the other, beyond BDSM, IMO
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