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ORIGINAL: strangedesire

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ORIGINAL: nakedplaything

i am looking for intense, harsh, domination and humiliation. the sort  you would recieve in a fantasy in which you were enslaved by someone who  is cruel, views you with contempt, and enjoys dehumanising and sexualy humiliating you. as close to real, non consensual sexual slavery to a woman as it can be while still being consensual. face slapping, hair pulling, facial manipulation, intimidation to the extent where i do feal a certain amount of 'fear'. flogging to the extent where i genuinely do beg for it to  stop.

The acts you're describing? Absolutely. I'll throw my Kitten around, slap her, pull her hair, tell her that she's an object for my pleasure. I frequently hurt her until she's begging me to stop and then some. She's afraid of me, she says, like horror movies or roller coasters. It's a fear that she can enjoy because she knows that she is physically and emotionally safe in my hands.

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are their ladies out there who share these extreme fantasies and are completely capable of indulging in them/inflicting them, while still being able to maintain a 'vanilla' relationship and an element of mutual respect etc? or is it too much to expect this level of domination/sexual slavery from a woman while still having some sort of 'normal' relationship with her.

I'm a sadist. She's a masochist. Our relationship is based on respect for each other and our desires. Kitten isn't a doormat - she couldn't take this kind of treatment from anyone who didn't respect see her as fully human. And one someone becomes fully human to you, you can't go back. No matter what I do to her, I can't take her personhood away in my own mind.

I wouldn't have it any other way.

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the reason i ask is that i would imagine if a woman has a relationship with you outside of the bdsm, she may find it difficult to be like this with you.

For me it would be the opposite. When I play like this with people, I have to be able to trust that it will make them stronger, rather than hurting them. It is against my nature to do emotional damage: I leave people better than I found them, not worse. My sadism doesn't change this.