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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/30/2011 11:52:11 PM

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Thank you for so clearly pointing out the obvious... It seems I have some work to get to regarding my presentation.

and perhaps regarding your manners........

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:55:30 AM

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Stud2u, all we know is what's in front of us. You are online, we don't know you, and there are very few pieces of information available to your audience. Lets look at this information.

Your username is a sexual reference.
Your picture is of a nude chest.
Your very short profile is all sex and kink.

Actually putting time into a profile doesn't do any better. Until yesterday, I had a very long write-up on my page, and it never got any attention. I had 4 non-D/s pics up, and there was no mention of kink OR sex.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 9:15:25 AM

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Actually putting time into a profile doesn't do any better. Until yesterday, I had a very long write-up on my page, and it never got any attention. I had 4 non-D/s pics up, and there was no mention of kink OR sex.

Ok, well, if I were looking and an email from you came into my inbox I'd see your username, I'd see your facial picture and I'd probably take a look at what you had to say. Then I'd probably look at your profile because based on the impressions that you just gave me, we might be on the same page. If that's not happening for you yes, it's frustrating, and as others have said unfortunately it's not that easy. I would think that it does at least give you a better chance to get what you want if you are targeting the correct audience. Both you and the OP seem like worthy partners, I hope things work out eventually.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 9:37:42 AM

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you just have to be upfront about what you're looking for, while also not writing off something just because it's not ideal. i met my former M on a vanilla networking site, and we became fuckbuddies. =p a REALLY powerful power-exchange relationship evolved out of that. we were both interested in at least being friends because we liked each other as people -- i think that's important. if you like someone, you like them, whether it's just a fuckbuddy or a "forever-n-ever" sort of thing. and even if you don't find EXACTLY what you want, you might make a great friend in the process.
be true to yourself, and also be aware of what you're really looking for so that you'll know it when it pops up out of nowhere. =p

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 9:43:53 AM

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You have no profile and your screen name is "Stud2u" Why in hell would you expect people to think you were serious?

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 9:47:03 AM

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You have no profile and your screen name is "Stud2u" Why in hell would you expect people to think you were serious?

I have no profile. I'm serious.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 9:49:48 AM

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JohnWarren, he DID have a profile. A bare chested pic and a laundry list of kinks. For some reason, he removed or hid it.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 11:25:44 AM

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JohnWarren, he DID have a profile. A bare chested pic and a laundry list of kinks. For some reason, he removed or hid it.

OK, that would have been some points for him, but the name comment still stands

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 1:19:04 PM

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Sure wish you all would make up your minds.

First back in the day was all about sexual submission or there was rarely if ever...any submission. (be careful here)

Then online it's the vanilla sites and it often ALL about the sex. Then it's online and in the D/s, M/s 'dynamic' (heard Judge Judy say that, so I can use it too) it's NOT about the sex...so......

Then it's kinky sites with the unadulterated emphasis on our kinky, sexual...read sexual fetishes (erotic) the porn and we get this...why is it only about kinky sex ?

If this place and certain other sites don't make you laugh...you ain't pay'n attention.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:44:55 PM

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Just a quick update... I have hid my profile because I am working on an updated version... I hope to have it up soon as time to work on it permits. The many comments here have helped a lot and for that I am grateful, and am open to any new comments once it is again public.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:47:51 PM

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Also not sure if I can change the name without creating a new profile... Which may be in the way I go

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:49:27 PM

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Just a quick update... I have hid my profile because I am working on an updated version... I hope to have it up soon as time to work on it permits. The many comments here have helped a lot and for that I am grateful, and am open to any new comments once it is again public.

Sounds like a plan

It's nice to see that you've re-evaluated things, I look forward to seeing the new version.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:50:30 PM

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Also not sure if I can change the name without creating a new profile... Which may be in the way I go

You can't change your name on the same profile, you'll have to open a new one and close this one out.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:51:10 PM

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Special thanks to lizi and darksteven... Most insightfull

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 1/31/2011 8:55:44 PM

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Special thanks to lizi and darksteven... Most insightfull

What about me? Surely my sarcasm did a world of good.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find more than just kinky sex?? - 2/2/2011 7:28:43 AM

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Sex is something you do in a relationship. Its part of the M/S lifestyle or can be at least. This is not what defines a relationship. To me a Master has a more meaning then making sure someone's pussy gets wet and they get there rocks off. A Master controls all aspects of life to a slave. My Owner guides me in the path and direction he wants me to follow. I must think outside the box and from his examples learn what he wants me to learn. There are many things a Master can provide then just sexually. Its that complete control over the other person and goes way beyond then just barking orders out sexually. Anyone can bark orders out but a real Master is someone who can go past that. My Master works with me to get past certain goals that he wants accomplished. He is also my teacher, my creator, my lover, my everything, my One. For him to accomplish he gives me more then just barking orders around. He fills the holes in my soul.

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