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'men' who think it's ok to use words like pussy in a pejorative sense [I'll wait while you look it up; I'll just hum Jeopardy music], b*tch or c*nt, like the New Jersey dudes you probably honour and obey, don't like women.

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ORIGINAL: StuntmanMike
And yet here you are, "defending your boy" despite your own admission that he's not in this thread. So which is it? Are you here sticking up for your absent boy, or are you here admitting that he's a pussy? I'm genuinely curious now.

You're so "unconcerned" about what people whine about on the internet, that you just had to come into this thread and defend your boy who was *not* already in here, because you don't like someone on the internet attacking him?

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

So, there are two new self-important assholes on the boards? Great.

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Dude, not trying to derail your thread here, but there is some bigotry, in a sense.  Granted, it's not to the same extremes.  Still, I can absolutely say that I've seen it.

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I don't want to particularly assign it to one particular side of the kneel over the other, either.  It's something that I have noticed in rare cases, but it happens.  I'm not even particularly happy in stating that I see it in males, as I'm sure it happens in females as well.

There are some cases where there are individuals that have such bitterness and resentment against a particular demographic (i.e. owned sub males) because those persons have what they can't obtain for themselves.  That does get turned into a bigotry, in a sense, that is projected outward, rather than looking inward.  In some rare instances, Dominant men do this when they have an inner desire to submit, but don't have the courage or opportunity to do so.  Some submissives do it to other submissives because they feel 'cheated' that a certain submissive may have a dynamic with a Dominant woman that they had wanted for themselves.

I am not saying that this was the basis for your thread.  I did think it might be something that would be interesting for the discussion.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Since you can't seem to understand this, I'll make it very simple for you.

No.  My boy is absolutely not a pussy and I would tell you that about him whether he was My boy or not.  The man happens to be a four time war vet, a great father, and a very strong human being. 

My reference to the online thing was the chat room bullshit that you brought up.  Why the hell anyone would waste their time doing it with their submissive is beyond My comprehension.  Spending time in a chat room rather than putting the time and effort into more interesting pursuits isn't My way of doing things.  Being a sadist, I can think of much better things to do with the time I have with My submissive.

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Thoughts?

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Yea, are you this obnoxious in real life or do you save it for online interactions only?

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Plus I'm not whining at all. Lame dudes like that make the cream rise to the top even faster.

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Ok, I get it now. You are trying to make the other boys on here look better. Carry on, by all means.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
So, there are two new self-important assholes on the boards? Great.

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Having done that in spades, there's no reason for me not to head out and get my dinner.

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude

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Having done that in spades, there's no reason for me not to head out and get my dinner.

Peace out, bro. Keep it real :)

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude
That literally made me giggle out loud because I appreciate the personality type that would wade into this carnage and start trying to reassemble something into some semblance of coherence. I genuinely appreciate that You're still focused enough so late in the game to try to stay "on topic." :)

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What You're describing sounds like ressentiment, which Wikipedia (good for quick and dirty definitions if nothing else) defines as "Ressentiment is a sense of hostility directed at that which one identifies as the cause of one's frustration, that is, an assignment of blame for one's frustration. The sense of weakness or inferiority and perhaps jealousy in the face of the "cause" generates a rejecting/justifying value system, or morality, which attacks or denies the perceived source of one's frustration. The ego creates an enemy in order to insulate itself from culpability."

I agree this is something we see pretty frequently, where a person (unconsciously) bases their entire persona and moral framework on a resentment so deep seated they may not even be able to admit they have it.

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It's interesting that You bring up Doms who have a secret yearning to submit...is that really common? I wonder how often that also happens with Dommes....

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude

That literally made me giggle out loud

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude
Thoughts?

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ORIGINAL: StuntmanMike
New? No. Asshole? Yes. Self-important? I don't think I can compare on that front with the "collarme clique" that is so prevalent around here, nor would I want to.

You see, you use the asshole moniker (and even kick in the troll one for good measure) because I'm not part of, nor would I want to be part of, the collarme clique. Look at the boards. It's the same people repeating over and over and over. This is like the internet version of "Mean Girls." Anyone who goes against the norm, anyone who doesn't stroke the ego of the collarme clique is a troll, or cast aside. Well, I'm fine with that, because I've seen and talked with many in the collarme clique and have little to no use for them.

As a matter of fact, during this whole thread, I was talking with a friend of mine and we were talking about how we never hang out much on message boards. I told her (yes her...I know that shocks your image of me) that I don't come around here unless it's to ruffle the features of the "self-important" collarme clique.

Having done that in spades, there's no reason for me not to head out and get my dinner.

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How frequently we see it may be up to personal interpretation.  For example, we used to see it directed at clip more when I first was considering him more than now.  As time goes on, it happens less.  Every now and then there will be a stray notice of it.

Years ago, I was sitting with another member of these boards at a club in Atlanta and we were discussing this very issue.  Frankly, she is a stunningly beautiful woman who also happens to be a pro.  When she first became involved with the man who is her submissive now, the phenomenon was the same.  He literally got hate mail.  We weren't alone in this, either. 

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I hear that guys who giggle out loud and admit to it are pussies. *shrug*