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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/7/2006 6:03:37 PM   
Tine11


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Status: offline 		I am glad you are honored by this role. I can personally tell you that as a vergin honestly I will remeber my first time forwever when i choose to give it someone. It something that prize very highly, and i would think that he would to, if he has kept it this long. It will be most likely be speacal to him anyway even if you don't go all out. I would say just make it as realaxing as humenly possable, for i can see him being nervous.

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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/7/2006 8:42:10 PM   
DelightMachine


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But as you have pointed out, emotions can surface and take one by surprise. Do you have any suggestions on how to gently avoid this? I don't want to cause him any heartache but I don't want to be cold and hurt him that way either. What can I do to keep things on a fondly affectionate and friendly level?


I  think the most effective thing, but maybe the hardest to pull off, is for him to be with another woman fairly quickly.

Do you intend to spend the night with him and wake up in the morning with him? For me, that's one of the most enjoyable things about sex, but perhaps its one of those things that's also the most "bonding."

By the way, have you already seen him naked, had any foreplay with him? If you have, it might make the first time a little easier for him.

Now I'm actually very serious about this idea, but It'll make you laugh: Insist that for this sexual relationship to continue, he's got to do something that really turns you on. Now it doesn't matter what it is, or even whether it turns you on or not (although I guess it would be better if it actually did) -- but it's got to be something that he really, really doesn't like at all. He'll do it for a while as long as the sexual experience is overwhelming to him, but eventually it will turn him off to having sex with you.

Potential examples: He's got to put on a pair of women's panties (and perhaps leave your place while wearing them under his clothes), he's got to dance naked for you, he's got to let you use a strap-on up his ass, he's got to spank you (or be spanked by you).

Chat with him about sexual perversions and find one he hates, then tell him, oh, that's too bad, I really, really like that one. It really turns me on. Will you pleeeeze do that for me?" And then have a headache that just won't go away untill he (despearate that he will be for more sex) agrees to do this thing he hates. He'll do it a few times, get used to the sex and get more and more annoyed that he has to do this thing. Then just insist on it. It will end on pretty good terms, especially if  you know another woman out there who wants a well-trained stud.


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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/7/2006 11:29:28 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		I can take it or leave it. There's no particular pull of it for me. I've gone years not having oral.  and I wasn't lonly for the lack of it haha.

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ORIGINAL: GreySaber

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion
oral sex has nothing to do with being good with your dick. or a good lover. I've had many plenty good lovers and we never did oral sex.


True, but I suspect most of us would argue it's an important part of the bedroom skillset.




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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/7/2006 11:36:19 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		just so every one knows, taking a bath then putting sugary things on your pussy or in it, is not gonna prevent a yeast infection. :)

I don't want a visit from the yeastie-boys either. I'm rethinking to introduce it after we've both had a shower and are squeaky clean and see how things go from there.



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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/8/2006 6:12:54 AM   
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Thus why you should use two!

No you shouldn't.  Friction between two condoms can cause small tears which can render them useless.

But I agree with the rest of your techniques.

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RE: Virgin Dilemma - 5/8/2006 9:02:54 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		WOW. Big request and so very generious of you to accept and help him with this 'status.'

Take a page out of the vanilla relationship books. Light some candles, have soft music playing in the background, lots of foreplay, and take your time. He is going to be nervious to say the least, so foreplay will give him time to relax and get into the right 'vanilla headspace.'

One skill that I wish more men knew, was how to give oral, you can always guide him on and through that, unless he is a natural, if that is the case you are one lucky lady.

Letting him know thats it's not a race and that some times slow and 'romantic' is the best way. Let him explore your body, explore his and get to to his body being stroked and touched by your soft hands.

Good luck. Please let us know how things turn out.

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