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Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 2:41:08 PM

Bindre

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I always found the idea of a predatory domme very sexy. By predatory I mean a domme that is choosing her "victims" herself on the street, in a bar, in the library - and then seduces and enslaves the guy/girl.

I think the sexiest thing imaginable is when a domme is able to turn someone who wasn't submissive beforehand into her slave - if at the same time she turns a straight girl into a bi or lesbian that's just extra sexy.

I know of only one woman who has done stuff like this, but I'm sure there must be others and that some of them might be on this forum.

I'm thinking about creating a website for these kind of real life stories - but only if it is at all possible to collect any.

What are you saying: Did any of you (Dommes) seduce vanilla guys and girls and turn them? Would you consider telling your stories?

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 3:24:25 PM

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I was open with guys I dated before we went to the "getting involved" stage about this side of me, but going out and deliberately "seducing" somebody vanilla for me is just as shitty behaviour as a guy pretending (and lying about it) to want a relationship in order to get laid, it's not sexy, it's not predatory, it's good wanking material (like the pizza delivery guy stumbling into the lesbian orgy of hot cheer leaders, happens everyday, really), it's cheap, nasty and dishonest.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 3:29:57 PM

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OP, that is a nice fantasy for you and probably others but I doubt that it happens all that often in real life.

There are enough fabulous Dommes around who don't need to run around trying to enslave strangers. In fact, there are submissive men lined up for most Dommes.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 4:19:30 PM

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quote:

I'm thinking about creating a website for these kind of real life stories - but only if it is at all possible to collect any.

It might be a good way to collect phony stories written with varying degrees of skill by other dudes with similar fantasies purporting to be "true stories." Some of them might even go so far as to write under a fake name with a fake female picture. In my experience you can count on at least one guy (if it gets big enough) making at least two accounts, one for himself and one where he pretends to be his own Domme. Alternately, if everybody is too lazy for that, people will just post from the same account sometime saying "Hi it is me the sub guy" and sometimes saying "Hi it is me the sub guy's totally hot Domme."

Hope this helps! Good luck!

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 4:48:21 PM

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On the other hand, a guy who has sub in him, but hasn't recognised that yet . . .

Hmmm. Even now, I'd find it hard to write a part for a femdom. I know that they can be predatory, but I don't know fully why. Not easy.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 5:03:02 PM

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When I see something I want that's available, I pursue it. It's who I am. I don't have any need to seduce the unwilling, or alter anyone's sexual orientation. As if such a thing were possible!

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 5:41:07 PM

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Come on LadyH, you just whip out you handy "Lesbos" ray and ZAP, instant hottie girl on girl action! At least, that's what happens in the wonderfulinternetswankerfeststoriesandgamesforguyswhobeliveanythingofwomenz, which is where I suspect the OP has been reading far too much of late...

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 5:50:32 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Otters, if that magic ray existed I would have turned it on myself AGES ago. I mean, you've SEEN some of my friends right? Gods, the thought of never having to listen to moronic wanker prattle ever again...it's enough to make a person giddy!

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 5:58:25 PM

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A lot of my partners have been straight vanilla, which I will admit adds a certain spice to having such men strip, kneel and beg me to do THINGS to them, but there is much to be said for the well-trained subbie and his dancing ass.
But for every man, it has to be consensual, and without the nasty suggestions that somehow I'm despoiling them. It's, pardon the metaphor, opening doors of knowledge and experience for them.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 6:04:45 PM

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Agreed, Tantriqu, drawing out qualities that already exist, that's fine! Coercion is not.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 6:07:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

When I see something I want that's available, I pursue it. It's who I am. I don't have any need to seduce the unwilling, or alter anyone's sexual orientation. As if such a thing were possible!

But in the case I'm talking about, this hypothetical bloke's not unwilling, except on the surface. Deep down, he's more than up for it. He sweats, he's awkward, flustered, his composure's ruined. You have turned his heart into a veritable tempest of desire, bursting through through into his consciousness and whipping away the shields of his sham self image. And stuff.

Now, I *know* I've seen that sort of caper mentioned as a femdom fantasy here. Think Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman making a hole in Batman's armour in front of his heart with her talons, purring 'This isn't you . . . .' (Well, granted, they then carried on fighting, but you get the point.)

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 6:09:24 PM

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Phwoar. I quite enjoyed writing that.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 6:22:28 PM

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I used to pick up shy, cute nerdly guys at sci-fi cons and SCA events and convert them, when I was MUCH younger and less ethical. I do so no longer. Before I am willing to engage in power exchange with a man, he must be fully self aware and consenting, and completely comfortable with his own submissive identity and desires. If he isn't, I consider the relationship much too high in potential drama for my tastes.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 6:29:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

A lot of my partners have been straight vanilla, which I will admit adds a certain spice to having such men strip, kneel and beg me to do THINGS to them, but there is much to be said for the well-trained subbie and his dancing ass.
But for every man, it has to be consensual, and without the nasty suggestions that somehow I'm despoiling them. It's, pardon the metaphor, opening doors of knowledge and experience for them.

Oh! I'm getting a slight sense with the various replies here that this 'despoiling' thing - the Catwoman with Batman thing I mentioned - is a fantasy, or has been an actual experience in the past, for some Dommes. But I'm also getting the sense that they feel somewhat guilty about that fantasy (or that long-ago experience). If I'm correct, then that's quite endearing, really.

ETA - and also, in itself, quite horny.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 7:39:30 PM

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I confess that the whole "consensuality" issue was not always meaningful to me... but it is now, and as LnT points out, drama created by shortsighted impulse is NOT worth it.

Deeply hot fantasy though.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 8:06:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I confess that the whole "consensuality" issue was not always meaningful to me... but it is now, and as LnT points out, drama created by shortsighted impulse is NOT worth it.

Deeply hot fantasy though.

Aaaaahhhhhhhhhh! See, this is why it's horny. It's the thought that this predatory feeling can be so strong that a woman feels that she has to assert real, serious, conscious control over it. Control that isn't won quickly, apparently: it might take some years to achieve. We all know that men get that . . . but, women?

It's peculiar. I'm still occasionally surprised at the thought that women can ever be so lustful (insert correct adjective). There you go. Traces of my traditional upbringing remain, evidently.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 8:58:55 PM

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It's beyond lust, Darling, it's *control*. Power. The ultimate aphrodisiac.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 9:54:17 PM

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Is this you again Peonforher?

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I’ve always had a fantasy about an ‘instant-demand-Domme’. It’s simple. In a vanilla setting - say, in a bar or a restaurant, on a train, even on the street - I walk past a woman and without any preamble, she says, ‘Come here. Pick up my bags/call me a cab/get me a drink/’ . . . .

Wow - that would be so horny!

But . . . but . . . has any Domme got the nerve to do that? Hmmm? With much regret, reality imposed and I came to the conclusion that none would. She'd have to be super-uber-ultra-Dommely to have the front to do that

Just kidding.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/2/2011 10:16:49 PM

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Seduction, coercion, persuasion, yes, I did all of that. Enjoyed it a ton. Converted vanilla men? Lots of them. Never did anything truly non consensual though. Well, correct that. I did "kidnap" a guy in high school along with a girlfriend of mine, against his will, as part of a prank, but it was just that - a prank. The bondage was real though..:)

It's not quite as ominous as porn makes it out to be though - there was no drugging of drinks or "tricking" men into bondage. Seduction? Yes, absolutely. Vanilla guys are not generally hard to persuade to explore kink or a little bondage fun - the challenge was more to make sure they didn't think kinky = "easy" and all it meant was being tied up and getting blow jobbed, and that sensual surrender, ego bending and a little pain actually took some effort. Once they saw hot wet it made me though, it's all the ego boost they needed.

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RE: Real life encounters - 2/3/2011 4:20:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW
Is this you again Peonforher? "I’ve always had a fantasy about an ‘instant-demand-Domme’."

Hah! Well, if you think that I might have 'grown out' of that little fantasy, you can think again.

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