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Why do woman nag?


They like to eat away at the guy
  9% (4)
They do not realize they do it
  11% (5)
They love conflict
  9% (4)
They don't nag- they "discuss"
  27% (12)
because chatter is love to them
  20% (9)
to raise the guys bood pressure!
  6% (3)
Unsure
  13% (6)


Total Votes : 43
(last vote on : 9/21/2011 2:15:53 AM)
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Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 8:07:10 AM   
pahunkboy


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Status: offline 		I do NOT want to discuss it.  This has become a problem- ongoing. I do not want to discuss a problem for which there is no solution- NONE.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 8:10:24 AM   
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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 8:30:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Didn't see my reason above...

I guess it was my disgruntled way of saying “Would you, please, get your shit together and move your ass; and might I suggest removing your head from it first?”

But that’s just me.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 11:07:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's because guys think with their small head instead of the large one.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 11:10:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Because most males ignore difficult subjects and won't sit down and discuss them. The woman feels unheard and invalidated and presses the point in order to feel heard and not marginalized. If a man would give an honest answer saying that he heard her, he needs to think about the subject, and he'll sit down come Saturday over coffee to discuss it, and then do just that, then women wouldn't need to be repetitive.

Strangely enough, the problem will not go away if you hide your head in the sand long enough.


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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 1:43:02 PM   
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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:07:37 PM   
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Because their D/M forgot to buy duct tape before the big storm?

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:12:35 PM   
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Only if you don't do what you were SUPPOSED to do on your own, without even being reminded/told/ordered.
See? Be a good thoughtful man, and the nagging goes away, and never restarts.
[duh!]
Haven't you figured out cause and effect yet? You're the cause, the nagging is the effect of your forgetfulness and thoughtlessness.
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Take out the garbage by thinking of it yourself before the garbage truck comes and before The Look, replace the bins, put in a new liner = unlimited and pre-moistened pussy.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:20:58 PM   
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When you can answer the question of why men need to be nagged, you'll have your answer.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:28:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

If you bitchslap most of them..they usually shut up. If that doesn't work..there's always choke them till their eyes roll back.





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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:32:57 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

If you bitchslap most of them..they usually shut up. If that doesn't work..there's always choke them till their eyes roll back.





Do you enjoy sleeping with your eyes open?


Back in the 70's there was a lady whose husband beat her. One night she waited until he was drunk and passed out. Then using a carpet needle she carefully sewed the blanket to the mattress, then took a baseball bat to his head.

She did time but he never bothered her again.

True story, I think her first name was Jody. I'll have to see if i can locate that one online somewhere.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:35:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		In a D/s relationship, nagging shouldn't occur.

If the woman is in charge, she can get her way without nagging. If the man's in charge, his decisions should be final.

Hunky, I get the feeling that you're getting nagged. Make sure that the woman is in agreement with what's happening, and she won't nag.



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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:51:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I object to nagging, if you dont get it the first time and ask for clarification or further discussion, your loss..Im not your mom, if you take no notice, you will be the one that looses out in the long run
I dont pick up after stoopid.
I dont need the damn hassle


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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 2:57:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on what your definition of nagging is. Some men think if you ask them any question they don't like, that is nagging. Some men keep saying they will do something they said they would do and they don't do it.

Hence, when they are reminded of that, they call it nagging instead of taking ownership of their failure to do what they said they would do.

Now some women may like to nag and just generally be bitchy; but for me, I only ask and remind, not nag. If someone sees it differently, we have a problem. Do what you said you would do and there is no issue.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 3:17:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		i've been nagged by the whole gender spectrum on occasion, not just women, and when it was justified (i.e. not caused by a conflict lovin' personality facet or egotism) it was because of my thoughtlessness, forgetfulness or indecision.

Also, mis-communication was in the mix, ofttimes.  For, example: i didn't do what was asked of me and the other person nagged me about it because i hadn't clearly enough stated that i had not accepted their authority over my actions on the matter.  i had chosen to figure it out or do "it" for myself, on my own terms, in my own way, in my own time.  Sometimes this was incredibly important to do for my own development, even when the action itself might have seemed minor in the scheme of things. A "Let me fall  down, so i can learn to get up" kind of thing.

If this is the case Hunky, the wording here is "Crawl out of my ass, i got this!"  Or, you know, something far more diplomatic as the case may warrant.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 3:36:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have to agree with what Des and SexyRed had to say. Sometimes men don't respond to what is being said or asked of them, and won't say, "Let me think about this, and we'll talk about it in a few days" and then actually TALK about it in a few days. It boggles my mind that they believe that we are going to forget about it and just walk away if it is important enough for us to want to discuss it. Just effing follow through and be honest with us... that's really all we want in the first place. If there isn't an answer to the question, then just SAY "I don't know what the answer is to this... right now, I have no good response/idea/solution."

As to Steven's reply that the D-type's word is always law, I couldn't disagree more. If it is important to the other person in the dynamic, regardless of which side of the kneel, and the other person treats the subject with disregard, I think you have a disaster brewing. If DB ever did that with me, he would have a huge problem on his hands. He has tried in the past to "hope I'll forget" about something and it doesn't work. He has asked me why I have brought certain things up numerous times, and I have honestly said, "If you would answer me to my satisfaction, I'd probably never have to ask you again. You haven't, so I'm bringing it up again." If he ever flat out said, "Because I said so, I'm the Dominant half of this relationship and what I say goes, got it?!" I'd respond in a way most unlady-like that showed him that submissive isn't a "natural personality trait" of mine. If he wanted to treat me with that level of disrespect, he would get it back... in spades.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 3:45:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		because they are frustrated that you haven't done what you either said you would do or was supposed to do. They figure if they tell you enough times you'll actually hear it at least once or finally get fed up and actually do it.

So very glad I have a guy where I don't have to do this. Now if only more men would follow suit we'd have a much quieter and smoother world.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 4:03:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

It depends on what your definition of nagging is. Some men think if you ask them any question they don't like, that is nagging. Some men keep saying they will do something they said they would do and they don't do it.

Hence, when they are reminded of that, they call it nagging instead of taking ownership of their failure to do what they said they would do.

Now some women may like to nag and just generally be bitchy; but for me, I only ask and remind, not nag. If someone sees it differently, we have a problem. Do what you said you would do and there is no issue.


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What she said.

I personally loathe having to say anything that might be perceived as nagging.  I don't consider occasionally reminding someone of something they've agreed or promised to do as nagging, but I understand that a lot of men think that it is.  I grew up with a woman who nagged my father mercilessly and I swore that I never wanted to be like that.  She complained incessantly about life in general and nothing my father did was ever right or to her satisfaction... everything was his fault or responsibility.  To me, that is real nagging.

However, what sticks in my craw even more is when someone does not do what they say they will do.  Sure, the task might be a little thing and generally unimportant, but honoring your word should take priority.  Even if you don't want to consider it as a sign of respect toward the other person, you should think of it as respecting yourself enough to be trustworthy.

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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 4:59:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nobody in my intimate relationships has the authority to look over my shoulder..If I said I'd do it I'll do it..In my time not hers.

If I decide not to do it then I don't...It's all up to me..Just the way I like it. A female pushing me to do things usually winds up not getting what she wants.


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RE: Why do woman nag? - 2/3/2011 5:02:25 PM   
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Hunky, I get the feeling that you're getting nagged. Make sure that the woman is in agreement with what's happening, and she won't nag.


You forget, he's gay. The woman in question is either his mother or his elderly female neighbor. They're being the parent and he's playing the child. If he would interact as an adult, it wouldn't happen.


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