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High libido? - 2/4/2011 11:18:40 AM

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obviously inspired by the Low Libido thread --

if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it? do you often find yourself frustrated, or do you just direct the energy elsewhere?
for me, sometimes it makes for really powerful creative energy, and other times it totally flusters me and i can't focus on anything.

does masturbation work for you? it doesn't generally do much for me; sometimes it just makes it all worse. =p

how do you handle differences in libido with your partners? do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 11:29:28 AM

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 11:34:47 AM

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I cannot believe you're having difficulty finding men within your age range who have a low libido.
Are you dating much older, or around your age-younger? I find boys in their 20s to be plenty horny, usually... Not that I've dated one in the last 5years.

I wouldn't say I have a higher than average libido, but I would get frustrated if I frequently had to seek it out, more than he wanted. At my age now (40s), it's not something I'd leave someone over, if he did his best to please me. In my 20s-30s, I would, and have. M

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 11:58:34 AM

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mine is higher than masters partly due to his diabetes. he has somehow managed to train me to be able to deal with it. but he recognises it and will often play more than he would do as he realises the issue. i am not allowed to touch and i have learnt patience over time.

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 12:04:08 PM

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Now now....do not be making fun at use older people. Not all old people have a lower libido. Actually I think mine has increased since I was 20! But then again my body is not normal in anyway (topic for another day).

OP:
If you are talking normal sex, masturbation might be a release for some. But having the sexual part of the mind wired to BDSM, then I do not think it will work. Especially those who crave the TPE as part of it.

How do deal with it?
1) Go find somebody who wants it - more options if you are not in a committed relationship
2) Furious work out at the gym to the point of exhaustion.
3) Drink heavily. A bad hangover can put off your sex drive for a good 3 days LOL....just kidding

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 12:06:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

obviously inspired by the Low Libido thread --

if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it? do you often find yourself frustrated, or do you just direct the energy elsewhere?
for me, sometimes it makes for really powerful creative energy, and other times it totally flusters me and i can't focus on anything.

does masturbation work for you? it doesn't generally do much for me; sometimes it just makes it all worse. =p

how do you handle differences in libido with your partners? do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?

Well sweetie, instead of saying...don't...STOP, don't STOP !! You say...DON'T stop !! DON'T stop !!

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 12:17:31 PM

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Sorry mummy, I didn't realize mummies were horny, and quick recovering sexies. Live and learn.

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 12:42:46 PM

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No appologies necessary. Even the living dead like to have fun :)

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 12:52:49 PM

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If I'm partnerless, between my Eroscillator, the gym and yoga I've got the sexual energy pretty well channeled and handled. Phone sex helps too.

When I was in a bad relationship, I medicated heavily with wine and ice cream, which also served to kill my sex drive. Not recommending this approach ;)

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 1:07:36 PM

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 1:26:13 PM

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Masturbation definitely is helpful when coupled with a really great imagination for myself.

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 1:35:39 PM

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I usually have a high libido. Only time it was low was when I was on a new medication. New prescription fixed things. Masturbation does help, but when you don't have a partner, it can be frustrating at times.

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 1:42:42 PM

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I'm horny now after reading this thread....

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 2:23:53 PM

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When we don't match up, we ask each other to lend a hand. We were both about even when we met. Diabetes for him, menopause for me, means we frequently don't match these days which is irritating. However it's rare for me to not get somewhat aroused by being tied up.

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 3:24:30 PM

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Previous poly relationships and interactions have helped in this regard, for me (more people to spread the energy amongst will involve less recuperation time for each). In relationships, this also gets dealt with via ingenuity, really (sometimes an adequate result can be had without an excessive expenditure of energy or without continual frictional discomfort to sensitive skin areas that are recovering from swelling).

Masturbation normally helps, but women and men typically have different cycles of peaks and valleys in terms of arousal (which can explain why it can compound the issue sometimes with women, whereas it's probably not as likely with men). Then again, it's also an ephemeral release and, depending on the mood, may only be sufficient for a handful of hours or less. YMMV, no?

While the sexual arousal and interest itself has different outlets, I don't normally try to channel the energy into something entirely different just to sate it (normally, it would defeat the purpose).

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 3:34:06 PM

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I left my last good pup, who was in his early 30's, because of a lower libido.
I'm used to every night, and twice on Sundays with a partner, but he was so caught up in Scottish football and drinking with his buds, it definitely crimped his, and then my, style. I can understand in playoff time for a special occasion, but it was for months out of the flippin' year!

So absolutely there are good men with lower libidos, but yes, it's a deal-breaker for me.
Hitachi is a girl's best friend when there are no boys, but I hate to use one in a relationship, except when separated. Orgasms with humans are just so much better, even if not as rapid and predictable. And release with a home-made orgasm means my next one with a partner won't be as potent. winLOSE.

Yet, I also need a certain minimum frequency. Otherwise, I get nocturnal orgasms; I fell asleep during a meeting once when a previous sub was away, and woke up coming! Oops. I tried to pretend I was sneezing

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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW
I cannot believe you're having difficulty finding men within your age range who have a low libido.
Are you dating much older, or around your age-younger? I find boys in their 20s to be plenty horny, usually... Not that I've dated one in the last 5years.
I wouldn't say I have a higher than average libido, but I would get frustrated if I frequently had to seek it out, more than he wanted. At my age now (40s), it's not something I'd leave someone over, if he did his best to please me. In my 20s-30s, I would, and have. M

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 3:35:03 PM

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The gym works wonders

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 3:42:02 PM

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I am turning 60 in April and still have a high libido. I do use it for creative writing, drawing and different forms of meditation. I just work it upwards and create. with my hands and mind..

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 3:43:50 PM

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The following will kill my libido:

1. Pictures of old people in bathing suits

2. Blood pressure medication (It is basically the opposite of viagra)

3. A big meal. Eating 12 ounces of steak, mashed potatoes etc. leave me unable to perform

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RE: High libido? - 2/4/2011 6:28:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu
Hitachi is a girl's best friend when there are no boys, but I hate to use one in a relationship, except when separated. Orgasms with humans are just so much better, even if not as rapid and predictable. And release with a home-made orgasm means my next one with a partner won't be as potent. winLOSE.

I feel the same way about this, because I would be less responsive to my partner, and I'd prefer the human connection, even if less efficient at bringing about orgasms.

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I also need a certain minimum frequency. Otherwise, I get nocturnal orgasms; I fell asleep during a meeting once when a previous sub was away, and woke up coming! Oops. I tried to pretend I was sneezing

That made me laugh...

And a little jealous, because it happens to me extremely rarely. M

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