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kalikshama -> RE: High libido? (2/5/2011 3:50:44 PM)

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Otherwise, I get nocturnal orgasms; I fell asleep during a meeting once when a previous sub was away, and woke up coming! Oops. I tried to pretend I was sneezing


I've had nocturnal orgasms, and fallen asleep in meetings, but never combined the two, lololol!
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Jaybeee -> RE: High libido? (2/10/2011 11:18:10 AM)

OP, your question is a tad strange at face value.

If you're feeling horny, then to put it bluntly, FUCK. If you have nobody to hand, take yourself in hand. For me, sex - the variety where the eyeballs roll back, the roof gets shouted down and even the neighbours light up afterwards is a very, VERY important part of the relationship with my slave or with any other girl.

Sex is one of the 5 fundamental sensory pleasures and a girl who doesn't enjoy them lustily and heartily isn't going to get any time out of me.



sexyred1 -> RE: High libido? (2/10/2011 12:41:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

Hitachi is a girl's best friend when there are no boys, but I hate to use one in a relationship, except when separated. Orgasms with humans are just so much better, even if not as rapid and predictable. And release with a home-made orgasm means my next one with a partner won't be as potent. winLOSE.



Wow, really? That is not my experience at all. I have a healthy libido and no matter what kind of vibrator I use, it never ruins me for a partner. In fact, it actually revs it up even more.




LadyRian -> RE: High libido? (2/10/2011 12:55:54 PM)

Heya, Red,  I definitely agree with you there.  [:)]

And Mummy, my partner is several years older than I am, (I'm 53) and he's able to keep up with me, no problem, Hitachi or not!  I've had 27 year old men throw in the towel and poop out. He puts them all to shame. Just because there's snow on the roof doesn't mean there's no fire in the fireplace.



porcelaine -> RE: High libido? (2/10/2011 1:16:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it? do you often find yourself frustrated, or do you just direct the energy elsewhere?


Greetings,

Call me shallow but I don't have this issue at all. This is part of the compatibility process and something I pay close attention to. Especially in situations where a power exchange is involved. I believe it's a different kind of frustration from denial and I prefer to minimize my aggravation whenever possible.

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how do you handle differences in libido with your partners? do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?


I conquer that problem by avoiding its creation. [;)]

Namaste,

~porcelaine



LoveSlider -> RE: High libido? (2/11/2011 9:17:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: mummyman321


3) Drink heavily. A bad hangover can put off your sex drive for a good 3 days LOL....just kidding


i dunno what's wrong with me then, I'm always horny as hell when I wake up with a hangover.

Well I say hangover, when I wake up still leathered, that's horny time. When the hangover actually kicks in, at tea time, then not so good!



Buzzzz -> RE: High libido? (2/12/2011 5:03:52 AM)

It si one of the reasons why I am poly. Never been able to find a partner that can "keep up " with me. They all say they do, but when time comes, there is no walkind after the talking ;)



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (2/12/2011 5:57:17 AM)

drinking has never put off my sex drive. =p being drunk and having a hangover usually makes it worse. i haven't had that many hangovers, though, because i'm usually doing a lot of dancing and burning the alcohol off. =p

i can see "polyfuckery" as being a remedy for it ("poly" usually means polyamory to me, with love involved and all that), or just dating around and picking someone who really matches you. i don't think it's shallow (everyone has their criteria to meet), but i'd have missed out on some cool people in my life if i went with that criteria.

and i agree with sexyred1 -- if i tinker with myself to orgasm, it usually just makes the sex drive higher, not lower. i have REALLY strong vaginal/clitoral/anal orgasms and vibrators/masturbation just doesn't get me to the same place anyway. i can be a little "all or nothing" at times (sometimes positive, sometimes not) and so i often just don't bother to masturbate because it'll just make things worse, not better. =p haha



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (2/12/2011 7:58:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

I cannot believe you're having difficulty finding men within your age range who have a low libido.
Are you dating much older, or around your age-younger?   I find boys in their 20s to be plenty horny, usually...   Not that I've dated one in the last 5years.

I wouldn't say I have a higher than average libido, but I would get frustrated if I frequently had to seek it out, more than he wanted.   At my age now (40s), it's not something I'd leave someone over, if he did his best to please me.   In my 20s-30s, I would, and have.    M



somehow i missed this post, which has interesting questions in it.
i prefer to date older guys. i dated younger and older, and my most positive experiences were with older guys.
but even with the younger ones, it seemed like i always was more in the mood than they were.
i tend to be really self conscious and once you get a negative response, that tends to stick with you. so every now and again i get a twinge of wondering if i have a problem. =p haha
i dont think i do, and i don't think it's all that out of proportion. i'm not putting myself in risky situations for the sake of sex. but sometimes i feel like i'm asking too much or making demands, and it really makes you feel weird and unwanted sometimes. =p



xssve -> RE: High libido? (2/12/2011 5:31:18 PM)

I'm an at least once a day guy, it can get to be a big deal if your partners libido isn't well matched.

I can go a few days without, but a week would be really pushing it.



LPslittleclip -> RE: High libido? (2/12/2011 7:14:32 PM)

with my adhd i had a very high libdo after i started my new meds one of them being paxil that brought my sex drive down to a tolerable level for my wife



weird123m -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 6:28:22 PM)


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ORIGINAL: allnewtome

The gym works wonders [:D]


Yep... Nothing like working out until you can't move to get your mind off of things.



NocturnalStalker -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:06:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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Otherwise, I get nocturnal orgasms; I fell asleep during a meeting once when a previous sub was away, and woke up coming! Oops. I tried to pretend I was sneezing


I've had nocturnal orgasms, and fallen asleep in meetings, but never combined the two, lololol!
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Yeah it is an issue for me as well, sometimes when I come out of the shower and see my-

Oh, you were talking about something entirely different.  Cue oblivious whistling.



FukinTroll -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:10:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

obviously inspired by the Low Libido thread --

if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it? do you often find yourself frustrated, or do you just direct the energy elsewhere?
for me, sometimes it makes for really powerful creative energy, and other times it totally flusters me and i can't focus on anything.

does masturbation work for you? it doesn't generally do much for me; sometimes it just makes it all worse. =p

how do you handle differences in libido with your partners? do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?


Well lilly, for me the libido goes into park mode till I find a girl I click with... and it takes a lot of clicking for me, then it is like being Siamese Twins connected at the genitalia. .

SLURP!



Twoshoes -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:13:21 PM)

So I'm gonna walk into this thread.
Look around.
Start whistling.
And depart.



0ldhen -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:14:35 PM)


I have an extremely high sex drive when I am around someone who holds my heart and head. Though when I am by myself almost none at all. Masturbation can be fun but never leads to satisfaction for me either so I view it as fairly pointless.

Get a hobby, like sewing, nothing like working that needle in and out in and outttt......

Hmmm...ok...maybe try cooking, handling cucumbers, zucchinis and carrots for a few hours ought to.................

Pumping iron perhaps......lifting, bending sweating.....

Ummmm...excuse me I'll be right back....




0ldhen -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:16:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

ill I find a girl I click with... and it takes a lot of clicking for me


So you are looking for a Trollop with her own castenets?



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:22:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Well lilly, for me the libido goes into park mode till I find a girl I click with... and it takes a lot of clicking for me, then it is like being Siamese Twins connected at the genitalia. .

SLURP!



HAHA!
wowzers. =p that's awesome

re: "clicking" -- that's often the hardest part, and i find if i click with someone, i'd rather keep that and try to sort the sex thing out, because it's somewhat uncommon that i click all that well with anyone anyway

i wonder if park modes can be developed? *sends it to the R&D lab*



FukinTroll -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:22:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: 0ldhen


quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

ill I find a girl I click with... and it takes a lot of clicking for me


So you are looking for a Trollop with her own castenets?


She has to be able to do dick-tasten too. Didn't ya get the memo?
SLURP!



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (2/13/2011 9:24:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: 0ldhen


quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

ill I find a girl I click with... and it takes a lot of clicking for me


So you are looking for a Trollop with her own castenets?


i flipping ♥ you Oldhen ^__________^
hardy har har har!



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