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Kana -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 6:20:54 AM)

I just try and fuck a lot. Shrugs,. Works for me



Arpig -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 6:41:30 AM)

I don't really like casual sex, so if I'm not in a relationship, I don't go looking for it. I need to really get to know my partner's body before I really enjoy the sex...so hookups are boring to me.



needlesandpins -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 11:10:40 AM)

my sex drive is very high, to the point of where i can think of nothing else sometimes. this wasn't a problem when i was married as he had the same sex drive. however, the sex wasn't always as rewarding as it could be. now i have long gaps between sex and it can drive me nuts. i can't use toys very much, they just don't do it for me. i will sometimes use porn but no matter how many times i cum it's just not the same.

when with someone i want to be fucking all the time. again though, no matter how many orgasms i have it's just not the same as actually cuming on his cock. that orgasm is always the best and most satisfying. i'd rather have that once than lots of others gained/given in any other way no matter how good they are.

needles



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 11:15:39 AM)

haha this thread is back!

and yeah, i agree -- toys just don't really do it for me, it isn't the same. i can have plenty of orgasms on my own, but sometimes it's just like exhausting myself to the point where i dont want to bother anymore, not really the same kind of fulfillment from one really GOOD one. =p haha



porcelaine -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 12:16:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it? do you often find yourself frustrated, or do you just direct the energy elsewhere?


Greetings,

When alone I address it according to my own time table. There are instances when I indulge and others when denial is a better option. Admittedly I like the control. Of course that all changes when I'm subject to another person's rule. Restriction and all sorts of devious elements are employed to impress his ownership over the orifice. Endless bouts of frustration occur. I'm noticeably more agitated when it initially takes place. But eventually I settle into a routine and endure my physical torment with effortless grace. That's a neat way of saying that buttercup is on the job. [:D]

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does masturbation work for you? it doesn't generally do much for me; sometimes it just makes it all worse.


I love my Hitachi more than you could ever know. However, I avoid clitoral stimulation with implements to prevent desensitization. The Man can never replicate those rpm's so why get myself accustomed to the vroom vroom? I prefer penetration.

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how do you handle differences in libido with your partners? do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?


There's a big difference between a man that elects not to sleep with me and one who has no desire to do so. The latter is never an option. I make certain that I choose men with vibrant libido's going in. I like to be used.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 12:41:10 PM)

hitachis are pretty awesome =p but i agree -- i prefer natural bits going into (and out of, and into) other natural bits, so there's no point for me in getting too accustomed to vibrators. they go somewhere lovely, but not always where i reeeeally want to go. =p haha



NocturnalStalker -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 12:59:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I don't really like casual sex, so if I'm not in a relationship, I don't go looking for it. I need to really get to know my partner's body before I really enjoy the sex...so hookups are boring to me.


Yeah.

See, like a serial killer, I need to know my area before I perform the midnight sonata.

Okay, that was a weird comparison to make, I'm sorry.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:01:50 PM)

midnight sonata might be the nicest euphemism i've heard for it, yep. =p 



Arpig -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:04:43 PM)

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Yeah.

See, like a serial killer, I need to know my area before I perform the midnight sonata.

Okay, that was a weird comparison to make, I'm sorry.
Actually I think you said it much better than I did.



leadership527 -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:11:17 PM)

I don't think I have a "high libido" but it's higher than Carol's. How I deal with that is by sometimes having my way with her and other times not depending on what I think will be best for us at the moment. If it comes down to "or not", then some masturbation helps along with some discipline and focus. I mean seriously, I'd like to believe that sex is not a foundational element of my life or life happiness. I just focus on ... well... the entire rest of "life".



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:16:33 PM)

i'm not saying it's the foundation of life or happiness; i'm actually pretty good without sex altogether. it's just when you're with someone, sometimes it does weird things to your self esteem if they just dont seem interested half the time. 



Prinsexx -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:24:13 PM)

Anyvody want to talk about Tantra?



leadership527 -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:40:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep
i'm not saying it's the foundation of life or happiness; i'm actually pretty good without sex altogether. it's just when you're with someone, sometimes it does weird things to your self esteem if they just dont seem interested half the time. 

*nods* Yeah, i could see that... and to some extent I experience it. I suspect though that my perspective on this is shaped by such a long and happy marriage. After 15 years of knowing that you are the center of someone else's existence, then the "weird things" take on much less significance.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 1:42:02 PM)

leadership -- well yeah, you're talking about something totally different there. =p

Prinsexx -- i know nothing about Tantra; feel free to expound if you like.



porcelaine -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 3:42:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

hitachis are pretty awesome =p but i agree -- i prefer natural bits going into (and out of, and into) other natural bits, so there's no point for me in getting too accustomed to vibrators. they go somewhere lovely, but not always where i reeeeally want to go. =p haha


Oh I'll substitute if I have to. I'm not that choosy when I need to put the fire out. [;)]

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

See, like a serial killer, I need to know my area before I perform the midnight sonata.


That is profoundly wrong. I love it!

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Anyvody want to talk about Tantra?


Count me in. I've done it in the past and I totally dig the stuff. But I have to qualify the buyer beforehand. I'm not mixing energy with anyone simply because they're interested. We need to be on the same page in that regard. However, if that's the case and he's adept, we have another avenue worth exploring.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



tyrasia -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 4:35:15 PM)

this one offers Everyone greetings,

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ORIGINAL: LoveSlider

i dunno what's wrong with me then, I'm always horny as hell when I wake up with a hangover.


If I woke up hung over something I’d be all wound up too :P

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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip

with my adhd i had a very high libdo after i started my new meds one of them being paxil that brought my sex drive down to a tolerable level for my wife


Paxil took my healthy libido and scrapped it…:D

Unfortunately (maybe not that horrible but still…), all of my life my mind has been too ethical to have nocturnal orgasms. Have had them before, waiting to have them now since there is no ethical reasonable reason not to…but don’t….everything up till the very end, yes…..anything better?...no.
Due to some abuse I went thru way after stopping paxil, I became broke/frigid/libido went to Antarctica for vacation. During those 3 years it never crossed my mind, forgot everything, likes, limits, orientation, and if asked how I identified, would have wondered what You were talking about. Then one dream…Sooo not nilla…:D
During the last 2 years I was owned by a Man from the UK, and we were able to visit about 2 times/year for several weeks. During all but the last 4 months of my ownership, girl was faithful and chaste.
So now…unowned for a while now and horny as hell, can’t think about/do school work. Makes her regret not making at least a couple male friends here.

At this particular point in time I figure it is a waste of time and a huge inconvience to try to raise my libido, so I don’t get wound up often, but when I do it is like unbearable. Trollishly, insomniatic, one tracked minded thing. Taking matters in my own hands doesn’t do anything but make it worse because it isn’t so much a physical need as much as a power need.
I’ll definitely be watching this thread cuz girls only solutions are not working (the obvious ones). The other options coming to mind involve the cam which she hates doing some things on….or are not so safe (Hey Mr PoliceManBuffDudeWithCommandPresence…here’s a condom and rope, mind tying me to that tree over there and…)….Yah soo…no 


girl wishes Everyone well,

tyrasia




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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW
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I have seen photos of yon mighty prick, and while I admit to having a big mouth, I ain't that ambitious
Where?! Where?! How the hell did I miss that?!
**Never mind, I guess, it's not ladylike to ask** [8D] M


May a slave ask? *grins impishly*



peachgirl -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 7:14:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

i'm not saying it's the foundation of life or happiness; i'm actually pretty good without sex altogether. it's just when you're with someone, sometimes it does weird things to your self esteem if they just dont seem interested half the time. 


you bet it does. I was married some time to a person who ended up having virtually no sex drive. I tried everything...and continued to fault myself until I just gave up. and yes, we talked, we tried...but in the end we were completely sexually incompatible.

fortunately, as the Man says, sex is our drug of choice. we are very well matched in that aspect. we both prefer a night in and in bed than going out socializing.



SillyIllySally -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 7:54:05 PM)

I too have a high libido. Frustrated doesn't begin to describe it sometimes. The only way I can deal with it is to try and find someone with a compatible sex drive. I don't believe sex can make a relationship but lack of it sure as hell can destroy one.



Jennislut -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 8:03:18 PM)

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if you're a person with high libido, how do you deal with it?
i masturbate a lot - several times a day, and when that isnt enough i go out and let somebody pick me up.

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how do you handle differences in libido with your partners?
if they cant keep up i get more partners

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do you ever feel like there's something wrong with you?
yes - all the time



Arpig -> RE: High libido? (3/15/2011 11:31:35 PM)

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yes - all the time
Why would you think that?



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