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Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they are ... - 5/3/2006 9:23:20 AM   
MasterAlexis


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Status: offline 		We wanted to know if any of you would have some suggestions on questions a Master and Mistress should ask a potential  live in slave?
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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 9:31:08 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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What questions should a dom/master ask of a sub/slave they might consider?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2197/mpage_1/key_ask/tm.htm#2197
What do you ask?

Reposted:
The same things any person would ask any other person if they wanted to form a relationship with them.

Even more importantly is taking the time to get to know them and see how they ACTUALLY operate in life and where they ACTUALLY see their life going.



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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 9:38:59 AM   
MDPA1962


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Status: offline 		one thing I ask, that always seems to surprise A person I am talking to is, if they have any allergies or health issues

I had a Former sub, with asthma, so I made some wiffle ball gags for her Visit with me, But it Never came Up that she had a severe allergy to Cat Hair, and that triggered a severe allergy Attack


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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 10:08:30 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		Do you..... cook, clean, massage, love sex, have any artistic skills, like to read, play an instrument, like animals, have a job, are you bi-sexual, like spankings, bondage, blindfolds..etc, enjoy movies, television, concerts, happy hours, excessive drinking and can you play well with others.

Any combination of four gets you in the door!

Works for me, winks Kevin

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 12:50:50 PM   
TheShadows


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Status: offline 		I love it!  *Scribbles those down for future reference*

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 2:27:37 PM   
texguy98


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Status: offline 		References :)

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/3/2006 2:57:56 PM   
firstsub


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Status: offline 		Have you ever been a live in sub before?
Why do you desire to be a live in sub at this time in your life?  What do you hope to get out of this relationship?  what do you hope to contribute to this relationship?
 

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 7:01:19 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		Are there any warrants for your arrest? (On this and the following, you will be letting this person into your home, think access to all your personal information)

Do you have serious debts?

Is there anyone in your local community or a previous owner i can speak with? (Get references if you can for reasons stated above)


Do you have children? (This is a big consideration for obvious reasons)

Do you want children? If you have children of your own you need to establish if the perspective sub/slave is ok with them.

Do you have pets?

Are there health problems?

Are there any medications you require on a daily basis? (Expenses, how are they going to be covered?)

Do you have allergies?

What is your religion?(Highly personal yes, but think about it, if you are a christian and he/she is a devil worshipper is this going to work?).

What are your plans if we do not work out?

What kind of work can you do?

And last but not least if talking to a female; do you shave daily? Your face?
Lol, believe it or not my owners brought a subbie into the house then discovered when she said she shaved daily she meant her face. Now they know.



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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 7:09:56 AM   
gloriousangel


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Status: offline 		what do you desire from this relationship?

What are the aims?

Do you have any previous experience?

Do you have any health issues?

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 7:16:10 AM   
MistressOfGa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: texguy98

References :)

-Tex



Absolutely!! If someone is going to come and live in your home, make sure that they have references! There is NOTHING wrong with asking someone to provide you with a couple. Also, run a background check on them. This is your home and your life you are talking about. Make sure that all is secure. Get to know the person you are inviting in. Sometimes in the excitement of things, people tend to ignore the red flags. Good luck and be well.

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 8:16:38 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		OMG she shaved her face??? ..........easy on the hormones eh................. that one really cracked me up

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 8:18:53 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I agree, with the careful checking. I have a very good sense of people but damn, this is my HOME! The people I love most in the whole world come here for refuge. No matter what I am not messing that up for them.

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 8:29:20 PM   
darq


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

OMG she shaved her face??? ..........easy on the hormones eh................. that one really cracked me up


Well twicehappy didn't mention why the girl had to shave her face.

Just about any hormonal imbalance can cause facial hair on a woman ... Anorexia will also cause fuzz to sprout up in the strangest places ...

If the girl answered yes to the face shaving question, I'd have to ask ... Why?

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 9:02:15 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear MasterAlexis, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I would ask if they have ever been arrested, if so for what and what was the disposition/decision of the court.
 
I would also ask do they have a job currently, if not--do they plan to get one and if so what job will they be applying to.
 
I would also ask if they have had previous experience in the lifestyle as a live in--if yes, I would ask what the positives/negatives of it in their views.
 
I would ask if they are STD, HIV-Neg/Pos, Hep or other diseases I need to know about and if they will effect their service as slave/submissive.
 
Have they had kids.  If so, do they have to pay for child support.
 
Do they drink, smoke and do illegal drugs -- if so; they're not for me (Hard limits for me)
 
Do they have parents that are elderly and need them to take care of them--if so, local or long distance.
 
Do they have any physical limits as to keep them from doing tasks required as slave/submissive; e.g. bad back, bad knees, etc.
 
Do they have outstanding debt -- If so how much and how are they doing on knocking the debt down.  What is their financial health.  (If I am financially healthy--I'm not supporting dead weight in the guise of 'true slave.')
 
What talents do they have to be an important part of my household and or life.
 
Are they seeking short term, part time, LTR or a weekend visit.
 
What do they think of what a lifestyle slave/submissive does or lives like.  What do they expect.  What are their deal breakers and what are my expectations and deal breakers.
 
Do they understand a "trial" basis before accepting full time position.
 
Do they have habits -- if so, what are they, e.g. picking their nose or ass? stealing?..etc.
 
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/5/2006 11:25:45 PM   
MizChief


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Status: offline 		In addition to the other ownderful thigns asked,

I would ask about their routines- are they day/ night people for showers, for television, etc? So I could consider how disruptive would their routines be to what I already have?

I would visit their current place of residence if possible and see what things were like there

I would ask if they had any outstanding relationship issues- a sticky divorce or angry just recently ex boyfriend?

I would also want to know what property they planned to bring with them.



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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/6/2006 2:43:54 AM   
DifferentSubGirl


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Status: offline 		Not that this is ever going to happen, because living with somebody is a hard limit for me but . . . 

Believe it or not, the #1 reason I find it's hard to live with people (and they to live with me) is cleanliness incompatibility. I would make sure to ask, 'Are you a slob? Or a neat freak? Or somewhere in the middle? How often do you dust? Vacuum? Do dishes? Laundry?' And sometimes you have to go and look for yourself -- the first time I saw my (now ex) fiancee/husband's apartment I should have ended the relationship. The dust and cat hair and Things In The Fridge had their own NATO agreement AND their own army and were taking over his living space. I'm not a neat freak, but I DO enjoy having a smell-free home where I can see the carpet.

Not very kinky, but it's a limit for me nevertheless. *shrug*

DSG

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/6/2006 5:30:48 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		May we see the results of your recent drug and STD blood tests.

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/6/2006 3:45:50 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I think a lot of these questions go either way, from potential Master/Mistress to sub/slave or sub/slave to Master/Mistress.

I guess I'm going to repeat a lot of whats already been said, but here are mine: (these arent in any order except for number 1)

1. Are you married? Divorced? Separated? If they are married or separated they would be struck out at first count.
2. If divorced what is the circumstances around the divorce, I would use this to assess the person I'm talking to's personality and persepective on dealing with hard issues in life.
3. Do you drink alchohol or take drugs? I would use this to assess whether its a social thing or a potential problem I don't want to invite into my life.
4. What is the longest relationship you have had? I would ask this to assess if the person has had real experience in dealing with a long term relationship.
5. What activities do you enjoy outside of bdsm? I would ask this to assess whether the person is (i) interesting (ii) compatable with me (iii) How this would effect/contribute to, my lifestyle.
6. What are your highest goals and aspirations in life? I would ask this to determine where their head and heart is at.
7. Do you have any health problems? I would ask this so that I could determine whether I was prepared to take on the burden of that responsibility.
8. I would ask them where they stand on moral issues and principles that are important to me.
9. Do you have children, if so what are their ages? I would ask this to determine how this would effect my life.
10. Are you close to family? I would ask this to determine how this would effect my life.
11. Do you have any particularly *irks* or pet hates?. I would do this to determine whether I have any of those *irks*
12. Do you enjoy working? I would ask this to determine whether they were motivated and didnt expect the world to owe them a living.
13. Have you had past bdsm experience and experience as living within a Master/slave dynamic? I would ask this to determine whether to proceed.
14. Presuming they have had the experience above, 'What was your experience of living within this? How did it play out for you? What are your expectations now of Master/Mistress/slave/submissive combined in relationship? Why are you no longer in the relationship? What forms of play do you have experience in? What are your ideas on punishment? Do you like to be part of the social scene? What are your kinks? What would you really like to try and havent yet? What does living in a Master/slave relationship mean to you?
15. Do you have any friends? If so, how do they fit into your life? If not, why not?
16. Give me a concise biography of your life and talk about the lessons you learned through your experiences.


That's all I can think of at the moment.

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/8/2006 1:19:26 AM   
MizChief


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DifferentSubGirl
The dust and cat hair and Things In The Fridge had their own NATO agreement AND their own army and were taking over his living space.


ROTFL I love that. What a good point to make
(makes note: nothing that could be considered an intelligent life form in the refrigerator, and no standing armies)

< Message edited by MizChief -- 5/8/2006 1:20:03 AM >

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RE: Questions a Master/Mistress should ask slave (they ... - 5/8/2006 9:34:07 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		Lots of questions. Maybe I should copy those down and get my answers ready in case I get asked any of those, sheesh, those are deep questions. Nice to see that people take live-in seriously.

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