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I can't determine .. - 2/6/2011 11:32:58 AM   
looking4realbdsm


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I am a 21 Bi single male, I have a friend of mine, he is older than me, about 32 yrs old, he is single too, we watched a BDSM movie together and we both got turned on, and we started to play with other and i liked it so much, and i want to continue with him, but I can't determine whether I dominate him or submit to him .. ??   

Can anyone help me,
I am ready to answer any questions you ask,,,
Thanks in advance ..
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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/6/2011 11:45:34 AM   
littlewonder


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If you like both then continue to do both and call yourself a switch.


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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/6/2011 11:48:56 AM   
looking4realbdsm


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Status: offline 		Thanks littlewonder .. I shall try what you have suggested ... 

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/6/2011 5:10:29 PM   
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I can't determine whether I dominate him or submit to him .. ?? 


Din't ja know??  Whoever is currently in charge of the remote is boss!  Dems the rules of playing livingroom romper-room, whip or no whip.


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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 12:27:11 AM   
phoenixmoonn13


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Status: offline 		ah the remote well in our case master gives me the responsibility as he never knows which button does what not that we watch tv much only once a week or so.

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 11:55:05 AM   
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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 11:59:55 AM   
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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 12:00:00 PM   
SlaveOwnerDave


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Whoever says, "We will do THIS." is the Dominant one.
Whoever says, "Yes, Sir!" is the submissive one.
If that cannot be resolved, then just play and have fun.
Feeling good in what you are doing is the only reason for doing it! ["Be careful!" is a necessity, not a reason!]

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 12:41:47 PM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: looking4realbdsm

To all Master and Mistresses ...

I am a 21 Bi single male, I have a friend of mine, he is older than me, about 32 yrs old, he is single too, we watched a BDSM movie together and we both got turned on, and we started to play with other and i liked it so much, and i want to continue with him, but I can't determine whether I dominate him or submit to him .. ??   

Can anyone help me,
I am ready to answer any questions you ask,,,
Thanks in advance ..


You don't even know if you want to be a doer or a doee?

I just lurv it when children stumble into adult dynamics (stupid internet). It's cute when your 4yo puts on mum's high heels....

Anyway, whatever you choose, use condoms in case one of you gets knocked up.

<sheesh>

Focus.

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 1:23:37 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: looking4realbdsm

To all Master and Mistresses ...

I am a 21 Bi single male, I have a friend of mine, he is older than me, about 32 yrs old, he is single too, we watched a BDSM movie together and we both got turned on, and we started to play with other and i liked it so much, and i want to continue with him, but I can't determine whether I dominate him or submit to him .. ??   

Can anyone help me,
I am ready to answer any questions you ask,,,
Thanks in advance ..



What got you hotter? Usually, one thing points to the stronger preference.

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 3:13:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SlaveOwnerDave

To the OP, though...

Whoever says, "We will do THIS." is the Dominant one.




Of course, if you get a reply something along the lines of, "No, we will do THAT!", there could be a problem....

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/7/2011 4:36:47 PM   
SlaveOwnerDave


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ORIGINAL: windchymes
quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveOwnerDave

To the OP, though...

Whoever says, "We will do THIS." is the Dominant one.

Of course, if you get a reply something along the lines of, "No, we will do THAT!", there could be a problem....
Definitely!

I have read, and it makes sense, that two bottoms will get along with some difficulty; but overcome it, by one playing the Top. Quite the reverse, two Tops will basically be at war, as neither will willingly play the bottom.

It sounds as though these men are not having that problem! As someone said, a while back, maybe they are switches.

I cannot bottom, and I have always wondered... "Uh... Wot's it like?" [Apollo-jeez to Monty Python!]

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/8/2011 1:43:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		An easy way to find out is to simply try both roles and see what you like.

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/10/2011 9:47:54 AM   
looking4realbdsm


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Status: offline 		Thanks ,, I will try both and see which is better ... 

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/10/2011 9:49:19 AM   
looking4realbdsm


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Status: offline 		Thanks .. I got your point .. 

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/10/2011 1:52:08 PM   
Jaybeee


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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/10/2011 4:30:55 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		One more thing, Sometimes beginners get confused and misunderstand everything that is going on.

You can be Dominant (Do this!)
You can be Submissive (yes sir/ma'am)
You can be a Switch (like it both ways)
You can be a Sadist, which may or may not be dominant - or even submissive (Is it OK if I flog you till you bleed?)
You can be a Masochist, which may or may not be submissive - or even dominant. (Don't you dare stop before I bleed!)

Life is not simple. Don't limit what you do. Try things and figure out if you like control or being controlled, taking pain or giving it. There are quite a few combinations that people don't automatically think of.


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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/11/2011 11:21:10 AM   
SlaveOwnerDave


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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit

One more thing, Sometimes beginners get confused and misunderstand everything that is going on.

You can be Dominant (Do this!)
You can be Submissive (yes sir/ma'am)
You can be a Switch (like it both ways)
You can be a Sadist, which may or may not be dominant - or even submissive (Is it OK if I flog you till you bleed?)
You can be a Masochist, which may or may not be submissive - or even dominant. (Don't you dare stop before I bleed!)

Life is not simple. Don't limit what you do. Try things and figure out if you like control or being controlled, taking pain or giving it. There are quite a few combinations that people don't automatically think of.

This is much better than what I said. Thank You!

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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/11/2011 2:10:22 PM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: Focus50


quote:

ORIGINAL: looking4realbdsm

To all Master and Mistresses ...

I am a 21 Bi single male, I have a friend of mine, he is older than me, about 32 yrs old, he is single too, we watched a BDSM movie together and we both got turned on, and we started to play with other and i liked it so much, and i want to continue with him, but I can't determine whether I dominate him or submit to him .. ??   

Can anyone help me,
I am ready to answer any questions you ask,,,
Thanks in advance ..


You don't even know if you want to be a doer or a doee?

I just lurv it when children stumble into adult dynamics (stupid internet). It's cute when your 4yo puts on mum's high heels....

Anyway, whatever you choose, use condoms in case one of you gets knocked up.

<sheesh>

Focus.


Damn it! Much like Focus I was looking forward to the extinction of WIITWD. There must be a way to stop people from discovering shit.


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RE: I can't determine .. - 2/11/2011 3:11:03 PM   
strangedesire


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ORIGINAL: Focus50

Anyway, whatever you choose, use condoms in case one of you gets knocked up.



Protection is awesome, but as they're both male, I doubt anyone will get knocked up.

Maybe schools taught something different back in your day, grampa?


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