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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
I am sure Cleopatra caged some dudes and some cavewoman caged some asshole who couldn't kill a mammoth or something.

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I find it sad that you have labeled your own fantasies as sad. I love my fantasies; and don't find them sad in the least.

I think the idea about caging, and everything else under the kinky sun, has been around longer than anyone of us has been born.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I get a bit peeved at guys who want to be kept in a cage in my basement "forever", I always wonder what it is in for me, I mean why would I want to have a cage in my basement where I keep a complete stranger, feed him, have a toilet installed there (I don't even want to think about the stink a bucket would create) - more trouble than my pets and less fun.

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The caging thing, like most other kinks, does seem to have certain spikes in interest.  The same goes for forced femme, CBT, anal, and just about anything else that you can think of.  It comes and goes in spurts, especially if folks read about it, think it's hot, so they adopt it for themselves for a little while.  That's not to discount the folks (like you) who do have it as a regular fantasy of their own that don't need prompting from anyone else to have it as a regular fantasy theme or something they participate in away from the screen.

The other part of this phenomenon that you are experiencing (the reaction from Dominant women) is something that comes from most males leading in with their fantasies, rather than knowing how to have a discussion on the net.  They miss the part that happens in real life, which is both people determining what will happen during a scene (in this case caging) and instead run with what they have in their own head.  They bring it about in such a way where the Dominant is the one actually catering to them and that turns a lot of Dominant women off.  It's a much different approach than what people use together in real life, where both of them are interested in the activity. 

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I find the idea of putting someone in a cage, for a short amount of time, extremely hot. I find the idea of taking care of a person stuck in a cage for a lengthy period of time very...........boring, annoying, uninteresting.

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude
Thanks! That is exactly what I was wondering. I'm very curious about what prompts these spikes in interest in various sorts of activity and kink. I wonder if representations in pop culture also come into play...like if there were a popular film that depicted a guy being caged by a woman whether it would cause and/or reawaken the urge in kinky guys all over the place.

And of course there is a huge disconnect between this kind of prolonged caging (the kind that takes place in a guy's own mind or on a screen with directors and editing) and the practical ramifications which, of course, it seems are mostly left up to the woman to consider and ultimately laugh about.

Other guys normally freeze up when I start to quiz them about this--apparently there's something about being interrogated by a polite and fairly affable but also sort of confrontational curious dude that kills the mood. Go figure.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I always find it humorous when a submissive male thinks its funny to get domina's all upset and venting. Sure leads to a few opinions of mine. lol The thing is, are they explaining what they don't like about something, how they have come to the position they take on whatever it is or are they really upset? I think sometimes we are perceived as upset when we are simply stating how we feel.

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ORIGINAL: TotallyDude

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I find the idea of putting someone in a cage, for a short amount of time, extremely hot. I find the idea of taking care of a person stuck in a cage for a lengthy period of time very...........boring, annoying, uninteresting.

LOL yeah I can see how that would quickly turn into a pain in the ass. My own ideas are very different, though I'm not going to go into them here because I prefer not to wank in public (or if I do to at least do it in the frat party across the aisle, the journal section) but as soon as I mention "cages are hot" I can imagine my own reaction if I were a Domme and someone said that to me would definitely be to begin thinking about how much of a bummer it turned out to be just trying to take care of a pet rabbit when I was 9.

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One of the tricks in communicating your fantasies or favorite kink acts with a woman is to present the idea in a way that doesn't sound like the 500 other guys who also told her that fantasy as if it's super unique and weird or edgy or outrageous. More important than that, though, is realizing that the only way you are going to resonate with a femdom who may share an interest in that fantasy is to understand she's got to get something out of it. It's not about what turns YOU on about the cage, it's about what turns HER on -- and while lots of us have various interests/fascinations with cages, the reason it makes us excited or turned on varies tremendously. Some can be very specific, right down to the design and look of the cage, others are more about the concept of imprisonment or the visual impact of having "a prisoner."

I've probably been approached at least 5 - 10 times in the past few months or year by men who have some sort of a cage fetish and want me to talk to them about it or are trying to find an excuse to discuss it with me, but it's always the same end game and we femdoms see this train coming a mile away: the 'discussion' of the how, why, whatever, is probably an opportunity for them to live their fantasies vicariously through us.

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I always find it humorous when a submissive male thinks its funny to get domina's all upset and venting. Sure leads to a few opinions of mine. lol The thing is, are they explaining what they don't like about something, how they have come to the position they take on whatever it is or are they really upset? I think sometimes we are perceived as upset when we are simply stating how we feel.