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Elisabella -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/10/2011 3:14:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: anorak That's right I'm simply too chicken to approach any of the Dommes here. However, in my defence I will say it is because I have thought things through and have read what others have posted. I have learned from the wisdom of others . I just don't think I'm ready, or ever will be, for a D/s relationship. I won't see it through so I don't see the purpose in starting out. All that would do is waste some poor Domme's time. It would an inexcusable exercise in hopes raised, in expectation of a new relationship, and hopes bitterly dashed. You read about this sort of thing in the journals. I may be running scared, but at least I'm real. Do you want a D/s relationship or do you want a relationship with BDSM involved. While it might seem like any guy going to the Mistress forum will get run out of town on a rail if he mentions that he has fetishes, there are some women who are actually into topping and not just domination. If all else fails go see a pro...see what it's like.

Prinsexx -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/10/2011 3:21:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf I'm a coward too, i tie women up before i beat them Today's dose of seratonin!

FukinTroll -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/10/2011 3:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: anorak That's right I'm simply too chicken to approach any of the Dommes here. Alrighty... gonna Trollinate the thread here with my two gold pieces. /boys: Before you approach a Dom/me make sure that you READ THE FUKIN PROFILE. After that you should have an inkling of what the D is looking for, how you should approach the D. /girls: As above, read and make sure what they are looking for IS WHAT YOU ARE and not what you think you can be. /all: The journals are your friend, read them. More importantly the forum posts are your best friend. A profile is something that is a pain in the ass to write... for a D we like to think we are simple creatures and our candor is understood... there is no medication that can fix our delusions... we are complicated as hell, we think we are pretty simple and if we had the Hubble Telescope for introspection and self examination we could not see the forest of complications for the simple trees that are obstructing our view. The journal and forum posts are the way to get to know us, see the real D for who S/He is. Dommes: you (the boy and girl) are a majority (particularly boys) to the Domme's minority. She is inundated with cmail and if you want to catch her eye KNOW HER! Doms: you are the minority (girls and good boys) to the D's majority. It is a fukin buffet for you, please be choosy. KNOW HIM by their words, study, stalk, hunt... be a dangerous predator cleverly disguised as a meek house pet. /boys: Why is your mail box empty? Cuz yer profile sucks donkey dick and they see that. By all means make friends and get help. /girls: Why is your mail box over flowing? Cuz all the D's think you will suck donkey dick and are convinced they can make you do it. MAIL FEATURE /boys: Read all that shyt above before you attempt to mail and take it to heart. /girls: If you see the D of your dreams FUCK PROTOCOL! Write him/her. We know you have more mail than you can cope with and it is your market... find what you want and go get it. If the D says "that's against the protocol" fuck'em, move on, didn't need that asshole anyway. /both: In your dynamic... any dynamic you are looking for, your needs are going to be met by a good match, just as your wants are met by a good match. Your need to have your ass spanked will be met by my want to spank your ass. It is universal and any kink, freak or desire works that way. What you have to understand is this: Are my freaks and kinks compatible with his/her freaks and kinks. Is S/He a bigger freak than me? Am i a bigger freak than Him/Her? Can I learn to love ____? Do not fret over it, no matter what, there is someone that is as big or little a freak as you, go get'em. Do not delude nor allow yourself to be deluded into thinking you can evolve, grow, be molded, broken, beaten into something you are not. Understand your bottom line, understand who you are and the D you are after. Other shit can be experimented or discovered, but the bottom line is and always will be the bottom line. YMMV

GreedyTop -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/10/2011 3:46:55 PM)
pokes Troll and points to cmail

thishereboi -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/10/2011 5:11:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gungadin09 quote: ORIGINAL: anorak I just don't think I'm ready, or ever will be, for a D/s relationship. I won't see it through so I don't see the purpose in starting out. All that would do is waste some poor Domme's time. Well, as far as i'm concerned, you're welcome here even if you plan on staying vanilla. But what are you hoping to get from this post? A pep talk to raise your spirits? People commending your honesty and consideration for others? Or is this a just a veiled attempt to get some dommes to make the first move? pam I'll take answer 3 for the win Alex[:)]

Jaybeee -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/11/2011 11:17:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: anorak That's right I'm simply too chicken to approach any of the Dommes here. However, in my defence I will say it is because I have thought things through and have read what others have posted. I have learned from the wisdom of others . I just don't think I'm ready, or ever will be, for a D/s relationship. I won't see it through so I don't see the purpose in starting out. All that would do is waste some poor Domme's time. It would an inexcusable exercise in hopes raised, in expectation of a new relationship, and hopes bitterly dashed. You read about this sort of thing in the journals. I may be running scared, but at least I'm real. Indeed you are, but what is ALSO real is that they want to be approached. Oh yeah. Some will refuse, some won't, oldest story in the world. I assume you're a nice guy; that being the case, are you going to continue depriving those dommes who WOULD benefit from your services, only because you're scared of being shot down by a few unworthy women? Should the former suffer because of the latter? Get into the habit of getting rejected and then

Yata69 -> RE: Okay I'll come clean I'm a coward (2/11/2011 11:36:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit My general response to all forms of fear is as follows: 1. Fear of something you intellectually know that other people safely do is worsened by overthinking. Act more and think less. It is harder to climb up to the high wire than it is to walk the high wire because balancing whiel walking requires more thought. 2. Small steps are fine. Find something small you can do, such as go to a public club with a friend. Repeat until you can do it without fear. Then move on to something larger. 3. Everyone has fear. The difference between the coward and the hero is not lack of fear, but a willingness to overcome it. I assure you, the first time anyone pilots an air plane they are scared of flying. But eventually they conquer their fear. This is sound advice, i started slow and am working my way up the ranks as far as experience and knowledge. I have a long way to go, but sometimes the voyage is the best part.

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