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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

You don't think having a profile full of "I'm looking for" when she is in fact owned is weird?

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Anyway, she made the update so it's moot.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Of course that is just my cynical old bitchy self talking.

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I think that detective technique has merit sometimes but, thinking about it, it appears more prominently used when we're suspecting someone is being fraudulent or is saying something false or hypocritical.

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Just curious because I think the rest of the site may like to know when they too can help the site further devolve into one big cyclic verbal bitchslap battle.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Of course that is just my cynical old bitchy self talking.

Does this disclaimer disavow all CM members of consequence if used prior to making otherwise grandiose, insulting, aloof, dismissive, and informatively empty comments, or must one get to a 5-digit post-count first?

Just curious because I think the rest of the site may like to know when they too can help the site further devolve into one big cyclic verbal bitchslap battle.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

In reading all of this..........I am just going to call bullshit on the whole mess.

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4 digits seem to be working splendidly.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Doesn't matter about not leaving, don't want to. He knows that. i am 19, i am going to want to run away when things get hard if He doesn't hold me in. He makes slavery very hard, but very rewarding if i do things right in the end.

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And, LOL Master agrees CM is a joke

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Also, several people have asked if this is online or RL and I didn't note your answer - if it is buried somewhere, please point it out.

I think the avoidance of answering the question is the answer. Of course that is just my cynical old bitchy self talking.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

wait...you said you've been here for years??? How is that possible if you're only 19..unless you have been here since you were under the legal age....hhhhmmm.......

but anyway, you're 19. You're not mature yet and thus you'll want things  your way because well...you're 19. That's what 19 year olds do generally...they want what they want when they want.

You're new to life, new to relationships. Highly unlikely you'll be in this current relationship if you want to call it that, for much longer and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at your age.

My advice to young people....sow your oats, enjoy whatever it is you are doing but don't expect it to last you a lifetime. Live and learn.

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ORIGINAL: catize

I'm not a slave, I identify as submissive. It has always been the internal struggles which led me to become a better person. I will go as far as to assert that those conflicts solidified my determination to fulfill my desire to submit. I ask myself 'is this harmful to me?' The answer is usually no, it is not. And then I remind myself what our agreement is and that agreement obliges me to comply.
I frequently fell in the beginning. One of my favorite quotes became: “Look not at where you fall, rather look at where you tripped.”(Source unknown)

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ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased

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And, LOL Master agrees CM is a joke

Well firstly,

Don't be so quick to judge, I met my Master here and have been collared to him for some time, we hardly ever have conflict and are perfectly happy.

Your problem is, your either not a slave at all, dreamed of the fantasy side which is being someones property, sitting adoringly at their feet and getting the rush from losing all control, problem is, your not made to be a slave, your either one or your not and in your case I'm thinking the latter.

A slave is not only who but what I am, I languish the feeling of releasing all control to another, the knowledge that I am his most prized possession, I am many things, partner, lover, friend but primarily I am his slave, his property and anything he wishes me to be, no decision is mine however I may offer opinions, slavery isn't like the fantasy most envision it to be, it's beautiful and will make you feel truly beautiful and content if it is in your heart what you truly are, there will be days when you don't feel like doing something asked of you, tasks you don't wish to perform.

But a slave does these regardless and finds happiness in the happiness she sees in her Masters eyes, the affirmation she has pleased him, to offer so much to another you must truly be with the right one because as a slave you are offering everything, nothing is yours, including your body, which you handed over to your Master when choosing to become a slave.

As others suggested, speak to him, tell him these things and how you feel...as his you should be completely honest with him and he should be who you go to first, first always, no-one should come before him when you have concerns or you simply cause a barrier, a Master and slave should have a bond, connection stronger than vanilla relationships, open to each other in all ways, by doing this you are only damaging your relationship.

The other issue could be more simple, moving from submissive to slave is a transition, one that can be a shock at first and at first most do fight it, during this time if this is the case, it's even more important you speak to him, not us, or at least speak to him first and make sure he is aware of what you write here.



Beauty.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

well then if you're going to be moving and you know this is just a fling or casual sex or playing or whatever then don't worry about it all and just enjoy whatever it is you are doing I guess.

Apparently he doesn't mind.