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new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 2:55:48 AM   
whiteelle


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Status: offline 		good morning, im a sub, i know a dom should find me but how do i find a dom? please any advice will be helpful. thank you
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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 3:07:48 AM   
Palliata


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Status: offline 		Take it from a dom - many of us appreciate being approached every bit as much as subs do. Just go through the list until someone strikes your fancy and drop them a message to get to know them. Oh, and fill out your profile a bit. Very sparse at the moment

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 3:14:59 AM   
whiteelle


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Status: offline 		thank you, i can not find how to edit my profile, any chance you could tell me where/how please

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 3:20:43 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		on your collarme homepage, in that big row of bluish buttons with "Home" and "Message Boards" -- towards the bottom half, look for "Edit Profile" -- click that, and go to town. =p watch for the button "Interests" at the top of the Profile Edit section, where you can add kinky and vanilla interests.

you don't have to wait for a Dom to find you, you can look around, send messages, and get to know people all you want. partners come into our lives in all sorts of different ways. not everyone you meet will be the right one for you, but you can make friends in the process. ^_^

good luck

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 3:40:31 AM   
subtlebutterfly


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From: Not your hood
Status: offline 		You could always put up a missing-persons ad on Craigslist.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 3:41:55 AM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: whiteelle

good morning, im a sub, i know a dom should find me but how do i find a dom? please any advice will be helpful. thank you



Slutty pictures on your profile will guarantee your email in box is full for weeks.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 4:16:15 AM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		You could also try attending your local munch and meeting local guys.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 4:39:52 AM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You could also try attending your local munch and meeting local guys.


What she said.


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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 4:43:19 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		sometimes the local scene doesn't have much to offer. like here in NE, it's pretty hard for a single female submissive who isn't all that interested in poly. it's all couples looking for seconds, or married men with vanilla wives, and while many people function just fine in those kinds of dynamics, they aren't for everyone.
nothing wrong with looking online, too, if the offline world doesn't have much to choose from.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 10:05:21 AM   
angelikaJ


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Status: offline 		What exactly are you looking for:

a dom, or the One?

a play partner, a mentor, or something more?

Your profile does not contain any text.
In my opinion, ideally the text should paint a picture of who you are and the interests should fill in some of the details.

I had text in my profile, but never filled out the interests section.
I did have a few tasteful photographs.
My inbox was always active.

I really wasn't looking for anything in particular... although I did meet quite a few people from here.
The people I met treated me decently for the most part.

The man who is now my Master found me 2 years ago, when I had been here for about 18 months.

It will help you greatly on your search if you can better define who you are and what you are looking for in a dom.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 4:11:51 PM   
preytolife


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From: LaLa Land
Status: offline 		Just a Dom? Any Dom will do?

Go find a white T-shirt. Put on T-shirt. Spill a bucket of water over your head. Film it. Post to Collarme.

I guarantee they'll find you.

It's not the finding that's the problem.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 4:13:31 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		lol preytolife ^_^
beautiful

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 5:27:55 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		OP, what do you mean, a Dom should just find you?

If you want something you cannot be reactive; it does not work as well that way. Sure, you could wait to be found, but isn't it better for a grown woman to be proactive?

Puts you more in control of who you might meet instead of waiting for every Tom, Dick or HarryDom to come along. Although I am sure it will be mostly Dicks you meet, but that is another matter.

And yes, even if you are a sub you control what happens when you meet.

Don't get frantic, be cool, always works much better.

< Message edited by sexyred1 -- 2/11/2011 5:28:26 PM >

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 5:47:00 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		One thing you can do is to actively search for a dom. Look at doms in your area, look for things you like in their profile. View their forum posts (always nice to see what they tell everyone, not just you).

Then email them something submissive, like:

"hi sir, would you like to talk?"

If the dom does not like what you wrote, then chances are he is not for you.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 5:55:58 PM   
FukinTroll


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From: Under a bridge
Status: offline 		I just made a new journal entry that you should go read. That should help you. 

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 5:56:44 PM   
0ldhen


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From: Henhouse in Trolltopia, Harleyville USA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: whiteelle

, i know a dom should find me


This is a misconception. You can and should look at Doms profiles and feel free to email them.

I have a Dom friend who NEVER emails a sub simply because he knows we get an overabundaence of mail.

They do find it flattering that you approached them, a boost to the old ego, lol.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 6:57:08 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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i wonder where that "the Dom should find me" idea comes from anyway?
i think a lot of times newbies get mystified by this idea of the Dom standing majestically on a mountain top, in all of his black leathered glory, with a paddle and flogger in each hand, gazing into the sunset, his hair whipping in the breeze, whilst the subs in their Conan-cover-art-style bikinis grovel at his feet, hoping for just a glance from his shadowed eyes to let them know... "you're the one."

that's not real life, unfortunately. =p
(note, OP i'm not trying to make fun of you or anything; i'm in a bad mood and spinning yarns makes me happy.)

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 7:23:59 PM   
IronBear


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From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		I'm but one of a goodly number of Doms who are regularly bypassed or sidelined by the plethora of young things seeking Doms. Mind you most of these young things seek single or unattached Doms of an age nearer their own who have a large income and who are fully functioning as well as the expected sexual abilities of a sexual Olympic Athlete.What sub/slave of the younger variety, in hew right mind, wants a Dome on the wrong side of 50? I'm on the wrong side of 65, so that works against me too.


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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 7:56:24 PM   
0ldhen


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From: Henhouse in Trolltopia, Harleyville USA
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I cannot believe you are on the wrong side of 65, you do NOT look it at all.

And a very attractive gentleman at that.

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RE: new, need a dom, help wth finding - 2/11/2011 8:07:08 PM   
FukinTroll


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From: Under a bridge
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

(following OldHen around)
i wonder where that "the Dom should find me" idea comes from anyway?
i think a lot of times newbies get mystified by this idea of the Dom standing majestically on a mountain top, in all of his black leathered glory, with a paddle and flogger in each hand, gazing into the sunset, his hair whipping in the breeze, whilst the subs in their Conan-cover-art-style bikinis grovel at his feet, hoping for just a glance from his shadowed eyes to let them know... "you're the one."

that's not real life, unfortunately. =p
(note, OP i'm not trying to make fun of you or anything; i'm in a bad mood and spinning yarns makes me happy.)



Heh, You saw me at that meet did ya?
SLURP!


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