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Nanako -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/15/2011 6:19:37 PM)
Hello miss. I consider it this way. Throwing D/s to the side for a moment, being unable to apologise would make me think less of someone, as a person. Nobody is perfect, and the dominants who pretend to be, regardless of gender, are just a walking comedy show ^_^

SorceressJ -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/15/2011 6:27:09 PM)
Apologising when mistaken, doing one's own housework, caring for the tired, ill and infirm, offering a helping hand or perspective to others - all actions duly rendered by the evolved individual with love and understanding in his or her heart, having nothing whatsoever to do with BDSM or D/s at all. [sm=2cents.gif] SJ

Sundowner -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/16/2011 12:56:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If and when I ever made a mistake, I will apologize for it. I'm afraid you are wrong, Mr Sundowner. 'If and when I ever made a mistake I *would* apologise for it' would be consistent. 'If I made 'a' I will 'b'' is inconsistent. Ah. I may be wrong. Or, I might be wrong. (I'm not as good at this as you). My suggestion (that he hadn't got round to it yet) was based on the premise that DS was saying:- If I ever made a mistake (that is if, inadvertently, I have made a mistake which you have now discovered) then of course without question I will apologise, I'm that sort of chap. I was not thinking conditional if (which, were it to appear would undoubtedly deserve the subjunctive) so much as unrealised if.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/16/2011 6:19:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistressko Mileage may vary? Purely MMV ... IMO ... But kudo's to You ... for being up front! You ruled one out by being yourself! [:)] Nice trait!

mistressko -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/17/2011 2:09:01 PM)
;-) That is, after all, the point of screening isn't it? :-P Or in my motto for this year - Take me as I am. . .or get lost! -MistressK

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/17/2011 7:55:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistressko ;-) That is, after all, the point of screening isn't it? :-P Or in my motto for this year - Take me as I am. . .or get lost! -MistressK Indeed, it is the point of screening. [:)] Very good luck on your search! And yes, it can be trying ..... [:)] [:)] [:)]

golemx -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/18/2011 1:45:12 PM)
You need to apologize for apologizing! [;)] That is something I have struggled with. It can "feel" wrong to apologize to a sub. Primarily because I expect so much from myself to make no mistakes. But once it's done, it is done. And I can move on without thinking about it. The difference between a Dom/me and a sub is that when I make a mistake I can apologize, correct the situation if necessary, shrug, and move on. When a sub makes a mistake they are required to apologize, be punished by me, be forgiven by me, and move on. Very different dynamic.

ArizonaBossMan -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/18/2011 1:46:54 PM)
Just as long as it isn't the president of the usa apologizing to every tin horn dictator in the world.

Lockit -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/18/2011 1:49:27 PM)
I would rather a submissive apologize sincerely and from the heart and mind knowing they were wrong than because I enforce it. I won't enforce it. It says a lot about them if they don't apologize... the same as it would say a lot about me if I didn't. There is no difference. You are a human being that did something that needs an apology. You either give it, don't, expect it or don't... that says what type of human being you are.

mnottertail -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (2/18/2011 1:50:30 PM)
I am a dominant. I would like to apologize to all the female slaves. Now, blow me.

mons -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (9/5/2011 4:18:42 AM)
hello everyone I am asnwering this so late but it is a good post! I come to see that as a dominant woman when I say I am sorry for a mistake , many see it as a weakness I see it as being polite! It is not a weakness it is a strenght to show you can be wrong! For the one whom see this as a weakness I left that person at the door and did not open again for a conversations again! mons

Epytropos -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (9/5/2011 5:19:00 AM)
I don't know about you, but I personally am right all the time and make no mistakes, so this is never an issue [;)]

mons -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (9/6/2011 4:17:52 AM)
epytropos lol yes this is true also but i try to be kind at first mons

crazyml -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (9/6/2011 6:14:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip it takes more strength to admit being wrong. plus it shows that you are a real person Kerbingo. What LPslittleclip said.

MistressMeltz -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (10/31/2011 4:36:34 PM)
Apologies show strength and humility. It shows what you are strong enough to say you have made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes!

MistrixMsE -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/3/2011 2:03:36 AM)
Gasp... and I thank my slaves/subs when they do something nice for me, and sometimes ASK them to do something instead of telling them. I must not be a twue dominant either! (It doesn't matter that implicit in my asking, is that I still expect they will say yes unless something SERIOUSLY precludes it) IMHO owning up to your own mistakes/errors shows you are not obsessively duty bound to live up to a fictional image/role, but instead are a real person who has the ability to adapt to normal human interactions.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/3/2011 5:55:24 AM)
a lot of people feel like apologizing is weakness -- vanilla, kinky, or otherwise. it's why so many people are so rude. =p "only the strong survive" etc etc for me, i wouldn't be interested in someone who couldn't objectively look at behavior and say "i messed up." some aspiring Dominants want to believe that carrying a D-card excuses them from doing this. i disagree. a Dominant who can own up to his/her own faults is someone i feel like i can believe in even more. so kudos to you, OP.

HannahLynn -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/3/2011 8:56:51 PM)
quote: Apologies show strength and humility. i don't know about that really, but it isn't a sign of fucking weakness, its just what should be done. you fuck something up, you apologize.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/3/2011 9:16:41 PM)
NECRO THREAD!!!!!!! That being said, I do not think admitting when I am wrong and apologize makes me weaker. As a matter of fact, I think it takes a stronger person to admit when s/he is wrong and apologize than it does to just lie about it.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/4/2011 8:38:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistressko I've started the (potentially long) prospect of screening for a houseboy/24/7 TPE. It's something I enjoy, learning about all the different people out there. I did run across something that I wanted to run by you. In a few cases (very few, but more than one) I would give an 'applicant' (lack of better word) a hard time about an answer. Later I might discover I was wrong, that I misunderstood the answer - for instance terminology, or how something specific worked. I'd go back, even if I'd already dismissed them. I'd say hey, just wanted you to know, when I gave you a hard time about x, I've now learned that is means this and not that. I apologize. It was literally no more than that, exactly as stated. One of the 'applicants' took it as me being hard on myself. So of course I explained it was only a matter of politeness. I don't run around apologizing lightly. But I feel it's polite sometimes. I percieve it as a strength for a Domme to admit when she is wrong. Right? Wrong? Mileage may vary? -MistressK As a woman, you get 9 katrillion responses to "Hey....hawareya? It's easy to skip past. Don't....some are losers.....some aren't. You'd be surprised. (That's all I really have to add at this time).

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