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hardbody0224 -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/7/2011 10:11:50 AM)

If you feel were being unfair there is no reason you should not appolgise. It makes you stronger not weaker. Be true to yourself and screw everybody else!




Back2theFuture -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/8/2011 7:14:42 AM)

Apologies are not a weakness they are a example of politeness.

We are all human, top bottom dom sub. We all bleed, though some of us bleed corrosive acid, and you should never think other wise.

We all make mistakes no one is perfect, besides me of course, and when we are wrong we should admit it. It doesn't make you soft it just means you are smart enough to realize you made a mistake and polite enough to admit it.




mons -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/9/2011 11:42:01 PM)

hello ( maybe this should had post)?
I found out that in a certain group that saying sorry has been seen as being weak!  
I made some remarks to them that were funny too calm the them down the talk!
They took it with the wrong way!

So that when i spoke to my twin about it she was so shocked and she too thought my
in my remarks and or statements went to far
!  

My mission was to clear this up and make make no more of it!
I felt reckless with my self it was a clea  I had changed how I expres myself to others, for that moment!
First i did says sorry but then it was just not taken well!

Then I became upset to a degree  that the gloves were off!
An indiviual said something that  made me (which i should never let happen)
blow me up!  I felt silly I never let anyone make me so upset that i lose control,
which i did, my regrads was not taken and it is okay by me! 

I did understand they too were upset!  it was a mistake to leave open place for it to become even worse,
but i went back for my own self!  I felt going back and being the woman i am i had to make sure imy sincere
sorry was given again!  They leave no room for anyone to object to any subject! 

I still go back to give an opinion when I do see something that is worth writing about!  It would
be great if someone of you would just look back at my resence post at this site here!  I know i will be getting
a good talking down and i will be okay with it , as long as i know i did my best to fix that problem!

I am not perfect, but when anyone attacks what ever you said it is hard not to want to
fight back but as a dominant i am human and  do what i did!

thank you
mons /jane




stellauk -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/10/2011 12:09:57 AM)

Surely when you identify yourself as a dominant or Mistress you're doing so on your own individual terms. This doesn't diminish you at all as a woman or a human being. There simply isn't a set standard which could diminish you, because at the end of the day whoever wants to enter into some sort of relationship with you has to meet your own individual expectations.

There's people out there who think an apology is weakness just as there's those who think a mistake or failure is bad and to be avoided. They're the ones who appear to find being successful difficult.




mons -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/11/2011 2:03:49 AM)

stellauk

You have taken this as it is, people whom can not hide the
own distaste for their own selves can not enjoy life pleasures and their 
success"s! 
I have learn that it was and still is ok to be me, to show what I feel with all of
my fault, and weakness, but  I must harness my angry and let no one ever
bring out that side of me to open again!

I am stronger for knowing them
and correcting whatever i see that needs to be changed!
I  feel so much more relaxed, becasue if I as
a person can not see my own rights and wrongs
and not live up to answering them, then I am only fooling myself!

thank for just reading this}:0)
mons




stellauk -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/11/2011 9:44:33 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

stellauk

You have taken this as it is, people whom can not hide the
own distaste for their own selves can not enjoy life pleasures and their 
success"s! 
I have learn that it was and still is ok to be me, to show what I feel with all of
my fault, and weakness, but  I must harness my angry and let no one ever
bring out that side of me to open again!

I am stronger for knowing them
and correcting whatever i see that needs to be changed!
I  feel so much more relaxed, becasue if I as
a person can not see my own rights and wrongs
and not live up to answering them, then I am only fooling myself!

thank for just reading this}:0)
mons


Exactly. Thank you for sharing this.




mons -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/11/2011 2:38:38 PM)

Stellauk

Thanks so for answering me!  I enjoy my hobbies and I still want
be pleasent and have a good time here!  I enjoy and laugh so hard
at answer and then, when it is serious, everyone gives a answer that
is hopeful and helpful!  

thanks again
mons




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/11/2011 7:07:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mistressko

I've started the (potentially long) prospect of screening for a houseboy/24/7 TPE. It's something I enjoy, learning about all the different people out there. I did run across something that I wanted to run by you.

In a few cases (very few, but more than one) I would give an 'applicant' (lack of better word) a hard time about an answer. Later I might discover I was wrong, that I misunderstood the answer - for instance terminology, or how something specific worked. I'd go back, even if I'd already dismissed them. I'd say hey, just wanted you to know, when I gave you a hard time about x, I've now learned that is means this and not that. I apologize. It was literally no more than that, exactly as stated.

One of the 'applicants' took it as me being hard on myself. So of course I explained it was only a matter of politeness. I don't run around apologizing lightly. But I feel it's polite sometimes. I percieve it as a strength for a Domme to admit when she is wrong.

Right? Wrong? Mileage may vary?

-MistressK


I say charge them 5 bucks for every wrong answer, 10 bucks for every right answer.

We need to jump start this economy.....I have a 9/9/9 plan...

9% of the population are morons....they should be shipped to an island.  Abruptly.

9% of the population are worker bee's (actually, it's closer to 80%, but that doesn't fit well into my 9/9/9 plan...we'll work on that aspect as allotted time allows), so they should get taxed at some level that keeps them under "the man's" thumb...forever in debt, always wondering where their next bread crumb is coming from.

9% of the population are "doer's", they should be allowed to keep all their income and hire hookers every day, tax deductible.  Keep in mind, hookers will spend their money as fast as they earn it....likely on heroin or crack (and some occasional tuna and mayo, and some white bread).

This gets the economy moving, at unprecedented levels, never before seen.

The margin, even at street level for these products, is easily 250%.  Taxable return to the treasury.....indescribable.

Why would we want to stop commerce that had margins as large or larger than Google, Microsoft or Exxon?

It's lunacy, obviously.

Our economy is based on a consumer driven approach. 

Always has been, always will be.  But consumers have, naturally, pulled back.

When we can convert the general public from a position wherein which they're purchasing things because they choose to....to one where they purchase because they're Jonesing and searching for a vein.....that's when we'll have full employment, that's when we'll see the national employment figures approach 5% and these are the things I'll bring to the table on my FIRST day as President of these United States of America.

Thank you.





seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Apology Equals Weakness? (11/12/2011 8:57:08 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mistressko

I'd go back, even if I'd already dismissed them. I'd say hey, just wanted you to know, when I gave you a hard time about x, I've now learned that is means this and not that. I apologize


This really bothers me.

The last person i ever want to hear from, is a Domme who dismissed me. And to say You were wrong ... that is adding insult to injury!

I know when i am dismissed (and yes, this has happened) i am really upset. The same way i would feel in a vanilla breakup.

So. i think Your approach, after dismissing, is just poor taste and bad judgement. You should just forget it.

Although the converse is true, if the subject has not been dismissed. Because that helps develop a relationship!





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