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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


As a femdom with a sensual-sadist streak and a huge fan of bondage, I view a lot of male bondage porn, and not surprisingly, most is M/M. I watch this genre not specifically because I want to see "man to man action" in the form of blow jobs or anal, I watch it because the focus is primarily on the bottom, and the bottom is usually presented as a very attractive, charismatic "victim" vs. in het bondage porn where the male bottom is often a hooded, uncharismatic afterthought or mere prop with the focus on the domina delivering the action.

In years and years and YEARS of talking to male subs and bottoms and possible suitors, when I try to engage them in getting involved in understanding male/male porn, or even bondage with the focus on the man, very few ever stay motivated about it at all - unless they are driving their own forced oral/cuck fantasy. While hundreds of men have sent me unsolicited pictures/videos/links of images and videos they think I will find "erotic," most are the same old porn clips with the focus on the woman, or on the predicament, with a totally unattractive man or invisible man on the receiving end of the action. I can count on one hand the number of men that have found a good example of male bondage - from mainstream stuff to m/m porn - where there would clearly be an appeal for a woman who enjoys seeing a man in bondage or BDSM. It's never m/m in focus, even though this market is swimming with great imagery.

Why aren't het men studying this stuff and getting a sense of what femdoms like? I'm not the first femdom to proclaim that while I like BDSM porn, I tend to gravitate toward gay BDSM porn not because I have a huge thing for guys together, but because the men are more pretty to look at.

Akasha

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Not to mention, entirely the point!

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

Heterosexual submissive men, for the most part, simply don't know how to do that.  They know how to demand that a woman stage herself for their viewing pleasure, which is arguably the most annoying mistake that "submissive" men make to really turn off dominant women.  They do not know how to "ham it up" for her viewing pleasure, or to package themselves as the object to be consumed rather than as the consumer.  And therein lies the very specific lesson we wish they would learn. 

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
All that aside, then, and as a purely a matter of interest and apropos of nothing else at all: Could I see a show of hands from those women who a) think that submales could profit from watching M/m porn but b) do not get off at the idea of two men together and absolutely wouldn't want their own submale to be part of, say, a bi male scene that they, the women, are involved in or are 'directing'?

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
I'd just say, "hey, this turns me on, who wants to do this with me?"

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I did want to emulate women in what I saw them doing, sure . . . but I also got some inspiration from advertising. Back in the 90's, I noticed that lots of this was beginning to use males in the same way as females had been used: all moody bodies, hands over eyes and swooning, etc, etc . . . Some people thought that this species of advertising had 'homoerotic overtones'. Me, I thought, 'Yes, true . . . but I want some of what that's doing to the females I know, so I'll get it.' Hence one major reason why I started using a gym.