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punishments - 2/17/2011 11:15:18 PM   
mistressnomm


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Status: offline 		I've just recently got into being a mistress and trying it out with someone online first. Can anyone help me with some horrible punishments for my slave which will leave him feeling humiliated.
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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:28:30 PM   
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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:30:37 PM   
mistressnomm


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Status: offline 		I'm stuck on what sort of punishments to do though. I just need some general ideas to see how far I can push him.

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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:31:19 PM   
GreedyTop


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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:34:23 PM   
mistressnomm


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Status: offline 		For when he doesn't stick the my rules, or call me mistress.

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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:35:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		seriously though - Greedy was right in her comment that we don't know him.

I would be totally humiliated being stripped naked and led around a fetish club on a leash. A good friend of mine would see that as an ultimate reward.

Another friend finds it humiliating being told to beg for mercy while she's being caned. For me, that's as hot as hell.

So you see, there is no 'one size fits all' punishment that works for everyone. It becomes even more difficult when it's online.

You need to talk to him, work with him a bit longer to spot what pushes his humiliation buttons.

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RE: punishments - 2/17/2011 11:36:58 PM   
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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 4:47:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Isn't this something you should have though of before taking on a slave? Personally I would be humiliated if my domme had to come online to get ideas like this.

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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 4:56:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		The ultimate punishment is for you to not communicate with him for some time. If that doesn't do it, then you can't enforce anything else.

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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 6:20:03 AM   
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Isn't this something you should have though of before taking on a slave? Personally I would be humiliated if my domme had to come online to get ideas like this.

I agree with this.  I also have to say if the person being trained can't even obey regarding what they are supposed to be calling the Dominant, I'd hang it up.  If I don't even have that much control, there really isn't much of a point to it.


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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 9:58:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		The other half of control is the obedience of the submissive. If someone is not motivated to submit to you, no punishment in the world will change that.

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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 10:03:07 AM   
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The other half of control is the obedience of the submissive. If someone is not motivated to submit to you, no punishment in the world will change that.


this is so true.
punishments can be cathartic, for some they might deter a behavior, sure -- but a good deal of the motivation for obedience comes from within the s-type him/herself.
if there's no motivation to obey, or to fix the problems that are resulting in punishments, then you won't really get anywhere at the end of the day.
i think a lot of s-types subscribe to this "need to be tamed" to avoid personal responsibility.

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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 10:25:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

Isn't this something you should have though of before taking on a slave? Personally I would be humiliated if my domme had to come online to get ideas like this.



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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 11:14:25 AM   
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The ultimate punishment is for you to not communicate with him for some time. If that doesn't do it, then you can't enforce anything else.

That said, welcome to the lifestyle!

Yeah, NO communication for a period of time. That would most definitely be punishment in my book.

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RE: punishments - 2/18/2011 3:54:39 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Cut his arm off. I have no idea what humiliates him, but that is a horrible punishment. He might be good, after that.

Oh wait- you're not realtime. Nevermind.


OP, I'm with thishereboi: I'd be extremely humiliated if I had a domme so clueless that she can't even discuss things with me, and instead comes to a bunch of complete strangers asking how to humiliate me. Show the poor guy this thread. That might do it.

Humiliation is a very personal and individual thing, that some people are into and some aren't. If you crave giving it to him and he doesn't crave it himself, you're not a good match in that area. If he craves a kind of humiliation that you're not interested in giving, same thing. And if humiliation doesn't interest him at all, or it turns him off- then you're wasting both your time if you go there.

COMMUNICATE with him. Get to know his needs and desires, and your own- and how they match up.

Also: humiliation can be done very well without punishment! Not everyone needs or wants a reward/punishment dynamic.

FUNishment can be yummy if you both crave it, but true punishment is just not necessary unless you and your partner both feel that it is. The idea of a punishment/reward dynamic bores me to tears, for example. But I love to thoroughly humiliate my slave, and he loves it too. But even with that in common, we still have to talk about everything so that we make sure that the things we do are working for both of us, in that area. We're not mind readers. We talk.


And punishment is a separate issue, as I said above- but if my slaveboy needed a reward/punishment dynamic, he'd be the wrong slave for me.
The way to have experiences that are fulfilling for both of you is to make sure you're with a partner whose needs and desires are compatible with yours. Communication and compatibility are key.

Explore, and have FUN!





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RE: punishments - 2/21/2011 11:20:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Im new to this as well and I would be interesed in submitting to you online. Message me if you are interested and I believe I can be a very good slave and make you very happy.

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RE: punishments - 2/22/2011 12:01:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yesw humiliatiomnn can be the most exciting aspect but neerds to be done right

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RE: punishments - 2/22/2011 12:04:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Where shud I messaage to. Humiliation . Can take u to the n3ext l3evel of exccitement and it ends up that the person who's being humiliated. Get a bett5er experienc3e cuz she's exciting the other perswon more. Basicc but people don't get it

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RE: punishments - 2/22/2011 12:12:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sublime65

Where shud I messaage to. Humiliation . Can take u to the n3ext l3evel of exccitement and it ends up that the person who's being humiliated. Get a bett5er experienc3e cuz she's exciting the other perswon more. Basicc but people don't get it


A perfect example of how to humiliate yourself.  There ya go.

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RE: punishments - 2/22/2011 12:28:44 AM   
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Im new to this as well and I would be interesed in submitting to you online. Message me if you are interested and I believe I can be a very good slave and make you very happy.


Mmkay, cutiepie. Soon as I figure out how to do online CBT, and pee right down your throat online, fist you online, etc. - I'll message you.

Not.

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