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I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:30:14 AM

MasterHelios

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I have gone through the list of so called available subbies, and slaves. Many I sent notes to asking to talk with them.
No replies so must be doing something wrong, or My age is too old.

Anyway I noticed so many have found someone, or just wanting to talk so I said I would like to talk, or teach, but again nothing.

Then also that so many have found someone yet they don't take their profiles out, or say upfront they are already taken.

Why can't they remove them, and let Us Master(resses) know this, and not waste our time?

I don't know what is so bad with My profile so if S/someone would check give Me some advice please, and I would like some responses, or contacts please.
Master Helios

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:34:47 AM

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http://www.collarchat.com/Why_is_so_many_who_claim_to_be_owned__do_not_deactivate_their_profiles%25/m_296544/tm.htm
Why do so many who claim to be owned do not deactivate your their profiles

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:38:39 AM

gooddogbenji

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Master Helios,

If you view each person you contact who is not interested for some reason as a waste of time, be prepared to waste A LOT!

People don't reply for lots of reasons, but bitching about it doesn't solve any issue. Look at what you write in your messages, change what you write if it's not working, and go on with life.

Also, the list of available subbies makes it sound like you're looking for a hotel, not talking to people. It sounds like you write one after the other, then the next, then the next etc, until you get to the end, then kick back and wait for results. Not saying it's what you do, it just is not an appealing description.

"Subbie" also will raise some hairs. Not mine, but be ready to be spit-roasted over that word.

And I've now heard 82 people with vanilla cones gripe about not getting replies. It's getting so old, I wrote a semi-serious reply. Ouch.

Yours,

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:40:34 AM

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Sorry but they are all busy serving me but I will be done with them next week and will be auctioning off the better ones, the rest will be sold to a rendering plant.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:40:34 AM

zebra

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Those of us who don't know what you are saying in your notes to these people can only guess what the problem might be. Are you reading profiles and sending notes that make some reference to what is written in them? If not, you probably should do that. Do your notes mention the whole "if you aren't Christian you should be willing to listen" thing? There are more appropriate sites for Christian proselytizing (there's an entire Christian DD and D/s site, I believe). A lot of people are looking for more commitment than a married dom can give -- you mention 24/7 but it doesn't look like that's something you can offer. So, in short, I dunno. But there are some thoughts.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:42:07 AM

Proprietrix

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Well, I looked at your profile (as you requested) and noticed a few things that might be immediate turn-offs to some submissives.
First and foremost: I'm not sure what you mean by this "If you have a little girl that can adapt to O/our nudist lifestyle great not over 7." but it raises a HUGE red flag for me. Are you talking about AGE 7?
Beyond that,
1. The immediate mentioning of your penis size. A lot of people really don't care to know such a personal detail as one describing their genitals. If you flip this around, how would it look if a woman put in the first sentence of her profile "My labia is about 2 inches long and about half an inch thick."
2. You're married. Kudos for being upfront about it, but a lot of people just won't contact married people. They don't care about the details about if or if not the wife knows, is involved, etc... It's just a no-go for some folks.
3. You had a nice start to what you're looking for "Gorean, D/s, whips, etc.." but then again you throw in the whole fingering and oral thing. Many submissives want to be treasured as a person, not a sex toy.
4. You say you're actively seeking online romance. A lot of submissives are seeking real time.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:42:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Sorry but they are all busy serving me but I will be done with them next week and will be auctioning off the better ones, the rest will be sold to a rendering plant.

Screw you. I couldn't think of anything funny, and now you bring this? Quit flaunting your humour.

Yours,

benji

Edited to add: Do I get an invite to the auction? I need some processed bad-slave for a BBQ party....

< Message edited by gooddogbenji -- 5/4/2006 10:44:11 AM >

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:44:02 AM

MasterHelios

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Thank You that helps.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:48:41 AM

MasterHelios

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Thank you I take that criticism and will make some changes. I appreciate it.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:53:43 AM

IronBear

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Not to forget that many people are here just to make friends and socialise.... Perhaps .001% of people who contact are vaguely interested in a collar and even those who are are in the US .. Could this be because I have defined what I want , what I expect and what I offer, as well as who and what i am including that I'm married and have a poly home? It filters out many people seekig anything other than possible friendship.Look on CM as a fun social interaction and let people get to know you on the forums....

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RE Crappy Dom - 5/4/2006 10:53:57 AM

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rendering plant! rendering plant! too much pony play maybe !
..although maybe a sanctuary for old decrepid submissives would be a better option..smiles..well they have donkey sanctuaries..we raise money for them here it's a well established charity.ohh ohh maybe a charity ball to raise the funds! gotta be better than being processed for dog meat..or glue!! lolol

keep safe
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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:55:19 AM

Morpheus07

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One thing I noticed about your profile is your weight. Women (even bbw's and morbidly obese) do not generally respond to men who they perceive as overweight. I would leave out the mention of weight. And having a picture (If you are reasonably attractive) will always increase the replies. I used to have one, and I received several unsolicited relies, whereas now, I never get them. I don't think it is your age, unless you are only looking at much younger women. Just my observations, good luck to you

PS: I cannot see your actual profile as it says "profile pending approval".

< Message edited by Morpheus07 -- 5/4/2006 11:02:28 AM >

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 10:57:18 AM

JohnWarren

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHelios

I have gone through the list of so called available subbies, and slaves. Many I sent notes to asking to talk with them.
No replies so must be doing something wrong, or My age is too old.

Anyway I noticed so many have found someone, or just wanting to talk so I said I would like to talk, or teach, but again nothing.

Then also that so many have found someone yet they don't take their profiles out, or say upfront they are already taken.

Why can't they remove them, and let Us Master(resses) know this, and not waste our time?

I don't know what is so bad with My profile so if S/someone would check give Me some advice please, and I would like some responses, or contacts please.
Master Helios

How do you know they are taken if they don't have it in their profile and you've admitted that they don't reply to you? If they have it in their profile, why should they remove the profile as they are evidently here for a reason other than hooking up? Some people are, you know.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:01:22 AM

shawnastone

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

Well, I looked at your profile (as you requested) and noticed a few things that might be immediate turn-offs to some submissives.
First and foremost: I'm not sure what you mean by this "If you have a little girl that can adapt to O/our nudist lifestyle great not over 7." but it raises a HUGE red flag for me. Are you talking about AGE 7?
Beyond that,
1. The immediate mentioning of your penis size. A lot of people really don't care to know such a personal detail as one describing their genitals. If you flip this around, how would it look if a woman put in the first sentence of her profile "My labia is about 2 inches long and about half an inch thick."
2. You're married. Kudos for being upfront about it, but a lot of people just won't contact married people. They don't care about the details about if or if not the wife knows, is involved, etc... It's just a no-go for some folks.
3. You had a nice start to what you're looking for "Gorean, D/s, whips, etc.." but then again you throw in the whole fingering and oral thing. Many submissives want to be treasured as a person, not a sex toy.
4. You say you're actively seeking online romance. A lot of submissives are seeking real time.

Well said!!!!!!!!!

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RE: RE Crappy Dom - 5/4/2006 11:03:40 AM

givemyall

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kneltandtied
..although maybe a sanctuary for old decrepid submissives would be a better option..smiles..well they have donkey sanctuaries..we raise money for them here it's a well established charity.ohh ohh maybe a charity ball to raise the funds! gotta be better than being processed for dog meat..or glue!! lolol

What a superb idea! What are the age restrictions, I could do with a rest lol

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:06:22 AM

plantlady64

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Maybe it's because some of us can't send out messages to people due to system problems here.
I know since December I can't write or respond to messages here so maybe that's part of your problem.
You also say you've gone through the list of all avialable sub/slaves & you never wrote me so I don't believe you've contacted everyone.
Look at it like fishing. Enjoy the time spent seeking the one who will bite your hook and not just the reeling in or eating part and you'll be happier.
Suzanne

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:06:52 AM

meatcleaver

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They're all wannabes and players so think yourself lucky you only wasted the time it takes to write a message.

Seriously though, most are obviously only here to read the threads and get entertained by other people's experiences.

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:11:54 AM

Lordandmaster

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Please, if you're going to complain, do so in grammatical English. The title of this thread should be "I have a complaint that needs TO BE addressed."

You wouldn't say "I want loved." Or "I hate lied to."

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:14:08 AM

gooddogbenji

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

You wouldn't say "I want loved." Or "I hate lied to."

Maybe he would. Don't judge his kinks. If he hate lied to, that's his problem, not yours.

Damn safety nazis.

Yours,

benji

< Message edited by gooddogbenji -- 5/4/2006 11:15:28 AM >

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RE: I have a complaint that needs addressed. - 5/4/2006 11:14:32 AM

BBBTBW

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After reading your profile the one thing I can say that stands out is that you say you are married,but you don't expound on that. Is your wife also your submissive? Is she your DOMINANT...what role does she play in your life. Are you looking to have a poly house? What are the details with your marriage and desiring a 24/7 submissive? I don't think your weight has much to do with it as someone mentioned earlier as you are very tall so I am sure you wear it well. Your age probably really doesn't have anything to do with it either. Its all in your approach and the information you initially give. I too am a Christian and see nothing wrong with putting that right out front although that might turn some off. You have to roll with the punches. The online thing is a beast all its own.

Ms. Loren

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