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Markus27 -> Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 1:49:09 AM)
I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this?

RapierFugue -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 1:57:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this? Brought up before? Done to death, more like. If it’s not older doms whinging about how some girls have an upper age limit then it’s younger ones moaning about how are they supposed to gain experience and be taken seriously at a younger age. T’was ever thus, and most likely will be the same in a hundred years.

BitaTruble -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 2:06:12 AM)
Markus.. I'm going to do you a favor and you really should listen to me because it's in your own best interest to do so albeit it is only a well intentioned suggestion. Go to this thread and read the OP. Respond to it and engage with the other posters in some real meat and potatoes potential and delete what you wrote in the OP.

TotalDiscipline -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 2:07:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this? Like with many things in life...experience come with age. But if you don't give the younger ones a chance.....they never get experience.

poise -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:12:33 AM)
If dominance were a hobby, than sure, I guess age wouldn't matter, and we can all play well together. However, my preference on age has less to do with experience in the lifestyle and much more to do with experience in life. I have a feeling this is true for many others.

AquaticSub -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:16:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RapierFugue quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this? Brought up before? Done to death, more like. If it’s not older doms whinging about how some girls have an upper age limit then it’s younger ones moaning about how are they supposed to gain experience and be taken seriously at a younger age. T’was ever thus, and most likely will be the same in a hundred years. Pretty much. Some women like older men. Some don't. Some like both. As someone with a young owner, I can't say I've really given a shit about it nor has he. We just go where we go and no one has had the desire, or at least the balls, to tell him to face that he is too young. It seems, in my experience, to be an Internet thing in the community.

Palliata -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:22:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble Markus.. I'm going to do you a favor and you really should listen to me because it's in your own best interest to do so albeit it is only a well intentioned suggestion. Go to this thread and read the OP. Respond to it and engage with the other posters in some real meat and potatoes potential and delete what you wrote in the OP. I'm confused... how does that thread relate to this one? As to the topic, let people have their own preferences. The day romantic preferences become logical we won't notice because we'll be too busy shoveling snow in hell.

gothikbutterfly -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:26:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise If dominance were a hobby, than sure, I guess age wouldn't matter, and we can all play well together. However, my preference on age has less to do with experience in the lifestyle and much more to do with experience in life. I have a feeling this is true for many others. i agree with that 110,000%. it seems that with age comes experience, and you should trust in the older ones to teach, and the younger ones to learn. i'm only 28, but i feel like i can learn a whole lot from anyone who is older, in the lifestyle or in life.

Kana -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:29:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. Cuz young guys tend to be one-pump chumps. Sheesh, that wasn't so difficult. Oh yeah, there is that pesky little emotional maturity thingee.

poise -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:34:36 AM)
Older men drive better They shift smoothly hug curves take the long way home. Younger men get excited revving their own engines Afraid you’ll change your mind if they don’t drive fast enough my apologies if this offended anyone

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:56:54 AM)
It's because it's what they are drawn to... But in terms of experience, "Life Experience" is often a big part of it...not just BDSM experience.

IronBear -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 5:58:48 AM)
A lot can depend in social demographics too. In a number of societies about the globe it is not unusual for a younger lady to marry or wish to, an older man. Sometimes this is due to tradition and again oft this is based that the older (and often portly - showing maturity and personal power) male is established in life and can provide better for his young wife, he is experienced sexually and has patience. In other cases it may be because the old bloke is wealthy and the young bride is waiting for him to kick the bucket so she gets her hands in nhis wealth. (Ring a bell anyone??) However in these societies and countries, no one kicks up a stink about an older male seeing or looking for a young lass. Sadly in some societies and especially those who worship everything young and neglect the older folk, there is open hostility if an older man is seeing a younger lass.Conversly, it is socially acceptable for an old boiler (sorry elder Lady) chooses to date and even bed a younger male, she is celebrated for her active libido and other things. No one comments that the young man may be after her wealth. Such are the iniquities of Australian society to day.. As to the OP I find here that there are sub groups set aside for the under 35's so they don't have to see the wrinkly bits. There are move about to have subset areas for BDSM in some of the BBW groups Neets and I visit socially (at least they don't try to discourage us or even refuse membership due to my being 30 years older than my wife. When the OP gets a few years on and some maturity, He may find that he may lust after some lithe smoking hot chick younger than himself and then he may start to understand that it is not always worth the shit of PMT and other dramas when the older ladies may have finished with this shit and seeks sexy company. I do know ladies who seek older guys. Why the OP asks? Look about you and listed and watch the younger crowd of young adult males - Rude, Abusive, Aggressive, Opinionated and believing that all a woman wants is a long thick penis rammed into her for a couple of hours. I rest my case.......

DarkSteven -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 6:15:19 AM)
Markus, I don't think they really want age as much as maturity, and knowing what you offer and want. In your case, I read your profile and read that you are looking for 100% no-limit slaves and yet don't explain what experience you have (I suspect little or none). And your profile reads like it was thrown together hurriedly. Get experience. Learn what you want. And express yourself well. Once you do those, you'll fare better.

IronBear -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 6:36:39 AM)
One of those profiles written under the sheets by torchlight after mummy and daddy have turned the lights out?

phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 6:48:08 AM)
if i was looking which i am not i would say not under 45 but thats because i wouldnt seek a play partner but a master/Dom who would own me in a full time relationship and would be someone i would be inlove with and i would want someone close to my age or older just personal preference.

LadyPact -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 7:06:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this? I hear this argument all of the time when it comes to this issue. The problem with it is that you're using what is often the exception, rather than the rule. Most Doms didn't start when they were forty and therefore have less experience than the one who started at a younger age. While there are some who discover their Dominant streak 'later in life' the folks who have been into BDSM from the time they become adults have (hopefully) been acquiring experience all along. The BDSM part aside, most folks have more regular life experience the more years they have been on the earth. I can promise you that I knew more at 40 than I did at 30. I'm going to know more at 50 than I do today. That's just the way life goes. If you used the word "Domina" specifically to refer to a female Dominant as opposed to a male, I want to say a word about that in particular. Female Dominants (or tops) honestly don't struggle in acquiring experience the way that males do. This has a lot to do with the imbalance that exists in the lifestyle. Females just plain have more opportunities than males. For example, I was at two different munch groups yesterday that included two play parties. (One afternoon and one evening.) I had four separate scenes and I scheduled several more because there just wasn't enough time for Me to play with everyone who was interested. With this in mind, females are acquiring more experience at a faster rate because we're just plain doing it more.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 7:11:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. I understand some older men know what they are doing however some younger men do too. It amuses me seeing those profiles that say 40+ or 50+ only or w/e and thinking to myself do they just magically know what they're doing at 40, 50+. No. And if Domina get passed up at a younger age how will they know at 40-50? By this logic a man 18-39 who has been Dom for 15 years is less experience than a Dom. who is 41 and magically started being Dom at 40. Anyone else see the humor in this? Let the pile of wrinkles have their last shot at glory before they are culled from society and doomed to watch Price Is Right until they eventually wither away.

Palliata -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 7:21:06 AM)
You know what we should do? We should have people put "Must Have 3-5 Years D/s and Bondage Experience; 2+ years continuous M/s and references preferred" instead of age. I think that would make this whole process 100x better. It'll be like applying for jobs, except the interview process will occur in the nude or semi-nude...

porcelaine -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 7:21:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Markus27 I know this has most likely been brought up before but why is it that subs desire older men due to 'experience'. Greetings, I would sincerely suggest you consider it a matter of personal preference. I have never understood the need to debate what another party deems suitable for themselves. I'm certain you have your own nuances and don't readily accept every individual that comes your way. Perhaps you're interpreting this from the wrong angle. It would appear that the individual that partners with an older dominant probably has some affinity for older men. Or at the very least a willingness to explore. I can't fathom why you're bothered by this in all truth. They don't have the monopoly you're envisioning. Namaste, ~porcelaine

myotherself -> RE: Age in Dominance (2/20/2011 7:22:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise However, my preference on age has less to do with experience in the lifestyle and much more to do with experience in life. What Poise said. I would be uncomfortable dating someone more than 5 years younger than me or around 10 years older. I want to stay 'my' age group, with my social references (music, fashion etc) from first-hand experience, not gleaned from the History Channel or (heaven forbid!) their parents. Too young or too old and thus far I haven't been able to relate to them. Therefore when I was looking, I made it clear I wanted a relationship with someone who happened to be dominant and sadistic. Fortunately I kept persevering and although it's taken a looooong time, I have the right man.

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