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anthony69 -> Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:42:00 PM)

So my question for the longest time is how do I go about establishing my self as a young master thats interested in older woman? I have had great attraction to older woman ever since I was A young boy.A older woman to is a woman in her late 30s,early 40s and 50s.



discreethusband -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:44:19 PM)

Just a suggestion, I'd start by not calling them "older".



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:50:21 PM)

Whats wrong with referring to them as older ? It's no form of disrespect on my part.



LadyPact -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:51:59 PM)

Exactly what is it about you that makes you a Master?  Find someone who believes you are that based on the same criteria and you'll have solved your problem.



myotherself -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:53:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: discreethusband



Just a suggestion, I'd start by not calling them "older".


Bingo!

I have been approached by guys in their 20s and 30s and every time I was turned off by the variations on the "I prefer older women" thing. It makes me feel like it's not me they're interested in, just my age.

And for someone in her 40s, being reminded that I'm 'older' is really not going to score any brownie points, lol



Missokyst -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:53:16 PM)

I dislike being called older, even by men who are a decade younger.
In fact, I am pretty sure I have only gone out with guys who never call me an older woman.
phhht to that.



littlewonder -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:53:40 PM)

Just treat all women like a human being instead of as your kink or fetish and you might have some luck. 



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:54:30 PM)

About the quote, I'm not sure what you are trying to say.



DarkSteven -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:56:51 PM)

Stupid question, Anthony - just why do you want a woman older than you? Your profile and.pics strike me as being as mature as a 21 year old. Which is fine for you, but you'd nog mesh well with someone who wants maturity.

Why not those closer to you in age?



myotherself -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:57:44 PM)

I'm assuming you're referring to my response with the quote.

I quoted a statement that gets to the heart of your problem. I explained below that (and Missokyst mentioned in a later post) that we aren't flattered at being referred to as older. Or treated as your kink.

We're people, and if you approach us in that way then you may just find your luck changes.



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 1:59:18 PM)

I have never called a woman "older" in my. This actually is my first time ever addressing the matter. I thought if there ever was a place do so than this forum would be it.



MsLadySue -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:00:13 PM)

Having read your profile, I see the word 'expert' beside a lot of things on your list. Most of which have no bearing on being a dominant. What's missing from your profile, is information regarding your experience as a dominant. Older women are not likely to be convinced you are a Master of anything at the tender age of 21 and would want evidence to back up the use of that word.


Edited for spelling



LadyPact -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:00:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: discreethusband

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I can't tell you how many times I've had people tell Me that they identify as switch, but when they interact with Me, I bring out the submissive part in them.


Just a suggestion, I'd start by not calling them "older".

The above quote happens to be Mine from the "Lifestyle Switch" thread.  Is there a particular reason why you pasted it to this one?



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:07:17 PM)

I'm glad I have not taken action yet. All of this constructive criticism is helping me to open my eyes a little more wider. So are there suggestions as to what I should say or use to phrase my words more differently?



myotherself -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:11:08 PM)

I'd start with the profile. All the 'you must call me Sir' stuff really reeks of inexperience. When I read it I just rolled my eyes and had a little wry grin on my face.

Remember, it doesn't matter what age anyone is, we're just people trying to get together with people. I gather from your profile that you're not looking for anything permanent, so make it clear what benefits there would be for anyone of any age to have a casual or short-term relationship with you. What makes you different from the hundreds of other guys on here looking for the same thing?

I assume you do stuff outside of kink - would you want your sub to be involved in those? Or is it strictly for play? Write your advert, and try to sell yourself as a confident young man who would be fun to be with.



BonesFromAsh -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:13:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: anthony69

So my question for the longest time is how do I go about establishing my self as a young master thats interested in older woman? I have had great attraction to older woman ever since I was A young boy.A older woman to is a woman in her late 30s,early 40s and 50s.


From your profile...

quote:


If you are a sub,slave or pet and you wish to talk with me or become friends you must first address me as Sir Anthony.I'm a Master and the proper respect must be shown to further anything.


You list yourself as an 'expert' in lifestyle BDSM, corsets and knife play not to mention romance novels, herbalism and housekeeping just to name a few. Your profile reads, as DarkSteven said, like that of a 21 year old. I'm 44...in that "older" age range, as you like to put it, and I would most likely breeze right by you.

As LadyPact said...what are you a Master of? Have you mastered yourself? Skills? Life? Are you aware of what the title of Master entails?

As a top, you might be an interesting way to pass an hour or so, but as anything else...what do you have to offer a woman in the age range you desire? Sex is easy...what happens afterwards is the key.



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:14:53 PM)

I have done all once before and was very detailed in what I was good at as fare fetishes go and, what I was looking for in and outside of the kink aspect.



anthony69 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:17:30 PM)

But you are right, thanks for the advice.



oceanwynds2 -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:17:44 PM)

I do not mean to be impolite, but a 21 yr old who refers to themselves as a master would be a red flag to me. It is a young age, especially to an old lady like me. I cannot imagine anyone mastering life at that age. I am sure that I am bias. I just saying though, it might cause some of us older women puzzlement



JohnWarren -> RE: Being a 21 year old master and wanting older woman. (2/20/2011 2:25:02 PM)

First you might want to put some pictures on your profile that make you look mature.  The text should also reflect that.

However, to really develop a reputation you have to get out in the face to face world.  Las Vegas has a number of play venues and at least one munch. 

Attend, participate, help out, get known.  When you get a chance to play don't showboat; do precise, well executed scenes, showing your strengths. 

Talk to people.  Not just older submissive women, but everyone.  Seek their advice.  Modest comes off as strength and control.  Arrogance, particularly in one as young as yourself, simply makes you look foolish.



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