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agirl -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 2:06:32 PM)
The sound you're hearing now could be your perfect M/s relationship......but you HAD that. The sound you're hearing could be the sound of a bored person. What do you REALLY want?....The same thing WITH your Master? Or are you already looking ahead to when he's no longer there? Only YOU can know if your thing with your Master is totally dead-in-the-water or whether you want him enough for it to be reconstituted. Frankly, there's going to be a degree of comfortable when you're together for years and years. I couldn't live with the edge of total newness, rawness ALL of the time.........it's fucking tiring. Fact of life...... raw dominance will become comfortable when it slides into familiar. The perfect M/s relationship of years has it's fair share of frustrations. (take it from me) How much of you wants to try with who your already with, and how much of you has given up? How much of you is ready to face uncertainty with the tuning fork of dominance. Despite all the flowery descriptions of how much this guy tickled your fancy...... he could be the next best thing or he could be what you already have ........just different place, different time. agirl

ImaginativeWhims -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:20:09 PM)
Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3

FukinTroll -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:23:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3 Thankies buddy... had a spare girl come over fer a week an been a lil preoccupied. Ya know, when ya only get'em fer a week ya got make an impression... kinda like siphoning all the gas out of the car that jus ain't ever gonna see the road again. I must admit, the North country is kinda nice, the bitter cold must make me very tolerable.

ImaginativeWhims -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:28:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3 Thankies buddy... had a spare girl come over fer a week an been a lil preoccupied. Ya know, when ya only get'em fer a week ya got make an impression... kinda like siphoning all the gas out of the car that jus ain't ever gonna see the road again. I must admit, the North country is kinda nice, the bitter cold must make me very tolerable. If you didn't stuff her and mount her over the fireplace you didn't make much an impression. Just sayin.

FukinTroll -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:30:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims If you didn't stuff her and mount her Just sayin. points at my nic I offer no illusions. I do cook very well.

kalikshama -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:32:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Eclipse, I wasn't blunt enough. My eyes glazed over shortly after I started reading your post. If you talk the way you write, I bet that your man is tuning you out. Agreed

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 4:55:54 PM)
we have several other forum members who type similarly; i don't see a problem with it. people often go through phases of "comfortable" and not. especially after many years. you just have to find a way to bring the intimacy back -- if that's what you're interested in doing. this new guy might just be some shiny new thing that makes you feel NRE -- "new relationship energy" can usually always shove "old relationship energy" out of the way BECAUSE it's new, it's shiny, it's surprising, blah blah blah but you need to take an objective look at what you have now. are you really being honest about how drab it is, or does it only seem that way because there's a guy in a bright red suit on the scene? have you gotten involved with this guy already? some of the more verbose bits of your post make it difficult to tell what's going on, but if you've already gotten involved with him, you could be risking stability, when he flies away on his magic carpet. be HONEST with yourself first -- is your old relationship really that bad, or are you just not investing yourself in it as much as you could? have you talked about the "comfortability" that you're experiencing? have you tried to find ways to reinvigorate the relationship? if you have and you are really miserable, it might be time to move on. but you have to really be honest with yourself first.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 5:41:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3 Oh, oh, so now you like him more than me. Whatever, the bromance is off.

0ldhen -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 6:10:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3 Oh, oh, so now you like him more than me. Whatever, the bromance is off. Perhaps a man date then?

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 6:13:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Damnit FT, I KNEW, the second I read her last line, that you or Nocturnal would do that. I KNEW it. This place hasn't been the same the last few days without you. <3 Oh, oh, so now you like him more than me. Whatever, the bromance is off. Perhaps a man date then? Only if I can ride your motorcycle.

angelikaJ -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 6:48:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: suddeneclipse I have it. The perfect M/s relatipnship. The kind that makes others stare in wishful awe. Well, at least that is what is seen from the outside looking in. Inside of here the view is much different. Much. Oh, there was a time when I too believed in it's perfection. That time is long gone and has been for some time now. We both know it but we are in a place where comfort is far less complicated than change. Don't misunderstand, there IS love. But there is no more intimacy, no more touch, no more passion. There is something that feels more like a commmitment turned to resignation. A recent chance encounter and a completely innocent one at that, has awakened a part of my soul I had given last rites to. I accidently ran into Dominance in it's purest form. The moment I was in his presence I began to feel his energy. It was as though he was a tuning fork and I could not help but feel the vibrations emanating from him. Then I heard the noise,low and gutteral. Surely no one else could hear it for it was not a sound he was conciously making. But I could. Like the bass from a subwoofer it reverberated through me. It has taken me to a place that is more raw and primal than any I have ever known. In that moment I knew with crystal clear clarity that I will never again be content with comfortable, for comfortable will extinguish the flame that burns inside me. It very nearly did. I am not a young woman and I have lived a full life and known great love. I have also at times faced great fear. No fear I have ever encountered can possibly compare with the fear that now confronts me. The fear that I may never again have the opportunity to feel such an energy or hear such a sound. Not having touch, intimacy, passion... in a relationship that had been perfect in the past. There is choice involved in that... on both sides. Why is that choice being made on both sides? Do you know? As for perfection, I have found real is much better than perfect. The problem with real is that it is messy. Real is hard. "Perfection" is an illusion. Perhaps you've been awakened after a long sleep. What are you going to do about it... how are you going to engage with your M?

OsideGirl -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 6:53:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen I thought it was a beautifully expressive post. Sounded to me like someone in pain and confusion. Yes, but that doesn't mean that Steven's point of view from male half isn't valid. Master once told me, "Think of me like a dog. I hear 'Daddy' blah blah blah cookie blah blah blah play blah blah blah." Keep it simple and concise.

0ldhen -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 7:50:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker Only if I can ride your motorcycle. Bro rule # 9799 Bros do not ask to borrow each other rides.

ImaginativeWhims -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 10:19:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker Only if I can ride your motorcycle. Bro rule # 9799 Bros do not ask to borrow each other rides. Wait wait.. that was abolished in 2007 when I gave the girl I was dating to my best friend.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Blindsided (2/23/2011 10:20:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims Wait wait.. that was abolished in 2007 when I gave the girl I was dating to my best friend. wooooooooooooooooooooooow........... =p nice.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Blindsided (2/24/2011 7:12:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ quote: ORIGINAL: suddeneclipse I have it. The perfect M/s relatipnship. The kind that makes others stare in wishful awe. Well, at least that is what is seen from the outside looking in. Inside of here the view is much different. Much. Oh, there was a time when I too believed in it's perfection. That time is long gone and has been for some time now. We both know it but we are in a place where comfort is far less complicated than change. Don't misunderstand, there IS love. But there is no more intimacy, no more touch, no more passion. There is something that feels more like a commmitment turned to resignation. A recent chance encounter and a completely innocent one at that, has awakened a part of my soul I had given last rites to. I accidently ran into Dominance in it's purest form. The moment I was in his presence I began to feel his energy. It was as though he was a tuning fork and I could not help but feel the vibrations emanating from him. Then I heard the noise,low and gutteral. Surely no one else could hear it for it was not a sound he was conciously making. But I could. Like the bass from a subwoofer it reverberated through me. It has taken me to a place that is more raw and primal than any I have ever known. In that moment I knew with crystal clear clarity that I will never again be content with comfortable, for comfortable will extinguish the flame that burns inside me. It very nearly did. I am not a young woman and I have lived a full life and known great love. I have also at times faced great fear. No fear I have ever encountered can possibly compare with the fear that now confronts me. The fear that I may never again have the opportunity to feel such an energy or hear such a sound. Not having touch, intimacy, passion... in a relationship that had been perfect in the past. There is choice involved in that... on both sides. Why is that choice being made on both sides? Do you know? As for perfection, I have found real is much better than perfect. The problem with real is that it is messy. Real is hard. "Perfection" is an illusion.Perhaps you've been awakened after a long sleep. What are you going to do about it... how are you going to engage with your M? Personally, I think the above goes perfect with some of the other posts that have been made on here, especially the bold part. Nice post, angelika...[:)]

January -> RE: Blindsided (2/24/2011 10:59:02 AM)
FR quote: In that moment I knew with crystal clear clarity that I will never again be content with comfortable, for comfortable will extinguish the flame that burns inside me. It very nearly did. As literate and lovely as the OP's writing is, it reads like somebody rationalizing cheating. A literate cheater is still a cheater. January

sunshinemiss -> RE: Blindsided (2/24/2011 2:47:54 PM)
Sunny Quote of the Day goes to Madame4a [sm=cute.gif] for The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence because the cows poop there.

Prinsexx -> RE: Blindsided (2/24/2011 3:06:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: suddeneclipse I have it. The perfect M/s relatipnship. The kind that makes others stare in wishful awe. Well, at least that is what is seen from the outside looking in. Inside of here the view is much different. Much. Oh, there was a time when I too believed in it's perfection. That time is long gone and has been for some time now. We both know it but we are in a place where comfort is far less complicated than change. Don't misunderstand, there IS love. But there is no more intimacy, no more touch, no more passion. There is something that feels more like a commmitment turned to resignation. A recent chance encounter and a completely innocent one at that, has awakened a part of my soul I had given last rites to. I accidently ran into Dominance in it's purest form. The moment I was in his presence I began to feel his energy. It was as though he was a tuning fork and I could not help but feel the vibrations emanating from him. Then I heard the noise,low and gutteral. Surely no one else could hear it for it was not a sound he was conciously making. But I could. Like the bass from a subwoofer it reverberated through me. It has taken me to a place that is more raw and primal than any I have ever known. In that moment I knew with crystal clear clarity that I will never again be content with comfortable, for comfortable will extinguish the flame that burns inside me. It very nearly did. I am not a young woman and I have lived a full life and known great love. I have also at times faced great fear. No fear I have ever encountered can possibly compare with the fear that now confronts me. The fear that I may never again have the opportunity to feel such an energy or hear such a sound. The fatal flaw in your reasoning is that you trap yourself with attempting to do the future with your past. In other words you are taking one step forward and two steps back. It's a totally self-defeating personal logic. The result of this logic (when you read again what you have said) is that you set up this personal logic in such a convincing way that you believe any agreement with it validates it. There's no way that two plus two equals three. It is desperately self-effacing. And your age is a result of your thinking not a date on a calendar.

Madame4a -> RE: Blindsided (2/25/2011 9:50:29 AM)
I'm humbled... thank you...

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