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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: 0ldhen

I thought it was a beautifully expressive post. Sounded to me like someone in pain and confusion.

Yes, but that doesn't mean that Steven's point of view from male half isn't valid.

Master once told me, "Think of me like a dog. I hear 'Daddy' blah blah blah cookie blah blah blah play blah blah blah." Keep it simple and concise.

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ORIGINAL: suddeneclipse

I have it. The perfect M/s relatipnship. The kind that makes others stare in wishful awe. Well, at least that is what is seen from the outside looking in. Inside of here the view is much different. Much.

Oh, there was a time when I too believed in it's perfection. That time is long gone and has been for some time now. We both know it but we are in a place where comfort is far less complicated than change. Don't misunderstand, there IS love. But there is no more intimacy, no more touch, no more passion. There is something that feels more like a commmitment turned to resignation.

A recent chance encounter and a completely innocent one at that, has awakened a part of my soul I had given last rites to. I accidently ran into Dominance in it's purest form. The moment I was in his presence I began to feel his energy. It was as though he was a tuning fork and I could not help but feel the vibrations emanating from him. Then I heard the noise,low and gutteral. Surely no one else could hear it for it was not a sound he was conciously making. But I could. Like the bass from a subwoofer it reverberated through me. It has taken me to a place that is more raw and primal than any I have ever known.


In that moment I knew with crystal clear clarity that I will never again be content with comfortable, for comfortable will extinguish the flame that burns inside me. It very nearly did.

I am not a young woman and I have lived a full life and known great love. I have also at times faced great fear. No fear I have ever encountered can possibly compare with the fear that now confronts me. The fear that I may never again have the opportunity to feel such an energy or hear such a sound.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Okay.  I need to weigh in here again.  Her post could have been stated as "I have had a great relationship.  But now it's just comfortable.  I felt Dominant vibrations again from another man and it just felt wonderful."

I have a particular trigger with florid, indirect verbiage, and I apologize for it.  That said, it's there, and it's not going away.  My ex wife used to talk at length about her feelings on an issue that could be resolved quickly.  She would focus on her feelings and not on resolving the problem.  She was happier with a relationship with problems, which she could describe to me, than a relationship in which both parties were actively working to resolve them.  I found it frustrating to try to understand her feelings without first knowing why she had them.

It sounds like eclipse had grown used to a relationship with no sex, no touch, and according to her was content with that until she ran across another Dom.  She talked about how she will not settle again.  It sounds to me like she's planning to cheat and is floridly justifying her intent.

eclipse, if you're listening - try to salvage the relationship you have,  I suggest a Marriage Encounter. They're specifically designed to rejuvenate stagnant relationships and work on communication skills.

Oh, and Awareness?  Are you suggesting that women are incapable of direct communication?  I've known quite a few that were, some better than I am.

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I agree that "serial monogamy" is not the best thing.

When people are possessive and monogamous then there will always be the "forbidden fruit", the greener grass on the other side of the fence.

When people are polygamous and not so possessive, then the over the fence grass is always available and not so green and you start to notice the cow poop.

I was not aware that monogamy meant you were possessive, thanks for enlightening us.

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence because the cows poop there.

Be careful, its possible the relationship you are in started the same way.  Relationships change, and yes, they become more comfortable and yes, sometimes the electricity and spark changes...

having once been a serial monogamist -- moving to the next exciting spark when the other one dimmed -- I can tell you, in the long run, its not the best thing.

I'd give it a chance though, your current relationship, not sure how long you've been together but do talk; its probably worth it.
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I agree that "serial monogamy" is not the best thing.

When people are possessive and monogamous then there will always be the "forbidden fruit", the greener grass on the other side of the fence.

When people are polygamous and not so possessive, then the over the fence grass is always available and not so green and you start to notice the cow poop.

I disagree. This just makes it acceptable to keep bringing home new cows to scratch your itch and clean up cow poop, instead of taking care of the cow.....and poop.....that you already have.

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I agree that "serial monogamy" is not the best thing.

When people are possessive and monogamous then there will always be the "forbidden fruit", the greener grass on the other side of the fence.

When people are polygamous and not so possessive, then the over the fence grass is always available and not so green and you start to notice the cow poop.

I disagree. This just makes it acceptable to keep bringing home new cows to scratch your itch and clean up cow poop, instead of taking care of the cow.....and poop.....that you already have.

For me polygamy means more of taking care of the ones that I collected while being "serially monogamous" than of bringing home new ones.

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For me polygamy means more of taking care of the ones that I collected while being "serially monogamous" than of bringing home new ones.

marsman,
I am quite certain you are confusing terms:
polygamy is illegal in the US (and elsewhere).
Being polyamorous is something entirely different.

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marsman,
I am quite certain you are confusing terms:
polygamy is illegal in the US (and elsewhere).
Being polyamorous is something entirely different.

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ORIGINAL: strangedesire
Wait, so if a woman can communicate her needs directly, it's like having sex with a man, and therefore undesirable?

*wanders off, mumbling about rape culture*

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ORIGINAL: ImaginativeWhims

WAAAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIIIIT A MINUTE.

I'm not sure what little sandbox you're trying to peek out of here, but this is a very closed-minded statement. A woman decides to make her responses more clear, concise, and to the point.... and suddenly she's dudely?

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I'm sorry, I couldn't even agree with this if I was drunk.. and I'm a very agreeable slosh.

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Look at what I bolded. Now look at it once more. Take about 10 seconds to reread it just one last time:

Every time I'm looking over a woman's mons and up into her eyes with a mouthful of ... well anyway... I don't think that people today have any issue enjoying and celebrating the difference in genders.

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Sex is entirely too much fun. If you try to tell me that sex isn't enjoying different genders, you're going to set a fire you won't be able to put out.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness
Dude, if you think sex is sticking your cock inside a vagina as fast as possible then you probably don't care about the nature of the woman attached to the vagina in question.  You'll have to consider the possibility that some people may just be a tad more sophisticated in their tastes.